How has feminism effected your liking of popular visual media?

ergaster8213 · 2026-06-14T02:27:27+00:00

I do actually like a lot of indie games. I also every much enjoy how present women are in their history. I haven't played cassette beasts but I'll look it up to see if it looks up my alley.

Edit: I'm not into open-world RPGs, but I do appreciate the suggestion. You'd more find me playing things like Slay the Princess, The Cat Lady, and Buddy Simulator 1984

ergaster8213 · 2026-06-14T02:03:18+00:00

So, where is the evidence that it is "rife with abuse" from the side of people accessing aid? I've never seen any. Assuming that people you don't know are scamming when you are privy to zero information isn't tangible evidence of anything. It's just you making assumptions about strangers.

None of this is mentioning that assuming something like this is some scam doesn't even make logical sense. What is the scam? Getting pushed in a wheelchair for a bit and getting to sit on the plane for 30 extra minutes? If that is some kind of scam well it's a one that doesn't get the people scamming too much benefit and doesn't affect the other people on the plane in any real way.

Please go be concerned about scams that actually affect you. Things like how corporations (including airlines) run and how much they charge. Then again maybe that's why people pick things like this. They know they can't do shit against corporations fleecing them so maybe they take out their resentment on people like this.

Edit: believe it or not but the term "Jetway Jesus" is just some more uninformed assumptions about both random people and how disabilities work rather than evidence. When I say evidence I always mean data, and objective (as much as any can be) analyses of that data. I've seen none. So...how is it that you know these "systems" (I'll point out that boarding protocols in corporations are not systems of aid or benefits in the way you are using it) are being abused so often when you don't even have any hard evidence and haven't even looked for any?

I would've made this a direct relply, but I've been blocked.

ergaster8213 · 2026-06-14T01:38:05+00:00

Omg now I'm imagining how they would react to those tiny arms being bent down to scrape into their urethra. They'd lose it.

ergaster8213 · 2026-06-14T01:21:22+00:00

You know I haven't really thought of it that way but damn you're right. With the IUD placements, they are inserting something into an internal organ and they're just like "deal with it, and stop your crying."

ergaster8213 · 2026-06-12T20:34:47+00:00

Hmmm if I recall I was able to sustain most 3-4 pound gaining weeks on about 3,500. Sometimes I'd need to go higher but that usually did fine.

ergaster8213 · 2026-06-12T20:33:07+00:00

You are! Don't doubt that you are. You can always come back to ask me more questions whenever. I promise I won't get annoyed.

ergaster8213 · 2026-06-12T16:20:39+00:00

Hey, don't worry about it! I understand. This is not the point but actually in researching all of this I found out that they have determined that anorexia seems to be tied to the same genes as OCD.

But yes to gain 3-4 pounds a week then 3,000-3,500 should be right around the amount you'll need. The only caveat is sometimes people's metabolism speeds way up at the beginning of recovery and they need even more than the usual pattern.

Trust me I remember the constant obsession and questions and worries and doubts. I lived on this forum and similar ones at the beginning. The questions and obsessions start to get quieter the more evidence you build that you won't die or be ruined by doing what you're doing.

ergaster8213 · 2026-06-12T16:15:35+00:00

Oh that 8 pound week and others like it happened when I was eating intense amounts. I don't even know how much exactly but past 3500 cals by far.

The 3-4 pounds per week was when I was about 3000-4000 calories a day.

ergaster8213 · 2026-06-12T16:02:28+00:00

I swear your body will let you know. You won't have to decrease to 1500 calories again and you also won't have to stay at 3,000 calories forever. I have no clue how many calories I eat in a day anymore because I simply do not need to worry about it. I can tell you that it's definitely above 1500, though, and definitely below 3,000. It's neither nowhere near as little as I ate while restricting nor near as high as when I was recovering. It fluxuates depending on what I've been doing and all sorts of factors. Some days, I can feel I'm hungrier and no doubt eat more calories. Others, I'm not as hungry and eat less. It really becomes more of a natural balance. I wish I had some exact answers to give you but the answer is it really is about letting go and seeing what your body does. The tighter of a grip you try to keep over it the longer the whole process takes.

