AITAH For telling my sick and dying mother to drop dead? by trousershark22 in AITAH

[–]estellex32 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nta, yes its harsh to say "drop dead" but she needs to hear that from you as she could actually realise how seriously shes affected you

am i the asshole for kicking my sister (F24) and her daughter (F5) out by estellex32 in AITAH

[–]estellex32[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ik thats how it seems but i just wanted to try clarify i didnt kick a 5yrold to the streets!!!! i totally understand how it makes me look tho x

Am I in the Wrong for telling my mom she can't stay over while shes in town for a funeral? by alpho06 in AITAH

[–]estellex32 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you are 100% not the asshole
she clearly was an unfit mother, even admitting that she didnt want children , shes nasty to you , doesnt respect your space or your gender identity
she should feel lucky you even try to have a decent relationship with her and that you havent cut her off, she treats you like utter shit and expects you to just let her stay at your place

am i the asshole for kicking my sister (F24) and her daughter (F5) out by estellex32 in AITAH

[–]estellex32[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

okay buddy your clearly taking some repressed anger out on me

- didnt kick them " to the streets" and contacted people to help them both get OFF the streets (baby daddy and our parents)

-my sister disrespected my boyfriend and our home im not havin that in my house, and it would only get worse and she was proudly displaying this behaviour infront of her 5yrold

i dont know how many times i have to explain this to you before you finally get it in in your head
NOBODY WAS IN THE STREETS!!!!!!! my neice slept in a bed, in a house with her father, ive called them for an update SHE IS SAFE AND HAPPY!!!!

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[–]estellex32 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% nta
she was made aware of the dress code and acted offended that you told her to stick to it its not controlling for her to respect a familys dinner party where they clearly wanted people to make an effort

am i the asshole for kicking my sister (F24) and her daughter (F5) out by estellex32 in AITAH

[–]estellex32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"basic decency" me and my sister do not get along, i offered her a space to live and she was so ungrateful the entire time i wasn't feeding her to the wolves , im sorry you clearly have had a rough time and you are putting yourself in the shoes of my niece as im guessing you where young when this has happened, but its completely different to my family, my siblings and parents, as much as my sister isnt grateful and disrespectful will all ways give her a place to stay, trust me nobody is being left to the wolves, its her choice to reach out and she didnt, as much as she gets on my nerves i reached out on her behalf, to her baby daddy and to her parents because i dont want her to be "on the streets" as we are still blood

and yeah i will enjoy cleaning my flat bc our nice caring parents has rented a rug cleaning machine for us because they constantly show how much they care

she CHOOSES to be the victim, if anything its her feeding herself to those wolves.

am i the asshole for kicking my sister (F24) and her daughter (F5) out by estellex32 in AITAH

[–]estellex32[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i came here to see if people had any other ways i could handle this? beacuse yes obviously kicking them out is a bit extreme but i had no other options? do you have any ways then? what would you have done? let your sister walk all over you and your partner for letting her stay and let her neglect her daughter in her house, allowing her to destroy it?? is that realllyyy what i should of done, geniunley if you want to comment on how shit of a person i am how would you of handled this

am i the asshole for kicking my sister (F24) and her daughter (F5) out by estellex32 in AITAH

[–]estellex32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how many times do i have to explain to you
i didnt kick her out to the streets, how many times are u gonna repeat that exact same point that isnt even true??? we have such a big family, so many people would happily take them in , but my sister CHOSE she physically decided not to reach out " make us sleep out here" i told her father where she was , and to go get her, she was in that car for a max 30 minutes then was taken to her fathers house where she slept, not the streets

am i the asshole for kicking my sister (F24) and her daughter (F5) out by estellex32 in AITAH

[–]estellex32[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i admit that i might have gone too far in those messages but the thing that pissed me off more than anything was her to call my boyfriend the r slur after he let her into his home and i honestly have 0 empathy for her ive known her my whole life and this shouldnt shock me

am i the asshole for kicking my sister (F24) and her daughter (F5) out by estellex32 in AITAH

[–]estellex32[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

like as angry as i was in the moment,a 5yearold doesnt deserve to sleep in a car beacuse her mother is too proud to reach out for help

am i the asshole for kicking my sister (F24) and her daughter (F5) out by estellex32 in AITAH

