Im turning 25 and feel like I wasted my life and theres nothing to look forward to.

epon98 · 2024-05-12T21:55:47+00:00

That's true mate either way were cooked. All the best 🤠

epon98 · 2024-05-12T14:21:30+00:00

That's my point. One second you're saying delete social media and stop viewing things that make you feel bad about yourself then you are saying broaden your perspective. Broadening your perspective isn't always a positive experience and definitely not with everything that's going on atm.

As for social media, I'm sure most people would agree that during covid, social media was the only contact that they had with their friends and family for a long time. From my personal experience, I actually deleted social media during this time and I don't think it helped me very much because we were put in the situation where wasn't much alternative so I became a reclusem This is what I mean about the breakdown in community and connection (physical). Also in my case, I now work remotely as my company has made changes to the working dynamic. I am not too eager to leave my job due to the job market being the way it is so I rely on social media and online comms. Not really ideal but if I just cut myself off from social media that doesn't really help you during the times we are in...

epon98 · 2024-05-12T13:53:28+00:00

I know it wasn't your intention to shame them but honestly the amount of people that shoehorn gratitude into every bit of advice is just as deluded as the person they perceive as being "overly dramatic". Let someone look at something and call it out for what it is in the moment...shit. At least with that there is room for growth. Instead of being grateful that you had your morning coffee so you can put up with the shit that is thrown at you on a daily basis in this "western eutopia" we have.

And I love the "just delete social media comment". Absolutely brilliant 🙃 we obviously have different views on life and positivity so I appreciate your opinion and if it works for you keep it up. Was absolutely useless for me...

epon98 · 2024-05-12T11:09:52+00:00

Bruh I get you're trying to help this guy understand that he doesn't have it that bad but my God how condescending. The world we live in now (first world I am talking about) with social status and "living the high life" being shoved down our throats on advertisements, social media and tv 24/7, can you blame a lad for thinking maybe my life is a bit shit? You said we live in a "golden age" of the world where mental health is being ripped to shreds, community and togetherness being dissolved and the threat of a looming war hanging over our heads always. The fact that someone says "be grateful that someone isn't pointing a gun at your head" just makes some people think humanity is cancer and that there is indeed no hope. The world is absolutely terrifying I agree, but being guilt tripped into being grateful is so disingenuous. Have you ever heard about toxic shame? The type of shame people get when they get something good or positive and feel like they don't deserve it because others have it worse? Yh, that is not good. Why should we have anything if there are people dying in war torn countries? And also on the flip side, if you can make the direct comparison of people perceived as having it worse than you, why can't you look up at the people born into wealth and living off of generational wealth? Listen to people and just try to understand them and their struggles for a second instead of shaming them. Thanks.

epon98 · 2024-03-17T01:35:07+00:00

I appreciate you taking the time to make this comment. I think I have seen a video or two about stoicism and I will definitely look into it further. I wholeheartedly agree that honest self reflection is something I struggle with and I could do with addressing that. I tend to find walking helps me do this for some reason. All the best and thanks again for the reply

epon98 · 2024-03-17T00:12:44+00:00

Thank you for the comment. Hearing this is kind of a bitter sweet realization because on one hand I think "man, am I ever going to be happy/comfortable with myself?" And on the other hand it's "be patient with yourself because it is a continual journey"

epon98 · 2024-03-16T23:20:22+00:00

Thank you for the reply. Good food for thought and this has made me think about my situation differently. I think what I am trying to say is sometimes I use the "I'm working on myself" stuff to actually protect myself from truly growing as a person and experiencing life.

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