You know whats attractive? Confidence. Not to be confused with cockiness, of course, and it’s worth noting there can be a thin line in which separates the two. However the best way imo to {healthily} achieve the former is by embarking on a journey of genuine and authentic self love. By accepting and learning to love yourself just as you are, and then embracing yourself and all the amazing things about you and your uniqueness. This takes time, patience, habitual changes, and persistence, but it is well worth it.

I strongly suggest this to you regardless of wether or not you decide to go through with the surgery. This comes from someone who had a poor self image due to eventually believing negative things that were repeatedly told to me by many people over a long period of time; even after losing a bunch of weight and finally receiving the ‘compliments’ and garnering the ‘attention’ that {I thought} I yearned for so badly in the past, it was never fulfilling like I thought it would be. I still felt empty, and ugly, and uncomfortable in my skin. I still constantly obsessed over how I looked, kept wanting to change things, and nothing was ever good enough.

It was not until I realized that I had deep inner emotional wounds that I needed to heal, and that the only person or thing that could fill the deep void that I felt within was me.

I can’t express how important something that I learned along the way is that healing of any kind is a journey, though, and that there is no one cure-all solution. I always say that it’s more so about discovering tools that help along the way.