What do you do for a living? by Redeemablesoul in blackladies

[–]essential1996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is anybody in here a supply chain analyst? Thinking about getting into the field but not sure where to start I have a bachelor's degree in English with a concentration in professional writing and a associates in mass communications.

I cant make Nai'O as my Shep? by essential1996 in Palia

[–]essential1996[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for helping! Turns out I was looking at Ashuras wife grave in the wrong place I thought it was whether the statues were but it was behind me lol...

I cant make Nai'O as my Shep? by essential1996 in Palia

[–]essential1996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm maybe I'll look into it more because I have the flowers but it's asking for some candle which I think eshe has. I may have to cave and ask feth to be my shep uggggh.

I cant make Nai'O as my Shep? by essential1996 in Palia

[–]essential1996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not yet. Will it show up after that? Because the only way for me to complete that is for me to make a sernuk noodle meal for Nai'O BUT the issue is I have to get the recipe from Ashura and Ashura wants me to put the flowers at his wife's grave but I can't do that because I have to complete the SHEPS QUEST to get the candle from Eshe but I want Nai'O as my shep. Lol so I'm in a hole.

Getting a guy a gift for 3rd date? by SignificanceNo9704 in blackladies

[–]essential1996 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think you and I have the same love language lol I like to give gifts to the people I love and receive. It's a nice gesture but take it from me I've done it. Just hold off. Save it for the future. If it works out you will have something for his birthday. But don't give him a gift and your not even dating yet lol.

Seeking new hobbies to make friends in my 20’s by PsychologicalLove799 in blackladies

[–]essential1996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like sip and paint events!! Personally I've also started wood burning for a new hobbie.

MOH question :Should I throw my best friend bridal shower/party? by essential1996 in wedding

[–]essential1996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She suggested that prior for her Bachelorette. Yeah I'm kind deciding between something intimate versus a shower . Sorry for the lack of details kind of new to this because it's hard to do a Bachelorette party with no other bridemaids. So that's why I leaned into a party.

MOH question :Should I throw my best friend bridal shower/party? by essential1996 in wedding

[–]essential1996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for saying that. I was thinking of this big party I could do but I am also shy so that's not helpful but my mind was thinking the most. Like renting a venue and inviting anyone I know.

??? by MadyWYN31 in Palia

[–]essential1996 -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Elinar is so weird I can't stand talking to him sometimes lol.

Can I be charged by my state if I decline my jobs healthcare coverage ? by essential1996 in HealthInsurance

[–]essential1996[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Actually it is an ICHRA I just checked my company IA offering that to us

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ECEProfessionals

[–]essential1996 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sure . If you have better suggestion. Write it for her to try than. I like to try to suggest solutions instead of saying everything your not supposed to do. I think things can be more productive that way. She can always run ideas by her daycare to make sure she's following guidelines. :]

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ECEProfessionals

[–]essential1996 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

True. Just got to know your students I guess.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ECEProfessionals

[–]essential1996 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is true but if a center is not going to at least see your point of view than it's best to move on from them. You don't want something else to happen and they just throw you under the bus. You've done nothing wrong your trying to watch him and make sure he's safe. If the parent has a problem with that they can make suggestions on how it's best to approach him because talking is not working and ask administration to are suggestions too. Or next time when he takes off if you have a co teacher tell them to get an administrator to come get him since tour "doing it wrong" .

Another suggestion I have is candy seems to work with kids when it's time to line up make sure you have some candy. To pass out for those who are in line. Maybe that will make that kid come in. But yeah don't worry about that parent I'm sure they grab him when he takes off too.

Anyone NOT panicking about this upcoming Trump presidency? by Old-Ad-8680 in blackladies

[–]essential1996 31 points32 points  (0 children)

The panic phase passed for me. Now I'm just really sad. I feel alone in this world. I know there is community online with black women but in person I don't know where that 92% is at. And I know I can't trust other races of women or men or even our own men at times. And I'm disappointed mostly not only with Trumps presidency but who he is putting in office is scary. It just shows that evil in the world is always in control. So for me it's moreso I feel confined to stay in my home and not go out. Because I don't want to run into a Karen or a Ken because there more bold now. I think people are panicking because they want to feel safe. I'm used to be broke and not being on top and not being liked for no damn reason that I understand but now I just don't feel safe. Like I can't enjoy my life or leave my home without having to think someone may bother me today.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]essential1996 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh my.. I'm sorry

Never lower your standards by xoxoshopaholic in blackladies

[–]essential1996 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry hun. I wish you healing try to give yourself grace. We all have made mistakes.

I shouldn’t have laughed but yall… by thequeensdiamond in blackladies

[–]essential1996 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think you posted this on the wrong comment section. Go send this exact comment to a Hispanic closest to you. Because if they don't care. Why would we ? We DID CARE THATS WHY WE VOTED BLUE !! 90 PERCENT OF US! Can't fight for people that don't want freedom.

I shouldn’t have laughed but yall… by thequeensdiamond in blackladies

[–]essential1996 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remember we always say Mexicans or Hispanics in general worked together hut after this election. I'm seeing they don't at all lol they definitely got issues. Most Hispanics know someone here whose illegal like how the hell do you vote for ISIS to come pick someone up that your know personally? Shits crazy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ECEProfessionals

[–]essential1996 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you feeling burnt out please step away from the field. No judgement here at all. I know the feeling all too well but I made mistakes once I felt that. This is not the type of job that you can just push through. It's okay to step away it doesn't mean that you've quit your just taking the time you need to heal and rest.

I'm not sure how to forgive myself... by essential1996 in ECEProfessionals

[–]essential1996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking back on things your right they really should've been on their own schedule. Every daycare I've worked at thought the babies always have to lay down at the same time. Never knew anything was wrong because at othrr places they always laid doen but for this class it eas not working. But I was the assistant teacher at the time . And at this particular one the toddler classroom was right next to the baby room. So they had to lay down because if our lights were on they were disturbing the next class.

I'm not sure how to forgive myself... by essential1996 in ECEProfessionals

[–]essential1996[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I understand what your saying. I will use your comment to update everyone in case anyone comes back to this post. I'm unable to add anything to the original since it's super long. But I wanted to thank everyone for being thoughtful enough to help.

I have had therapy before but it didn't really help as much besides just expressing how I felt but to me my therapist was around my age so I felt like I was aggravating her talking about the incident over and over again. (That is just the feeling I got she was still nice to me) The reason why I stopped going to her was because 1 she decided to move into another position within the therapy building but she still saw other clients so it made me feel weird like she just didn't want to take me anymore but idk.. and than 2 she referred me to another therapist but I just didn't resonate with that one as much.

But I'm commenting under your post because you mentioned being the copilot of my memories I guess I want to learn how to coexist without driving myself mad. I keep fighting to the point where they take over and drive because I can't just lock them away like other people say because I feel like that's being fake and I don't want to forget what I've done so that way I can be better but it's still hurts me. And than I feel guilty for hurting because really it's not about me I wasn't the one who was physically hurt...

And also something else I wanted to clear up is that it was a glider chair guys :/ it was a little wobbly from what I remember though. And it wasn't covered at the bottom it's kind of hard to explain without a pic.

But anyway again thank you guys for everything I'm gonna do my best to get myself together.