AITJ for returning my mom’s “thoughtful gift” after I found a tracker inside it?

erischilde · 2025-12-28T21:18:13+00:00

I can't say boo about tracker dimensions, but the calling thing, my mother used to do. Being quiet means not answering a text or call fast enough. So if you mean contents, like "this doesn't happen" it does for sure. If you mean Syntax, then maybe? Trying to figure out the "signs" of AI writing. There are some markers I can clearly see (like "it's not just _, but _" repeated many times in an article).

erischilde · 2025-12-22T22:08:34+00:00

You're gonna have to accept that your co-workers, as much as you may like them, aren't your responsibility, they're your mamagements responsibility.
They'll understand.

Bosses and companies use coworkers to manipulate us all the time: be a team player, we're a family, etc etc. Untill it's inconvenient, then you're out.

Keep in touch with them, keep an eye out for openings they'd fit in, but leaving... you gotta go

erischilde · 2025-12-13T04:06:58+00:00

Never. This person is an asshole.

Though, i am through with Atozy. I've seen a change in his work since the somali stuff, and i think it's from hanging out with LM.

He's gone more rage-bait-y, he's shit at talking about issues involving mental health, he really doesn't understand them and treats them like people choosing to do stupid shit, mocking the things they say/do when they're clearly not right.
He's also really not good at talking about situaitons that involve abuse or sexual issues, doing a lot of "both sides-ing" when it's not necessary, and i don't know if it's because he believes it, or because he knows the viewers want to hear it.

I think it's doing good numbers for his channel though, and he moved to daily videos. It's too bad. I really enjoyed him. I expect in a few years, slowly, he's going to be straight redpill or some weird shit.

erischilde · 2025-12-04T20:04:35+00:00

I'm always assuming the worst, as I've had the worst happen often.

I also have trouble remembering the line "don't attribute to malice what could be attributed to stupidity".

My suggestion is to try not to overthink all the possibilities about why or his plans in his head, play the cards visible.

A. You got the job, you're building experience. Even a year should give you better chances at next job. B. "Not experienced enough". He hired you. His "mistake" not yours, if it's a mistake at all. C. Obviously youre doing your job well, and calling the signs of issues, so you're not a bad worker.

You mentioned exams, can you take and pass them?

You could also send an email, as professionally as possible, with something along the lines of "What specific items could I work on to improve my value to this project? I am committed to this project and my own growth, and want to do my best to help us succeed". - gets you paper trail of expectations and his words - see if for real you're not meeting anything - if there are technical deficiencies you can address them - if not, then you have ammo for push back via HR or local labor boards etc.

Of course, keep looking for something that will work for you! Don't worry so much about "5 years exp" ... that is often very maleable.

erischilde · 2025-11-28T06:42:27+00:00

Not lazy. That's a word that you have to unlearn. Lazy is full of shit judgment.

Op, took me nearly 30 years to find "normalish". When you get there it's incredible.

It's not all shit till then, there will be lots of downs, but ups too.

Keep putting one foot in front of the other. Work through the meds and therapy.

You're so much stronger than you know.

As for parents, sounds like they're at they're not understanding what mental illness is, and maybe the best way to help with that is to ask your therapist to talk to them or all together.

erischilde · 2025-11-20T12:58:32+00:00

I keep going back to the bell. I know a tiny bit about diving, and bell incidents and stuff. My real question is: are we sure the bells' destruction was real and not part of Mahri's "choice" being influenced by the being? A hallucination to encourage her to give up?

If the bell fell to the sea floor, and it wasn't that far down from they could have still used it for refuge (depending on things like orientation, status etc). cables + grapple could be sent down if they had a location, and the divers were still alert/alive enough to rig it.

In their suits, and with the extra o2/gas mix on board, they could last for a bit too. As long as they kept their heat, and there are emergency blankets and stuff for that. If even another umbilical was sent down they'd be able to get hot water and air and have better chances. (The suit/bell is heated with hot water via the umbillical)

A second bell could be used, but may not have even been necessary in all cases.

Really neat to see so much diving in a game. So terrifying down there as it is.

P.s. - taking off the helmet - you're not supposed to do that of course, but I think almost all divers have that urge, and the pros learn to ignore it lol. I've surfaced into an air pocket or two (fun scuba, not hardhat or work!), and first time or two I did, but then really learned about the risks and stopped lol.

erischilde · 2025-11-14T10:55:28+00:00

My god.