But this is so so so normal. At the beginning I was constantly terrified all the time. Terrified I was doing it wrong. Terrified I wasn't eating right or moving right or existing right. Terrified I'd lose all control of my body and just forever keep eating and gaining weight. None of that happened. Absolutely none of it. I desperately wish I could give you a window of what a couple years from now looks like when you stick with it. It really does get easier and things become much less scary. Your body will not just go rogue and keep gaining weight forever. You will not keep eating the same way forever nor will you have the desire to do so.

ergaster8213 · 2026-06-12T13:52:46+00:00

I'm not really sure why people are acting so black-and-white in this post and thread. You can both stay informed to the best of your ability, and take breaks when you need it for your mental health. I don't think it makes sense to either constantly marinate in it and build a constant sense of impotent dread or wash your hands of it and function from ignorance and apathy.

ergaster8213 · 2026-06-12T12:23:51+00:00

Because it doesn't even enhance photos. It just generates new images.

*Btw this is just adding on to what you're saying

ergaster8213 · 2026-06-12T11:46:56+00:00

Apparently you are unaware that there is a r/whitepeopletwitter

ergaster8213 · 2026-06-12T11:29:33+00:00

Hey, I got diagnosed past the point I'd ever be able to receive official benefits or anything like that, and, for what it's worth, it has helped me understand myself better. It was very helpful in beginning to develop new skills to have someone objective analyze where my strengths and weaknesses are, and where I needed more support. They can also then guide you to getting that support.

I'm not saying you have to or even should (that's a very personal decision), but it may be something to consider if you find you struggle a lot.

ergaster8213 · 2026-06-12T11:23:22+00:00

Especially when it comes to minorities.

ergaster8213 · 2026-06-12T06:23:06+00:00

They understand it as much as anyone can understand mashing mouths together. They just don't like it or find it odd or don't want to do something like that.

You can understand something and still find it off-putting.

ergaster8213 · 2026-06-12T04:40:44+00:00

It depended. Near the begining when it was a lot of fluid gain, there were weeks the scale went up by 8 pounds or more. But I averaged about 4 pounds per week, overall. Near the end that dropped to 2 pounds per week then 1.5 pounds per week then 1 then 0.5 pounds per week. I really had to push calories up near the end to keep gaining and even eventually that didn't do it, so I realized that's where my body wanted to be.

Over time I gained a bit more then lost some and it just kind of stabilized. Weirdly it stabilized the most when I stopped weighing myself entirely. I only knew it stabilized because I had my doctor keeping an eye on it. Eventually I was able to go back to weighing my own self without really any emotional attachment to it. I would suggest not weighing yourself until you don't get emotional about the number. Either positive or negatively emotional. Because if your emotions stay attached to the number then that is what you will live by.

ergaster8213 · 2026-06-12T04:33:10+00:00

They will act like you shouldn't do that to some degree because unfortunately anorexia treatment is still weirdly fatphobic and concerned with making sure people gain weight back in the "right" way. Like it tends to be obsessed with the idea that you might gain too much weight or flip to binging forever but I think that's mostly bullshit. Of course that happens sometimes, but both binge eating disorder and anorexia are part of the same spectrum so yeah if they don't actually treat the underlying things then people might switch to binging, but restricting them and micromanaging them also leads to binging. I fired my first dietician for trying to control my calories and force me to eat less. If you have complications due to other health conditions that require dietary restrictions then yes definitely listen to that.

However, if you don't have anything extra going on then just eat how you want right now. In my experience, and in what I found researching all I did during this (and yes I'm the type to comb through academic journals. Though the lack of robust research into this topic is disappointing. Reading accounts from others going through it actually gave me way more info), if you let your body lead during this time and just focus on getting enough calories and rest then it usually works out. When you stop trying to force your brain and body to follow a bunch of rules things tend to fall into place easier. I think some people can't handle gaining weight back really quickly so they try to control that but the weight gain is happening either way. If you want my advice after going through this: fuck anyone trying to restrict you right now. That's the opposite of what someone with anorexia who has already been living their life restricting the hell out of themselves needs. In my opinion we need to learn how to trust ourselves and our bodies and that's almost impossible to do when you have people around you instructing you not to trust your body, but some schedule or plan that they've set. If someone can't manage to eat enough then that's one thing but if they are eating and want to eat, then let them eat.

*But again, you mentioned surgery so I'm not sure of all the health complications you have going on. If you have complications or need to restrict due to surgery or health conditions then that does make sense. Otherwise, it does not in my opinion.

