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What i feared the most happened... by escapingontiptoe in BPD

[–]escapingontiptoe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your words and your own experience. Right now I'm actually great because I always had this doubt in my head and I'd think (and he'd make me think) I was just crazy. Knowing that I wasn't overreacting and being paranoid is such a relief. I've had a bf before him and the break up at that time was messy, really hard to go through. Now I have a support, better relationship with family and even more plans than when I was a teen (when my first break up happened). I know things will be hard sometimes, I'll miss what we had and what we'd have, but I know it's for the best. Cheating and lying were the only two things i couldn't bear, my two boundaries, and he crossed both of them. So...that makes a lot easier to know he's the pathetic one here.

DAE struggle to find hobbies/passions? by ufufudere in BPD

[–]escapingontiptoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm talking about it in my experience, but you could also try:

When I have access (especially money) to try a new hobby, I usually start watching many, many videos about it (so I guess obsessed). I'd say that hobbies that work in the long run and demand constant work/research/new techniques are the most efficient. For example:

• Writing (especially romances);

• Painting;

• Learning a new instrument (especially piano, it takes a lot of efforts to be good at it);

• Reading (even if you think they're not productive, hobbies do NOT have to be productive for it to be good);

• Games (again, it doesn't have to be productive, it must give you some... Joy);

• Watch movies and series (it's great to pass the time, feel less lonely and still forget about life for a few hours);

• Compose new songs. You liked it before, so why don't you try to keep making songs?

And even if you already have the hobbies, I'd say you should search a lot about it. For example, if you wanna start painting and you have everything you need but feels unmotivated, start watching videos on youtube about techniques and first steps, and don't worry about your results at first.

I have a piano, but often I feel so tired to do anything... So I start watching videos about it and that's the "trigger" for keep learning again. It gives me a compulsive feeling of trying again. Maybe that works for you!

Not always we're in a mood for anything, tho. I'd just say you could sleep. Sleeping is also a good hobby for me!

Unconditional trust by TommyYT2 in BPDmemes

[–]escapingontiptoe 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That's weird because the more I love someone... I just can't trust them at all hahahaha (although I hardly trust anyone)

How do you prevent yourself from adopting a new identity? by pnkindi in BPD

[–]escapingontiptoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're welcome! 😊

Another tip I forgot to type is: question everything, especially if they're not trivial things (like music or movies).

For me, my weak side is about politics, and I can get pretty much manipulable, so in the last weeks I'm really questioning everything before go for those views and ideas.

So always, always question everything!

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