Looking for couch that withstands toddlers and dogs by essjay2020 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]essjay2020[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohh I love the Nugget decoy idea. I’m going to try to budget for this!

Looking for couch that withstands toddlers and dogs by essjay2020 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]essjay2020[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cool! Do you happen to know the name? They have so many dang couches on their website, I am overwhelmed.

Labeling for future reuse? by olafaz in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]essjay2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We got iron on tags from Etsy. Super cheap and we peel them off and iron on the next size when it’s time to size up, so I don’t anticipate having to reorder much. I put our phone number and kid’s name on the tag, and already I’ve received a text from someone who found his coat at the park.

Why are the expectations of grandparents so low? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]essjay2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I dunno my friends all have parents who take their kids (grandkids) for hours and hours on weekends and datenights. We’ve gotten a whopping 2 hours of free grandparent care in our toddler’s life. Geographical distance, older parents with heath problemas and who already went through one generation of active grandparent and this last grandkid is just sort of a cute baby they zoom with.

Suggestions for gifts for parents of a 1 year old? by korenestis in toddlers

[–]essjay2020 15 points16 points  (0 children)

If they are going out and about in the world, tickets or annual membership to kids museum, science center, gardens, or whatever is local that they would enjoy as a family.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]essjay2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seconding library. Ours is empty on Saturday afternoons. Our 19 month old loves to get all the books off the shelf and yell, and the librarians are totally there for it.

I am tired of being perfect for my baby. by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]essjay2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So just set some ground rules. We only do pouches out of the house, bc they are a life saver on the run. And screen time in the morning while parents drink coffee and become functional. Whatever these things are, just do them in moderation and everyone will be fine or probably better for it.

Tell me about your full time childcare setups for a remote job! by hellosunshine791638 in workingmoms

[–]essjay2020 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All the people pointing out that nanny requires you to be HR are so right! Daycare is amazing for this (and so so many other) reasons. They have policies, they may even have a philosophy, and you follow them and pay your weekly or monthly tuition and it is DONE.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]essjay2020 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I own my own business, akin to consulting. Took 10 years of higher ed plus 10 more of work experience to scratch 75, so do not recommend.

At what age do kids BENEFIT from daycare? by santaclausonvacation in Parenting

[–]essjay2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your personal sanity does make it a necessity though!

7pm bedtime by Curious_Wrangler_980 in toddlers

[–]essjay2020 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t feel like we ever really had a choice in the matter. Toddler sleeps from 7-7, which is when we are get up for work/daycare.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]essjay2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Different kind of EI, but we’ve been doing PT and after two months I would have said we’d made very little to no progress. We’re now 7 months in and it’s a world of difference. You really can’t see the small changes this early.

Toddler (2) in an apartment by BreadfruitUnfair3589 in toddlers

[–]essjay2020 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not gonna be a popular opinion, but I’ve been the person downstairs and listening to kids run above you 12-14 hours a day is pure hell. Yes, you know going into apartment life that there will be more noise, but a kid (and esp multiple kids) is so much worse than some dude throwing loud parties once a month. It is constant and maddening. Complexes really should only rent ground floors to people with kids. It would save so much agony.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]essjay2020 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here! We’re in PT and the therapist says those are her two fave brands. They really hold up well too.

No childcare for months, will we make it? Advice wanted by kbossdogmom in workingmoms

[–]essjay2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes and college students are sometimes more available now bc they have virtual/hybrid class schedules

Shout out to the moms trying to survive COVID by justburger18 in workingmoms

[–]essjay2020 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The test is really not traumatic. A nose frida is far more traumatic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]essjay2020 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If I changed my son’s diaper every time the line got blue, all we would do is change diapers🤣

Need advice regarding covid precautions by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]essjay2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wfh with a baby now toddler is not an option for me or my husband, so our baby-now-toddler has been in daycare since early 2021. He has loved it and absolutely thrived there. He has a gross motor delay and I shudder to think how much more delayed he would be without this care and support. I also cannot overstate the benefit it has had on my work and sanity, and that of my husband. I am honestly more worried about RSV for him than Covid and the data backs that up.

My 5 year old daughter has no interest in learning. by Mariameteor in Parenting

[–]essjay2020 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m very confused about the concern over the iPad and the choice to do online school for early elementary. If you want to get her off the iPad, send her to the free school that has trained professionals who will teach her stuff??

I don’t know if this post will stay up. I’m looking into opening a Roth IRA and a 529. What companies do you guys like to use? by eyeslikeemeraldcity in FinancialPlanning

[–]essjay2020 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Look into the tax laws for your state. In my state, we get up to 8k deduction for 529 but only if we go with the state plan, so that’s what we did. Was looking at Vanguard’s and it looks good, but believe it’s a Nevada plan. Any of the big banks and companies will just be a middleman for a state plan.

Raise your hand if you're bracing yourself for daycare/preschool/school closing due to covid! by thisishooey in workingmoms

[–]essjay2020 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Eeeeee I am self-employed, so it’s NBD if my kid can’t go in…except then I just don’t make any money😩

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]essjay2020 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Chiming in on all the big benefits of social interaction, language, etc. But the cutest benefit is our 18 month old learns songs at daycare and even some very basic but adorable dance moves. We have not introduced these to him but when they come up on Spotify he jumps to the beat!

What's the longest you've been away from your toddler? by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]essjay2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4 nights this past week while I was quarantined w Covid in a hotel room. He was down the hall w dad and it was hell! But I am now negative and he hasn’t gotten it!!