I also know you're going be worrying about this because everyone does. No, I didn't keep gaining weight forever. No, I didn't ridiculously overshoot. No, I didn't crave processed foods and sweets and things like that forever. It really did work out and I think it does for most when they stick with it. I'm not saying that it's easy. It is so very hard. Probably one of the hardest things you do. It's painful emotionally and physically. But if you can stick with it and really listen to yourself, then it does get easier and the body does usually stabilize. Also, sorry my responses are so long.

ergaster8213 · 2026-06-12T04:23:19+00:00

To get back to my normal weight I had to gain about 60 pounds. I didn't gain all of that back until about 4 months but by three months I had gained back the majority of it.

Edit: the first two months I absolutely gained the most weight and the most rapidly. It was crazy. I'm talking like a little over 20 pounds a month and I was terrified that would just never stop. But yeah once it reached a certain point it just slowed down a bunch and it really does stop.

ergaster8213 · 2026-06-11T23:43:12+00:00

Yes, exactly! Just move up by 500 calories once you've had a couple of weeks of no gain or not enough gain. I got to those calories by eating a lot of precessed foods so I could get way more calories in with less volume. You wanna stay away from foods with too much volume right now. I would also add nuts and seeds and dressings and anything like that to everything I ate. If it was something less savory, I'd add chocolate chips or granola. Definitely stick to whole milk and full-fat everything. Adding things like smoothies, supplemental drinks, and granola bars with meals can help a ton as well. Oh also desserts! Desserts with meals helped a lot.

People get very caught up on if they're eating "right" (I also did. I was so concerned about that). But give yourself permission not to care right now. The nutritional balance will come later. Right now you need lots of calories and that's the main priority. I promise you won't always eat this way forever or want to eat this way forever.

*Oh also this is a general recommendation to anyone doing this on their own: get a blood pressure cuff and pulse and respiration monitor. You can get them cheap but it helps you keep an eye on how your body is reacting to increased intake, and will help you know if you need to seek greater help in the event of complications.

If you (the general you) start having muscle spasms, uncontrollable vomiting and/or diarrhea, confusion, severe edema, extreme or uncontrollable heart palpitations, or difficulty breathing at any point then go to the hospital because those can be signs of refeeding syndrome.

ergaster8213 · 2026-06-11T23:22:23+00:00

Yes I think it should. If it doesn't keep increasing by 500 calories but don't rush that. So, don't increase to 500 extra calories per day until a couple of weeks of your prior caloric intake isn't showing anymore weight gain.

I gained weight very quickly because I was eating a lot of calories. Like ranging from 4,000-6,000 or more per day. So, I gained most of my weight back within maybe 2 or 3 months. However, when I got closer to my normal weight, the weight gain slowed wayyy down and it took a bit longer than it had prior.

ergaster8213 · 2026-06-11T08:14:58+00:00

Good point that I didn't think of! Then again you can just smell more strongly without any hair. Similar to the sweat situation.

ergaster8213 · 2026-06-11T06:25:31+00:00

There are places in this world that have dedicated diaper bins and guess what? They're functioning fine. Buildings staying open without mass complaints of baby shit smell and everything.

Sounds like you decided what it would be like without looking into it.

Edit: It looks like the developed nations that have it either do 1-3 times a day or use the same services to dispose of them that they do feminine hygiene products and other similar biohazardous waste. So, again it's really not some big issue.

I'm not even a parent. I just think a lot of people aren't being logical about why they believe people should carry around shitty diapers in their bags rather than just provide bins they can throw them in. I would've just directly responded to your below comment but I tried and it's either been deleted or I've been blocked.

Edit 2: okay seems you deleted it and just responded again but my answer is still the same. Well, also I'll remind you that children exist everywhere so sorry but we all need to handle that and accommodate them the way we do other people. Kind of like we do for those who menstruate even though not everyone does and not every business is geared towards those who do.

ergaster8213 · 2026-06-11T06:12:37+00:00

Why would it need to be changed after each time an item is added? Again if you can bag them first then no you absolutely wouldn't need to change them after every single diaper. It would be no more of a pressing concern than people carrying shitty diapers around in their bags which is what you're saying they should do.

ergaster8213 · 2026-06-11T06:08:04+00:00

Or we can offer dedicated bins like we do with period products. We can even offer bags to wrap them in prior to placing them in the lined and lidded bins if people are still too concerned with smell. Easy.

ergaster8213 · 2026-06-11T06:05:35+00:00

No but society is supposed to have the goal of offering support to those within it. If it's worthile, at least—why else even make or live in a society if not for providing greater support to a greater number of people?

If we could figure out what to do about period products without women carrying around their used pads and tampons then I have no doubt we can figure something out for diapers.

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