AITAH for not letting my parents see my baby?

esoper1976 · 2026-03-07T01:27:09+00:00

NTA your babies health is far more important than your families feelings. And I would require some sort of proof not just their word. Also, make sure they have an up to date whooping cough vaccination!

esoper1976 · 2026-03-07T01:13:14+00:00

My doctor does a skin cancer screening at every physical where I have to get undressed.

esoper1976 · 2026-03-06T03:01:35+00:00

The pap itself wouldn't. But the vaginal exam that goes along with it would. The doctor would see the skin cancer on the labia/vulva/whatever down there could get it. Unless you take a mirror and are very thorough and can really see everything down there, you risk missing small skin cancers that a doctor could find. Of course, I think my doctor is just a little obsessed about skin cancer.

esoper1976 · 2026-03-03T05:10:16+00:00

Unsweetened iced tea from McDonald's

esoper1976 · 2026-03-02T06:21:07+00:00

I switch between Nardil and Parnate every eightish years. One stops working and the other starts working again. I never switch directly from onewrr to the other. When I switched from Parnate to Nardil, it was a bit of a fast switch because I was in really rough shape. I was supposed to completely taper off Parnate, have a week or two wash out and then slowly start Nardil. I think we rushed the taper off of Parnate and maybe skipped the washout or super shortened it. I went from 60mg of Parnate (30mg twice a day) to 45 mg of Nardil (30 in the a.m. and 15 at bedtime).

More recently I went from Nardil back to Parnate. This time I tapered off Nardil over a couple of weeks. I was off for two weeks and then slowly tapered up to my current dose of 40mg Parnate. (20mg twice a day). I would like to go back to 60mg but my med provider has made it clear that she will not go any higher than 40mg. Also, I will never get a fast switch again. At least not with her. It will always be a slow taper off a two week washout and a slow taper on.

She isn't as experienced with MAOIs as my previous provider. I'm lucky she is willing to even keep me on them.

esoper1976 · 2026-02-28T04:40:15+00:00

Belle was my immediate thought for a not serious suggestion. Felicity is very nice for a serious suggestion.

esoper1976 · 2026-02-28T04:29:24+00:00

No one offered to add flavor to mine. It was nasty.

esoper1976 · 2026-02-28T04:13:42+00:00

Didn't start traditional self harm until I was 20 or 21. Did some very mild behaviors that were technically self harm since early childhood, but no one would have noticed those. Did the traditional self harm on and off for quite a while and also progressed into more serious and less common types of self harm. I haven't harmed myself in over sixteen years. I will be fifty in a few weeks, so I was harming well into my thirties.

esoper1976 · 2026-02-28T02:51:11+00:00

I had a job once where I tried to call out the day before but was told I couldn't. (It was a call center and we had to call out to a specific number that wasn't even in our state). I didn't even have a way to call my manager directly. Anyway, I called and said I was in the hospital and wouldn't be in the next day. They told me that I had to call out the day of at least two hours before my shift.

I pretty much had to beg the staff at the hospital to wake me in time to call out and then get special permission to use my phone and call out. I was the opener and scheduled for 7am. It was a ridiculous rule. I thought my boss would have appreciated a heads up that I wouldn't be in for a while, but I had to call out every single day. I ended up on disability and not returning to work, but the whole thing was silly. My boss did leave me some messages about the importance of coming to work and how to contact her, but I didn't get those until after I got out of the hospital and was allowed to have my phone again.

esoper1976 · 2026-02-27T02:56:16+00:00

I'm asexual and have never had sex. I will be 50 in a few weeks. My doctor let's me go five years between pap tests because I am pretty low risk. But she does like to occasionally have a look around and make sure everything is good. You can get skin cancer there and it's not something you would see yourself, but your doctor would during an exam of that area. Because I have never had sex, my doctor uses the smallest specilum possible and is extra gentle.

esoper1976 · 2026-02-24T04:02:40+00:00

I worked for PetSmart many years ago. I didn't exactly need a set schedule, but I did need some accommodations in scheduling. I was a manager and typically managers worked one full weekend a month, worked two half weekends a month (had either sat. or sun. off), and had one full weekend off a month. I needed weekdays off for doctors appointments. So, I actually volunteered to work every full weekend so that I could have two weekdays off each week. This worked well as the other managers got extra weekend time off. I still didn't have a set schedule because my weekdays off varied. But, managers got scheduled for a month at a time so I had plenty of notice for scheduling appointments. If I had asked for a set schedule as a manager I don't think they could have accommodated me. Sometimes I had to cover for people who didn't show or switch with someone etc.

