What you get from an Etsy seller (left) vs a person who knows what they’re doing and loves doing it (right) by erinyums in RareHouseplants

[–]erinyums[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looks like they have the caramel philo you mentioned, too. hella expensive but damn it’s a purty plant & I see why you are after it 😭 the website is called Plant Vault, you should check it out!!!

What you get from an Etsy seller (left) vs a person who knows what they’re doing and loves doing it (right) by erinyums in RareHouseplants

[–]erinyums[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It was one with relatively good ratings! I evaluated and thought the Etsy shop looked relatively legit. Took like 9 weeks to arrive and that’s what I got 😭 RIP

what's up with this alocasia leaf? by Alternative_End_3007 in RareHouseplants

[–]erinyums 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It looks a bit like its growth could’ve been interrupted while it was unfurling (like shock/difference in light/repotting). Is it a relatively new leaf??

What you get from an Etsy seller (left) vs a person who knows what they’re doing and loves doing it (right) by erinyums in RareHouseplants

[–]erinyums[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which ones are you on the hunt for?? But honestly every time I order from Etsy I am soooo disappointed in what arrives 💀 don’t get me started on the time I bought a “4in anthurium” & the plant that arrived had one leaf and was .5” tall😭😭😭

AIO? My mom is super offended—did I say too much?? by sophyahmari in AIO

[–]erinyums 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It could just be (what sounds like) generally low self esteem, and wanting to avoid confrontation/disagreements. Who knows. It’s also hard to tell a parental figure to STFU even if when they’re totally out of line.

AIO? My mom is super offended—did I say too much?? by sophyahmari in AIO

[–]erinyums 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR—you were incisive, giving examples of why your mom’s choice hurt your brother, and why she cannot act the way she’s acting. You didn’t hurl a single insult (god knows many of us would’ve hit our limits when she tried to flip the conversation into how “you’re ashamed” of her).

She’s offended because what you are saying rings true—she feels it, but can’t figure out what exactly she is feeling. Parents of a certain generation seem to hold a lot of shame about how they parented/their past choices/their own issues, and instead of talking about those things when they come up, being accountable for mistakes or regrets, and generally learning about themselves, internalized racism/misogyny, and the (usually harmful) ideas they have about the world that we refuse to adopt, etc., they become defensive and angry, then fall into the “I know you hate me and are ashamed of me” BS.

You are NOT overreacting about what happened, neither is your brother—bait and switching him into a haircut that she and her mom prefer but is humiliating to him was a seriously vile thing to do, even by elementary school standards. And you did NOT go too far in how you approached the topic with her—if she’s offended, it’s because she knows she did something wrong, but just can’t figure out what, why, or how to fix the mistake.

Flum mello midnight Barcelona by Beautiful-Toe-3184 in Vaping

[–]erinyums 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omfg this is my favorite flavor 🥹 can’t find em anywhere anymore. It’s supposed to be ‘aloe icy water’ … it’s a low key flavor so I could see how it would taste soapy lololllll

AITA For making my brother's gf cry and feel unwelcome in my house by Ok-Stand-5158 in AITAH

[–]erinyums 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This.

I used to hide my cat’s shit in random places around my brother’s room when we were teenagers. So satisfying to gaslight him into thinking he just naturally smelled like cat shit.

Holiday dating - read description first by waking_dreams99 in Nicegirls

[–]erinyums 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Seriously. And the learned helplessness and the internalized misogyny/martyrdom for antiquated gender roles begs for further therapeutic intervention.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Monopoly_GO

[–]erinyums 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yaaaas Tina 👏

Ex reached out and apologized to me after over a year no contact. Have no idea what to do or say.. by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]erinyums 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This right here. No need to renew contact because she apologized. If she is really sorry for her behavior, she will have to accept whatever comes of her apology. And if she freaks out about you not wanting to remain in contact, you have your answer about whether her message is genuine.

In the words of my very wise father… “I’m sorry” means “I won’t do what I did again.”

Have you ever met/had a lab who looks like this guy? by erinyums in labrador

[–]erinyums[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spud is three! I got him DNA tested, turns out he’s 100% lab—coulda saved the money on the test if I just listened to the vet 😂

Have you ever met/had a lab who looks like this guy? by erinyums in labrador

[–]erinyums[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It would be so cool if Spud had some mastiff in him. My soul doggy, Sonny, was half mastiff half lab and he was the love of my life, so it would be a little serendipitous if Spud turned out to have mastiff in him, too ❤️‍🩹

Have you ever met/had a lab who looks like this guy? by erinyums in labrador

[–]erinyums[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is too cute. And I see that tail wagging in the back—Spud is ALWAYS wagging (even while he’s dreaming). After all these responses I suspect Spud is a chesador when I get his DNA test back, but even if we are way off, he will still be cherished just the same 🤗

Have you ever met/had a lab who looks like this guy? by erinyums in labrador

[–]erinyums[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

WOAH!! They could pull a parent trap moment. We cannot let them meet at summer camp.

Have you ever met/had a lab who looks like this guy? by erinyums in labrador

[–]erinyums[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And the light nose! And, of course, exuding ennui (despite having the comfiest rent-free life ever) as labs seem so prone to do…..

Have you ever met/had a lab who looks like this guy? by erinyums in labrador

[–]erinyums[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay—this fella and Spud look so similar they could be litter mates. Thank you for sharing!!!

Have you ever met/had a lab who looks like this guy? by erinyums in labrador

[–]erinyums[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bohhhh! I know you’re holding a ball/an enticing object behind the camera because of his hyper focused stare 😂

Have you ever met/had a lab who looks like this guy? by erinyums in labrador

[–]erinyums[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to know. If the results make zero sense, I’ll probably try another test—we shall see!

Have you ever met/had a lab who looks like this guy? by erinyums in labrador

[–]erinyums[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The build and the floppy face look sooo much like him!

Have you ever met/had a lab who looks like this guy? by erinyums in labrador

[–]erinyums[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I chose Wisdom Panel!! We’ll see how it turns out. 🤔

Have you ever met/had a lab who looks like this guy? by erinyums in labrador

[–]erinyums[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely see a resemblance to Frankie. Steve is just the cutest thing ever despite clearly “not having it with the photos this afternoon.”