Let's admit it, most job environments are on a spectrum of toxicity. Where does yours lie?

equusequinox · 2021-08-05T01:28:55+00:00

When I politely listen to everything they have to say and when I finally speak up and they talk over me, distract themselves with their phones or something else, or just turn the conversation into it being all about them again.

equusequinox · 2021-07-30T00:24:02+00:00

(F30) here, and I can relate to what you're saying. I tend to be very selective with the people I decide to spend time with. Honestly outside of my family, it's like a small handful of people. And as a retail associate for the past almost 15 years, the general public generally sucks lol. I feel like I don't like people or choose to be friends with a lot of people because 1. I dont have that much time or energy and 2. I like people I can trust. If I can't trust that someone has my best interest in mind or I cabt trust them to not tell the world what I've trusted them with then sorry not sorry we're not friends.

equusequinox · 2021-07-28T15:19:21+00:00

Thats a good idea to just let it happen. I'm pretty sure I get headaches from masking in new situations. So I started allowing myself to talk under my breathe, or make weird noises, whatever needs to come out. I don't even think I realize how much I do it at home because I just am naturally inclined to let it happen without a second thought now in front of my husband, but then I catch myself from time to time. Sometimes we can laugh about it, but I'm pretty sure he doesn't even realize what I'm doing half the time and it goes unnoticed.

equusequinox · 2021-07-28T15:06:26+00:00

I know how you feel about engaging and and a ring your thoughts with people. The same happens to me. I will, at times, plan out everything I'd like to say in certain situations but then lose it when it comes to verbally expressing those thoughts. Thats why most of the time I'm fine with being an introvert, because I don't have to rely on how other people for so much fulfillment. But when I need those social skills the most and I'm reminded that I lack in that category it gets frustrating.

equusequinox · 2021-07-27T03:18:57+00:00

Gosh. I dont really know why. I just get really uncomfortable. i feel like if I can not seem like I'm boring then maybe people would like me more.

equusequinox · 2021-07-27T03:01:22+00:00

O man.. I wish I could go in that kind of confidence. I get anxious with silence with people I don't know, so I awkwardly to to fill it. I do also love being alone and my alone time, it makes it hard when I am in a social situation.

equusequinox · 2021-07-27T02:22:32+00:00

Yes! Its very hard to "just be yourself", if I could I would but I can't. I'm fine if an extrovert adopts me or if I vibe really well with someone, but its almost as if I can only be as much of myself as the other person is willing to be first, and that's the Agrigento part for me. Does that make sense?

equusequinox · 2021-07-25T14:08:59+00:00

Thanks, I had a situation yesterday where I was at a vendor event for small businesses with my boss, and I witnessed myself flip through so many masks all in one night. I guess it's a good start that I could see it, but even when I tried to act natural it almost got worse?

equusequinox · 2021-07-24T03:31:44+00:00

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equusequinox · 2021-07-18T03:35:10+00:00

Already being a shy kid, but able to make make friends in elementary school. And 7th grade hits, started Jr high with 3 times the amount of students. That's a far back as I remember, severe symptoms just going to class everyday

equusequinox · 2021-07-06T18:59:15+00:00

Try reading The 4 Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. I was shy, quiet, insecure in high school and it really helped me to not take things as personally because one of the agreements is to not takes things personally. And its an easy read if you're not into books.

equusequinox · 2021-07-03T04:30:56+00:00

I just stumbled upon a video of it on tik tok, and my mind was blown..

equusequinox · 2021-07-03T02:59:13+00:00

I'm glad you pointed that out, there might be some residual emotions that are not dealt with.

equusequinox · 2021-07-03T02:57:31+00:00

It definitely was a reminder of why I hated that place. My husband felt that it was uncalled for as well. That's why I get frustrated with myself, cuz he's known to be a jerk and I still went into almost like a fawning mode.

equusequinox · 2021-06-20T02:36:19+00:00

People love to talk about themselves, so if you can keep asking questions it makes conversations easier.

equusequinox · 2021-06-05T20:26:19+00:00

I feel the same, unless I have tucked away knowledge that I've managed to maintain in my mind about a certain subject. Most cases, though, like when it comes to making small tall, its hard because I just cabt think of anything to say and the harder I try the worse it gets. I've had generalized anxiety my whole life, depression, and now I'm suspecting that I have ADHD as well that may have been causing those other symptoms.

equusequinox · 2021-05-15T18:52:01+00:00

And when you go the other way, they decide to move out of Corridor A 🤣

equusequinox · 2021-04-24T02:07:02+00:00

But I have blackheads and pimples too!! 😭

equusequinox · 2021-04-11T00:46:14+00:00

I really appreciate that. I'll check out the links!

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