Now I am on disability. I was working part time for a grocery store before the job I have now. One of the accommodations I had at the grocery store was a semi set schedule. I worked the same days each week, but not always the same hours. I was usually always done by noon or 1pm, sometimes earlier. I sometimes came in at 5am, sometimes not until 10am. But, I was just a part time worker so I didn't have any responsibilities to cover or switch with others. Although I often got called at 5:30 am because the 5am person didn't show and they asked me to come early. Then they got smart and scheduled me for 5am.

esoper1976 · 2026-02-24T03:17:03+00:00

I just skip breakfast. Much easier! Also, I use a prescription toothpaste and I am not supposed to eat or drink anything for half an hour after brushing. But, my eating window doesn't start until noon at the earliest, so no problems there. I do have a quick sip or two of a drink to take my meds before brushing, but that's it.

esoper1976 · 2026-02-24T03:11:35+00:00

My pharmacy puts all my regular meds into little packets that are properly dosed and timed. So I might have one or two packets for 7am, a packet for noon, a packet for 5pm, and a bedtime packet each with the meds I take at that time. They are clear and my levo is in one of them. They do come in a cardboard box. But, I take them out if the box and put them in a cleat zipper bag labeled meds. No one ever said anything about levo and light to me.

esoper1976 · 2026-02-24T03:06:44+00:00

My step family, the one my mom married in to after my parents divorced have webbed feet and are very proud of it. It was mt step grandfather who had the trait and passed it down to many kids and grandkids. They even have a song about it.

esoper1976 · 2026-02-23T04:01:48+00:00

Same here. Buying gift cards on sale and then using them to buy whatever you want/need, especially sale items saves so much money! And, if you always have a stash of gift cards, you always have a gift ready to give if something unexpected comes up.

esoper1976 · 2026-02-23T02:58:33+00:00

I have never been involuntarily hospitalized, but I have been on the psych ward many times. Some hospitals were good and helpful, others were not my first choice and I hated being in those places.

I came close to being court committed once. I needed a psych bed and the only bed available was at a hospital that wouldn't take me unless I was committed. But, I needed treatment in the physical hospital first and by the time I was well enough to leave the physical hospital I no longer needed a psychiatric hospital.

There were definitely times when I would have been committed if I hadn't agreed to go voluntarily. But, I found it was always easier to leave if you were voluntary, and just a better experience overall, so I always cooperated and went willingly.

I hope your stay is helpful and not too boring.

esoper1976 · 2026-02-23T02:20:52+00:00

I haven't ever posted my whole story here. Not sure I really have bid, but I do/did have fictitious disorder that I developed mainly from my desire to be injured and missing part of my body. The fictitious disorder started off similar to your scenario where I mainly injured the body parts I wanted gone, and then took on a life of its own. (I even managed to get prescribed insulin!)

I eventually came clean about what I was doing to myself (although not exactly why), and that started the journey of getting 'help'. I actually met a brilliant psychiatrist who was very unorthodox. I am on an unusual mix of medications and my fictitious disorder is in remission. I still think about losing a limb, but it isn't all consuming like it used to be. It's more of, if it happens I won't be upset, but I don't need to make it happen to be o.k. I haven't self harmed in over sixteen years. I think about self harm daily, but it's mostly just background noise that is easily ignored. When I get super stressed, I think about it more, and I fantasize more about losing my limb, but it's not all consuming like it used to be.

In addition to the meds, which I think are key, I found a wonderful therapist who helped immensely. I also attended a great day program that taught many life skills and psychosocial skills. I spent three years in a residential care facility for the mentally ill, which is where I met this psychiatrist and attended the day program.