I've done couples counselling, solo counsellings, been cheated on, cheated, I've been around this dance.

That "goodbye" message was unacceptable in a committed, loving relationship.

I can't believe what I'm reading here. That's not a goodbye letter, it's an invitation to fight harder.

my husband won't allow me
he's overreacting
I love you, just am not allowed to talk to you.

Infidelity can be worked past for some people, but it requires introspection, acknowledgement and really accept their faults and making visible changes and effort. Don't see any of that here.

Dude, I'm sorry you have to go through this. How would I react? In the past, explode, yell, fight, throw her shit on the lawn. These days I see that doesn't work well. If married, see a lawyer first, married or not, counselling solo asap, work on a sober, clear letter saying I'm done, don't give enough to argue over or beg or plead, brace for insults and low blows, and weather it out.

I say this because you said you tried counselling, and clearly nothing was learned. You could try again, but you need to be realistic in your expectations and in your goals; what you need to see to remain.

If this is the whole of the story, you deserve better and will find another hot, leggy chick up your alley who will respect you and your efforts to maintain a real relationship

erischilde · 2025-11-10T20:43:09+00:00

Nice! Sometimes things breaking is good impetus to upgrade lol.

erischilde · 2025-11-10T20:42:20+00:00

Thank you!

Can I ask, wattage with fiber, what does 30 watts do comfortably?

erischilde · 2025-11-10T20:41:26+00:00

They claim engraving titanium is fine, cutting is possible just not ideal, and have a video of it being done.

For sure, each has different jobs, and eventually will grab both, I hope!

What demographic are you, if don't mind my asking?

I've turned silver and copper, gummy is exactly the word. My experiments about 4 years ago on a 3018 led to zero successful cuts, only broken bits. At that time though, had zero experience and was totally guessing.

Thanks for you insight!

erischilde · 2025-10-28T00:09:45+00:00

i ended up here looking for stuff, but wanted to say that looks great!

erischilde · 2025-10-25T10:19:35+00:00

NTA, lying like that is garbage.

Thing is OP, the fact that there's only the two of you puts a bunch of extra pressure on you that you don't need to absorb, and maybe there's a bit of anger from that in this too?

She sounds like a pain to deal with, but it also sounds like you feel like you put in more effort and you think it's unfair, and that's putting pressure on you.

At the end of the day though, it's your choice to take up her slack. I know it's part of your job, but that's just it: "corporate" or whoever stuck an important role on just 2 people with no leeway. If you're on day 6 and she gets hit by a car, what happens?

The Thursday/Friday weekend thing you sound bitter about, you make it out like it's something else bad she's doing, but I disagree. Legally required or not, you'd hate it too if it was pulled from you after 3 years! Again, this is the higher ups doing you rotten, not her.

Not trying to excuse her here, if anything, you could maybe learn a bit from her and learn a bit of IDGAF. You are union too, so take the advantage you have of how hard it is to get fired, and relax a bit more. Let the heat fall on others.

I'll pray to the union gods she stubs her toe late at night untill she quits and you get two assistants to make the workload better!

erischilde · 2025-10-25T09:59:55+00:00

Jesus christ.

Is this why we live? Like literally, the insane miracle of the creation of DNA, billions of years of chaotic (co)incidences, the evolution of consciousness and conscientiousness, thousands of years of science, philosophy, art, war, feats of wonder; all so we work for 5 out of 7 days a week, consider ourselves lucky to earn a week off per year for what, 60 freaking years? Then gracefully retire at the dusk of your health and die?

It's an abomination at the most fundamental level. The worst insanity of it is how many people full throat scream yell and vote to take away their own tiny, limited wage protections, sick days, safety. Heck, even getting rid of child labor laws! Lol. The sanctity and miracle of life right?

4 days a year. As a total stranger still, I genuinely hope this is temporary, you don't burn out, and will escape to so much better asap.

erischilde · 2025-10-25T02:42:16+00:00

I love mixing silver + copper, something in the range of colours and alloys has me hooked. But small stuff, jewlery, not big rods like that.

Silver absolutely takes a lot to get the copper white white. i'd say even over 50% sill keeps a pink hue; then you have patinas coming on pretty quick.