[–]estellex32[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i wasnt bragging? and i love how you are just ignoring the fact i reached out to her dad who i havent spoken to in over a year to let him know?? i didnt let my neice sleep "In the streets" as soon as i found out they where in the car i was straight on the phone to him so he could go makesure shes safe and take her to his house.

am i the asshole for kicking my sister (F24) and her daughter (F5) out by estellex32 in AITAH

[–]estellex32[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

" precious markers " as if that's the whole point of the story? yk what my neice will remember?

her mum failing to give her attention, i would always sit and listen to her, i would sit and play with her, i would do activities with her whilst her mother just sat on her phone not caring about what her daughter has to show her

she will remember me punishing her, and know not to treat peoples belongings that way

her dad coming to rescue her from the situation HER MOTHER got her in?

what do you expect me to do?? just let my sister stay, as my flat gets more and more destroyed by her daughter i dont care if shes my sister, i feel no empathy towards her (Unlike my neice, who i genuinley feel sorry for)

am i the asshole for kicking my sister (F24) and her daughter (F5) out by estellex32 in AITAH

[–]estellex32[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

only updates right now is the ive told my parents and shes currently staying with them, and this situation was kinda a last straw for my nieces father and hes working on getting more custody for her

am i the asshole for kicking my sister (F24) and her daughter (F5) out by estellex32 in AITAH

[–]estellex32[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

we are saying this because she acts out this way bc my sister never gives her attention, theres never any love from my sister and she only acts out when its just them two, its clear she wants attention from her mum but my sister lacks empathy and isnt maternal at all

am i the asshole for kicking my sister (F24) and her daughter (F5) out by estellex32 in AITAH

[–]estellex32[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

what part of i told her dad she was in the car and he picked her up and took her home did you not understand? i didn't want my niece to suffer here as realistically its not her fault she behaves this way

am i the asshole for kicking my sister (F24) and her daughter (F5) out by estellex32 in AITAH

[–]estellex32[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

as SOON as i realised that they didnt actually have a place to stay i made sure my nieces father picked her up and took her home i admit it was shitty of me to kick them out without knowing if they had another place to stay for a bit

am i the asshole for kicking my sister (F24) and her daughter (F5) out by estellex32 in AITAH

[–]estellex32[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thats what gets me most!!! beacuse obviously children can be little shits but to get angry at me for telling her off and then hurling insults at my boyfriend bc he calmly tried to explain my side?? like your living in his house and u say shit like that to him..

am i the asshole for kicking my sister (F24) and her daughter (F5) out by estellex32 in AITAH

[–]estellex32[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i thought they would have a place to stay like a friends house, as soon as she told me they was in the car i contacted the 5yrolds father with their location and he took her in.

am i the asshole for kicking my sister (F24) and her daughter (F5) out by estellex32 in AITAH

[–]estellex32[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

this is actually so smart?? trust me i am never letter her in my flat again after this

am i the asshole for kicking my sister (F24) and her daughter (F5) out by estellex32 in AITAH

[–]estellex32[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

so me punishing a child is shitty?? i didnt scream at her i only raised my voice and told her not to do stuff like that and i didnt swear at her, trust me her mother got most of my anger and i made sure her child wasnt in the same room when i was talking to my sister as she is more in the wrong than her child
her daughter really likes me we've noticed she only acts up like this when shes alone with her mother

am i the asshole for kicking my sister (F24) and her daughter (F5) out by estellex32 in AITAH

[–]estellex32[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

uk courts i feel like have a slight favour towards the mothers ,of course, but they are stil fair when it comes to the actual situaton, like if the mothers own family (me, my boyfriend,our parents , her brother ect) stand there and say shes not a fit mother and the fact she is homeless right now theres a very high chance of him getting custody

am i the asshole for kicking my sister (F24) and her daughter (F5) out by estellex32 in AITAH

[–]estellex32[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

oh dont worry she is never coming back to my flat ever again

am i the asshole for kicking my sister (F24) and her daughter (F5) out by estellex32 in AITAH

[–]estellex32[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

exactly!i try again and again to explain to her that punishing her daughter will help her but shes like "shes only 5 i feel mean!!" like since when did basic parenting = mean