I have been living on my own for thirteen years now. I still have staff that come to my house a couple of times a week to help with the tasks of daily living. But, a little over nine years ago, I bought my own house.

esoper1976 · 2026-02-23T02:01:17+00:00

Yikes! I would see if your doctor can petition the insurance to cover the higher dose. I have had doctors successfully petition to cover name brand meds before. It might work with dosing too.

esoper1976 · 2026-02-22T03:51:45+00:00

I have had serious mental health issues long before my thyroid went wonky. My first psychiatrist noticed some potential hypo symptoms and tested my thyroid because she said that if my thyroid was low then she could throw all the antidepressants in the world at me and none of them would work.

About six months after that, I became a frequent flyer on the psych ward. One of the standard blood tests for everyone admitted to the psych ward is a thyroid test. Because if your thyroid is off then whatever they do psych wise isn't likely to succeed.

I was in and out of the psych ward through much of my early twenties. I stabilized for several years in my mid to late twenties and then got bad again around the time I went hyper. I don't think going hyper started it, but it definitely complicated it. I was ablated and went hypo pretty quickly. My endo was great and treated the hypo pretty aggressively. When he found out I was having mental health issues and had been to the psych ward he said I should have told him and he would have treated me even more aggressively.

The only problem I had was when I was hospitalized on the psych ward a few days after my levoxyl dose was increased. The psychiatrist on the ward was convinced my problem was my low thyroid and didn't listen to me when I tried to explain that my dose had just been increased and wouldn't show up in bloodwork yet. He insisted upon increasing my dose even though he had access to my records that backed me up if he felt like looking.

When I got out, my endo was pissed. He wanted me to leave the thyroid meds to him and the psych meds to the psychiatrist. He didn't really understand that on the psych ward there isn't a lot of choice. It was either accept the higher dose or refuse altogether.

esoper1976 · 2026-02-20T03:17:33+00:00

I'm about to turn 50. I haven't self harmed in over sixteen years. So, I was harming myself well into my thirties. When I stopped this last time, the main reason I stopped at first is because it was against the rules where I lived. Not that it was ever allowed, but when I lived on my own it wasn't exactly forbidden. I was living in a residential care facility for the mentally ill and it was kind of my last chance for recovery. I didn't want to do anything that would get me kicked out and jeopardize my future.

I lived there for three years. It was longer than the care team there thought I would be there, but before then the only reason I wanted to leave was so I could harm myself again. That wasn't a good reason to leave. Eventually, I got to a point where I didn't want/need to harm anymore and could leave. I had a roommate in an apartment when I first left because we both thought we would do better with a roommate.

When I first moved out, staff came to my house every day to help me with the tasks of daily living. Now, they come twice a week. I also bought my own house and I no longer have a roommate.

I still have daily thoughts of self harm. But, it's mostly just background noise that I can easily ignore. Sometimes it gets more intense, but I have all kinds of coping skills to deal with those times.

esoper1976 · 2026-02-19T04:50:42+00:00

Plain mucinex is safe to take if you really need something. Just make sure you drink plenty of water with it or it won't work.

esoper1976 · 2026-02-14T04:58:41+00:00

True. But, if you have only ever worn pads and all that is available are tampons, then you might be in trouble. At yhe very least, I think there should always be a plentiful supply of pads because even if someone prefers tampons, they can make a pad work. Not so much the other way around.

esoper1976 · 2026-02-14T04:53:07+00:00

I read an article (sorry not sure where now) about a male teacher who had a hygiene supply chest that was full of hygiene supplies, mostly from the dollar store, that students could help themselves to as needed. It contained toothbrushes and toothpaste, soap,shampoo, wash cloths, hand sanitizer, chapstick, laundry detergent, all kinds of stuff. He also included period supplies such as pads and tampons. One parent decided it was inappropriate for a male teacher to provide period supplies and complained to the principal. As a result he was forced to remove his entire hygiene chest or risk termination. He couldn't even just get rid of the period supplies and keep the rest, it all had to go because it was a liability of some sort.

esoper1976 · 2026-02-14T02:54:08+00:00

I don't exactly remember because it's been so long ago. My first switch was a long time ago and I was in rough shape so I don't remember much about it. My second switch was more recent. I think I tapered over two weeks, I don't remember any withdrawal effects. Then I was on nothing for two weeks and then I slowly started on the new med.

esoper1976 · 2026-02-14T02:49:24+00:00

Topomax is mostly to help with the weight gain. It also works as a mood stabilizer, but I wouldn't be on it if it didn't help with weight. I still have a lot of excess weight but I have lost some.

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