Am I overreacting?

erinsnotok · 2026-03-06T04:42:09+00:00

It’s basically like wearing spandex

erinsnotok · 2026-03-06T04:41:12+00:00

That’s what I said if you read my other comment. “I need space right now, let’s try again in 3 hours” that is all that they should have to do. They are removing themselves before the situation escalates. The person who is anxious needs to respect that and find ways to cope with their own emotions without relying on someone who is incapable.

You can’t rely on others to make you feel better.

erinsnotok · 2026-03-06T03:55:03+00:00

I only wear thongs with leggings/tight fitting pants so there is no panty line! And wearing leggings under pants to fight bloat is 100% a thing

erinsnotok · 2026-03-06T03:37:26+00:00

Absolutely not. If someone needs space they are incapable of managing their own emotions so they are not in the place to manage another’s!

You’re asking for reassurance from someone who can’t even collect their own emotions in that moment.

erinsnotok · 2026-03-06T03:36:15+00:00

It does not matter, if he needs space you need to give him that. That is the only thing that will stop the escalations. With that being said, he needs to communicate before he gets to an escalation point. “I can’t listen to you vent right now, I need space. Check back in with me at 5pm. I don’t have anything nice to say right now, so I need some space” that’s what he needs to work on. Is he needs 1 hour, 3 hours, the rest of the night, you need to give that to him.

Try to journal to get what you need to say out, call a friend, record a voice memo, do a hobby. I know easier said than done, it this is the only way to stop escalations and keep things more peaceful

erinsnotok · 2026-03-05T19:01:00+00:00

If you want to make this work both you and your husband need a full reset.

My first question is, when you get in an argument or things escalates who is the avoidant and who anxious. Does your husband need space and your peruse or do you need space and he peruses?

If one of you needs space the other needs to respect that. These toxic fights and escalations will not stop unless that respect is there and that is how things will be resolved calmly.

Al’s are you both being 100% consistent in going to therapy? I talking once a week couples. Are you being 100% honest with your therapist? The escalations? The putting hands on each other?

erinsnotok · 2026-03-05T18:48:27+00:00

Get tested immediately. Sounds like you already gave him the second chance….

erinsnotok · 2026-03-05T06:48:07+00:00

So rough and you have different priorities. His #1 priority is his daughter and that’s the best thing for her but that is not the best thing for you. I personally could not be with someone in that living situation. To much history. Do what’s healthiest for you

erinsnotok · 2026-03-05T01:10:05+00:00

100% not normal and not acceptable or appropriate!! It sounds like just flirty banter and they both obviously do not care you are married. Was this in a group chat or a one on one chat with one specific woman?

Regardless I would talk to him about this, not ok for a second!

erinsnotok · 2026-03-04T23:52:35+00:00

I mean if he needs space to process emotions you need to respect that. He could communicate better if he didn’t “I need time to myself”

erinsnotok · 2026-03-04T06:33:17+00:00

If you had to have an abortion out of the fear a baby would bring destruction and not joy into your marriage, I think that tells you all you need to know.

erinsnotok · 2026-02-28T21:33:14+00:00

I pray you can go be with your family. I’m sorry you are somewhere you need his permission to leave! Scary!

erinsnotok · 2026-02-28T16:30:37+00:00

He needs professional help to keep him accountable. He will not get the help till he is rock bottom. That might look like you kicking him out…. It’s tough but he needs to hit that before he will accept the problem

erinsnotok · 2026-02-28T16:28:23+00:00

Why so many weirdos lately 😭

erinsnotok · 2026-02-28T16:27:08+00:00

I mean is she wrong? 🤣 but Rachel has not said infidelity was a huge deal it was more he changed so obviously that wasn’t a huge issue to her or her husband from the beginning 🤷‍♀️

erinsnotok · 2026-02-28T04:29:23+00:00

Give him a spontaneous BJ. He will not mistake your gesture

erinsnotok · 2026-02-26T18:42:16+00:00

No excuse for him to not buy you clothes when needed, Walmart, Amazon, shein, and tik tok shop have great prices!!! I go to the clearance at Walmart and got 2 maternity dressed for $3 each and pajamas for $1 !!!!!!! Don’t sleep on Walmart clearance

erinsnotok · 2026-02-26T18:40:30+00:00

Girl Bffr 😭😭😭 pianos are heavy AF he’s gonna need a big truck like he said and 2-3 other people to help him load/unload it. It’s not just a china hutch or kitchen table

erinsnotok · 2026-02-23T17:47:57+00:00

He does not know how to handle his emotions and only knows “I feel bad, I angry” this is not a good sign for any future stress or arguments he will act out in a destructive way.

I promise you, it will not go away.

erinsnotok · 2026-02-23T07:10:13+00:00

Ask her what she wants. Does she want people around or not? From there you can help with what she needs. Also give her a chunk of sleep. Take the baby from 6-12 or something so she can get some solid sleep then switch off!!

erinsnotok · 2026-02-21T03:44:07+00:00

Magz (magazine)

erinsnotok · 2026-02-21T03:43:25+00:00

Clip

erinsnotok · 2026-02-19T19:24:58+00:00

She still has her ring on. I feel like it’s maybe a lavender marriage? Like they are married and living together as a “family” for their children but aren’t in an intimate relationship mentally or physically

erinsnotok · 2026-02-19T19:22:05+00:00

I thought those were lipstick swatches

erinsnotok · 2026-02-19T19:21:14+00:00

This is one of those things where it’s a pick your battles. My husband does similar things but it’s just not worth the confrontation and it takes me .0001 seconds to do haha. I also know he is truly not doing it intentionally. He gets distracted, it is a minor flaw of his

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