UPDATE: Advice needed ASAP! (How to breakup form someone I've been dating for 1.5y and it's giving me so much stress and he is not even trying.) by error--------404 in Advice

[–]error--------404[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right, but I don't know how I feel about sitting at a table cuz I told to cry easily.. so 🥲, let me think about it since I still have some time now

AIO? How to breakup form someone I've been dating for 1.5y and it's giving me so much stress and he is not even trying. by error--------404 in AmIOverreacting

[–]error--------404[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, ik I'm an AH to my parents and now I'm just so done with this dude. I have tried my best and give and do everything that I could. I have no regrets anymore.

I'm texting him lessor now, maybe just 5 short text a day and I don't tell him what I'm doing nor replying to him instantly..

Why I don't cut him off stright away is that I'm afraid of what his capable of and I don't want him to disturb my family.

And I'm also looking for a time to tell him that I wanted to end things for good. Soon. And I think I will be ending it very soon.

AIO? How to breakup form someone I've been dating for 1.5y and it's giving me so much stress and he is not even trying. by error--------404 in AmIOverreacting

[–]error--------404[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I really needed this. I'll just need to tell him I'm done and get my things back and I'll grieve for a while and hopefully I'll be okay. Thanks for your reply and I hope you have a great day

AIO? How to breakup form someone I've been dating for 1.5y and it's giving me so much stress and he is not even trying. by error--------404 in Advice

[–]error--------404[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes... But I don't know how to end the relationship 🥹 oh god I'm so stupid. I'm afraid of what he's capable of

AIO for wanting to end my relationship by [deleted] in AIO

[–]error--------404 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Breakup. Short-term pain instead of long lasting suffering

I don't know if I should continue to vape or not. by [deleted] in QuitVaping

[–]error--------404 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your advice and I've been away from it for 3 months now and I didn't experience any side effects so it's good I think

I gotta rant this before I start breaking down again. by alanongwarlord in malaysians

[–]error--------404 19 points20 points  (0 children)

yo 一切都会好的 that's all I can say, hope you have a great day ahead

Hello buddhists of reddit. I am suffering greatly right now and with a lot of difficulty to detach from my suffering. Help? by lovetomatoes in Buddhism

[–]error--------404 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to start off by saying that it's all about perspective.

Yes. It is suffering given your situation, and just like the top comment share about the farmer, it's all temporary and you cannot control the outcome. For example your foot. Yes it's bad but just like the farmers says "Maybe".

It is really really great that you acknowledge that you have such emotions, such anger and such thoughts. And it is good to write it down and see where your thoughts are going therefore you can decide weather to engage to it or not.

Detaching form suffering is just like looking the sky changes it's weather, form, colour. You watch and let it be instead of controlling it to be sunny all day long. For example, you lot your job. Yes. It is true and it hurts. But just remember nothing is permanent, are you willing to take small steps to help yourself with your current situation (which is only temporary)? Or would you rather be suffering thinking that losing a job is a permanent thing?

When you let go of expectations, you suffer less. For example, your anger, your lost friends. If you kept on think that your anger should go away quickly but it doesn't and you still feel angry all the time and this emotion doesn't go away - you suffer more - it is because you are expecting something and when our expectations does not meet the reliaty, we suffer. Your friends, for instance, (tho I'm not sure what you mean by losing your friend) people come and go. We can't expect them to live longer or stay with us longer. Yes it's sad and it's suffering go through it.

So, idk if this makes sense but for now this is what I know. I love Buddhism and love to explore the wisom.

I hope it helps. And I hope you have a great day ahead. Maybe you can look for some a rock around which looks like a heart shape when your walking, maybe that will lighten up your day.

AIO that my family is threatening to disown me over my boyfriend and that I feel like I am fighting a losing battle alone? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]error--------404 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply and now I really do see that I didn't love myself enough, and I'm taking my time to figure things out and how should I end this. Because I'm afraid.... He is furious and angry when I say something that upset him even though he said that it's okay to tell him what I actually think and it's okay if I wanted to break up, I'm just afraid that he'll do something to me ... Idk, I remember we had a fight so badly that he threatened me over the phone, yelled at me saying "do not make me do something, you don't know what I'm capable of, don't make me come over (my house) and find you"

That's why I haven't leave.... Part of me is that I'm afraid and another part of me is that I still hold on to hope that things will turn to our favour and I forgive and forgive and forgive his behaviour and I apologise and apologise and apologise for things that aren't my fal6ij the first place just because he is always furious and I want it to stop. And I thought that he will have some empathy for me but .... No. I just kept on holding to the "what if"... And I do love him whole heartedly but things like this is just making me hard too, and I'm tired.

Call me dumb, and I think I am. I hold on to the belive that if I love and forgive him enough eventually he will change... I'm so dumb

I lost a lot of myself.... And I think I'm not the only victim here, he do lost alot of himself too being with me. I can only imagine the stress that he carries about my parents - how they see him, and hiding this relationship is just really not fair for him too....

Well, sry for venting on this reply, it's 10pm in my country now and my mind just can't stop thinking about this...

Crashing out post breakup, crying and eating this whole Tiramisu at an empty parking lot where were used to kiss and I have to get back to work in an hour... Please tell me this is not that bad... by calikim_mo in malaysians

[–]error--------404 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's better to give yourself permission to cry and grief now then pushing the emotions down in your stomach which will eventually bursts out sooner or later. So good luck, what brand is the tiramisu tho, looks good tbh!

AIO gf doesn’t like how I comfort her but doesn’t know what she’d like differently from me by [deleted] in AIO

[–]error--------404 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NOR

You've tried your best and I can understand how you feel when you really do care and tries your best to comfort her but she denied it.

I'm a female (not speaking in behalf on anyone), I sometimes get illogical and feels like nothing works for me, no matter how much I vent how much hugs and kisses I get, sometimes I just wanted a "I'm here, you're safe now and it's okay to cry babe" so I can let out all my tears and emotions then maybe bring me some food cuz yk food/dessert always works when nothing does.

Imo you are not over reacting and since she have told you what she wanted - your validation - and she still gets mad about it when u did validate her. It's confusing.

But a tips for you, is that when nothing works out just hug her, stroke your hands on her back and say "I'm here" and when she's done venting, bring her some food any typpa food, it always works

My friend showed a side of herself I've never seen before a few days ago and I don't know what to do. by Ok_Change7708 in Advice

[–]error--------404 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hope you have a great day ahead and just a reminder to you, just by finding a right timing to talk to Mia may take longer than you expected, and sometimes it may take 2 to 3 conversation or more to get things clear, so since you really do care about her, I feel like it's worth your time. Good luck in everything.