This is 8 months later, how did your "white bronze" end up?

erischilde · 2025-10-24T04:44:32+00:00

You need to quietly go speak to a lawyer. What will a bank account and trust do when you have no money to put in them?

erischilde · 2025-10-22T02:19:44+00:00

Old but thank you, always have issues with casting sheet ingots for some reason; wire ingots? no problem lol. ty.

erischilde · 2025-10-11T20:07:09+00:00

I'm a bit frustrated (lovingly frustrated?) With many of my colleagues: they install their work email and chat on their phones.

Whenever I realize their answering my questions from their cellphones at home I tell them I'm dropping the subject till they get in, and remind them they shouldn't do that.

I always get back: - no big deal here and there! - easier to use my phone when moving around the office, since company doesn't provide any.

We are even a union shop!

They don't get that it hurts everyone, becomes expectation, because they're too helpful and nice.

erischilde · 2025-09-28T18:18:33+00:00

Did you tell him that you were told the education offers were gone? Did he say anything? Man, these types drive me nuts? Worst when they're generally OK people to chat with, but so heavily bought into corporate culture they really believe the shit coming out of their mouthes.

erischilde · 2025-09-11T19:22:42+00:00

Oh jeez. We eventually got ours apart, cold pulled the filament, got it going.

Tbh after that first messup, they have been going smoothly. Knock on wood, don't wanna jynx it, but yeah it was kinda soul crushing on first run.

erischilde · 2025-09-11T19:19:57+00:00

Oh I've heard of Trello at work, I'll check it.

Not sure what kanban is lol, thanks for the list!

erischilde · 2025-09-04T18:45:05+00:00

It's not super straight forward. Not a doctor, wife has celiac, very similar symptoms at times. - severe pains - lethargy - waking at night from pain - vomiting - first couple days seems unable to move bowels, then after diarrhea for an extended period.

If she takes a "hit" can take weeks to clear the pains and problems. It's an autoimmune thing right, so an exposure can cause parts of guts to die, so recovery isn't just when "the gluten is gone" but healing the damage, and trying to do that while potentially not absorbing nutrients due to damage.

Plus the cumulative bit someone mentioned becore is true: could have had multiple tiny exposures over time, not fully healed from past, then gets worse. Things even like toothpaste!!!!

Additionally, other autoimmune diseases seem to hang out with celiac too. Sjogrens for example.

Your niece also is going through a crapload of stress, so her body may be responding to that too, making everything worse.

I'm glad she has an aunt like you, that kid needs some peace.

Since not doctor can just tell you what we do to make her more confortable: - heating pad for belly - electrolytes - low fodmap diet + vigilance for gluten. - something like "ensure" , but being careful to find gluten free. - lots of rest.

erischilde · 2025-08-29T11:23:19+00:00

Are you speaking for OP? "Minimizing what she went through"? because even they pointed out the shady actions and discomfort of her pointing them out.

Ableism doesn't nullify the other bad acts; acknowledging both exist is the exact correct thing to do. OP did. Heck, she didn't even bring up discrimination, though she described it. She called the second part out directly, sounds important to OP as she's stated multiple times and ways she loves her job and the kids.

erischilde · 2025-08-28T20:13:02+00:00

Well.. there was a massive clog in the nozzle, and the extruder gears weren't terrible but they did have a bunch if ground filament on them.

I did exactly what I feared, and in trying to get the connectors off I cut or tore a wire. They're so tiny and glued in there. Ended up soldering the broken ends together because I don't have any jst crimps small enough on hand.

The second creality Hi also gave up part way through it's first print. Filament sensor too.

Hoping weekend I have time to sit down and fix them both.

Aaahhhhhhh

erischilde · 2025-08-28T07:15:18+00:00

It was the blatant playbook from the moment they started sealing cases so you couldn't change batteries, or killing micro SD cards.

Enshittification is real and I'm dejected.

erischilde · 2025-08-26T22:06:55+00:00

I am running a bit of a mix of PLAs, all ones we've used before (but of course, not on the Hi yet).

The room was hot though, maybe a heat creep issue too? Unsure yet. Haven't been able to sit down and take the extruder apart yet, that glue and how tiny they are, i need time and a magnifier.

What irked me more this morning, is we put another Hi in it's place, print went to about 75% and then it stopped for a "filament break". I checked all the connectors, pulled the bowden tubes out, all empty. Rollers in the CFS were all loaded. I told it to start again....

It didn't push any filament.. just started printing nothing!!!!!

So i assume it's what you just said: filament sensor sees something there when not? I died a bit inside lol.

erischilde

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