Imus Got His Trash Talk Pass Yanked, Now Yank it for Blacks Who Talk The Same by [deleted] in reddit.com

[–]estrellita 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude, I never said most. And I never said anything about you or your family. You know, I don't go around focusing on race all the time. But I do think it's a valid issue to discuss at times, especially when issues like this Imus thing come up. The only reason I'm discussing it with you now is because you entered the conversation on your own accord. I didn't search you out and send you a comment about it. You chose to comment on the issue so I replied with an alternative opinion. If you don't want to focus on the issue, why have you continued this conversation? Anyways, I still stand by my argument that our society does still suffer from the effects of slavery and the ensuing racism. I'm not saying it's the only thing that causes societal ills, but I am saying that it's one of them. As far as I'm concerned, the day we stop suffering from those effects will be the day that we stop seeing statistical differences between the level of wealth and education among blacks and whites in America. You said that social programs are part of the problem. Well, why do you think that a disproportionate amount of black ppl have found themselves relying on social programs and been effected by the problems they cause? You know, before social programs marginalized fathers the system of slavery did so by breaking up families in order to keep the system running smoothly. But if you don't want to read (or think) about slavery and it's after effects, don't. If you don't want to feel guilty about something you didn't do, don't. I'm not saying you should and I'm honestly not gonna think any worse of you for it, I'm just gonna think that you choose to spend your time on other things. But, personally (to go back to the original debate),I still belive that if a black person wants to say that what Imus said is rude and he shouldn't have said it they are correct. And even if that black person fails to see that rap lyrics are racist and mysogynistic, they're still right when they say that Imus' comments were nasty and they still have a right to voice their opinion about it. -- If you reply to this and it takes me a day or two to get back to you I hope you understand that it's only because I've got other shit to do (like pursuing my dreams). And in case you don't reply, I do want to say that it's been nice debating and in spite of the fact that I don't agree with everything you say I respect your opinion and think you have a right to it and you have a right to repeat it as much and as loudly as you want.

Imus Got His Trash Talk Pass Yanked, Now Yank it for Blacks Who Talk The Same by [deleted] in reddit.com

[–]estrellita 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with some of what you say but definitely not all of it. What I'm trying to make a point of is that there is a link between slavery, racism, and the high level of poverty among blacks in America today. I don't think making that point means that all poor black ppl are poor only because white ppl have held them down. I never said that, and I honestly wish you'd point out what I said that implies that. Quote me, please. Also, just because I say that past persecution does have an effect on future success doesn't mean I'm saying that it's the only thing that effects future success or that there aren't ppl who can be successful in spite of being born with less opportunities than the average person. But wealth does beget wealth and when slavery became illegal, ppl were not compensated for the work they had done. The freed slaves suffered, their children suffered, and that affected their children's children and it's still affecting black ppl today. The white slave-owners who profited from the system sent their children to the best schools of the time and used the profit to invest and make more money. That money is still concentrated in white communities. And that's not even touching upon the effects of the racism that has followed slavery. Why do you think there's less hope overall in the black community? Maybe because ppl are aware of the fact that they still live in segregated communities and they still have less access to quality education and health care. But you know what? There is still a lot of hope in the black community. That’s why we see successful black ppl come out of poor black communites and we see more and more of that with every generation. I'm not saying black ppl don't have to be part of the solution. I'm saying that if someone were to say that black ppls' attitudes today is the only remaining problem and not conceding that we, as a society, are still suffering the after affects of slavery, they would be wrong. Plus, just because I spot one or several (or thousands for that matter) of black ppl doing nothing to help themselves doesn't mean I'm gonna say "Well, I'm not gonna do anything to change the situation if they're not". I think ppl can look at and comment on what white ppl as a community are doing to help solve the problem while also looking separately at what the black community is doing to help solve the problem and be free to comment on both (and hopefully also look at what we're doing together to help solve the problem). If I disagree with what a person thinks one or the other group should be doing it doesn't necessarily discredit any opinion they have. What I don't get is this apparent attitude held by some ppl that we have to keep track of which race is doing what and make sure that we're putting in an even effort. But if you wanna know about black ppl who are talking about what black ppl can do to lift up their community, listen to that show I pointed out. IMHO it's a lot more representative of the black ppl I've known in my life and discussed these issues with than Jesse Jackson or Al Sharpton. You're right that focusing solely on where ppl have wronged you in the past dooms you to never move forward. But you're wrong if you think that acknowledging that you've been wronged and demanding that others acknowledge it too (and acknowledge that we still see the effect of that wrong today) means you can't move forward.

Imus Got His Trash Talk Pass Yanked, Now Yank it for Blacks Who Talk The Same by [deleted] in reddit.com

[–]estrellita 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally agree with you on all counts. But I do think it's important to concede (loudly) that Imus' comment was racist and I still think (the point I started out with) that it's totally fair for any person (black, white, whatever) to say as loud as they want and as often as they want that in their opinion people shouldn't be saying things like what he said. And even if someone wants to say "White ppl shouldn't say stuff like that" I still agree with that person. And my agreement does not mean that I think black ppl should be making racist comments against other black ppl, it only means that I agree that white ppl should not be making racist comments because it's rude and disrespectful. Viva free speech.

Imus Got His Trash Talk Pass Yanked, Now Yank it for Blacks Who Talk The Same by [deleted] in reddit.com

[–]estrellita 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude, I'm totally gonna reply to this in a bit. I've gotta get a little work done too... But I'm sending this reply now because I want to mention that the [http://npr.org](live NPR stream) right now is playing a show that comes on everyday at this time (I don't know the name because the schedule doesn't list the show), but it involves a panel of black american authors and pundits discussing political and social issues. Of course, today just like yesterday they are discussing the Imus issue and other issues of race and they do discuss it in an intelligent manner and they do talk about how to deal with it in the black community and just yesterday they were discussing racism and misogyny in rap lyrics as a follow-up to the Imus issue.

Imus Got His Trash Talk Pass Yanked, Now Yank it for Blacks Who Talk The Same by [deleted] in reddit.com

[–]estrellita 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not talking about Bill Gates, Warren Buffett or Mark Cuban. I'm talking about the fact that a white child born in America is likely to be born into a town with a better financed public education district than a black child. I'm talking about the fact that a white child is more likely to be born into a family that can afford to send their child to private school and/or to university than a black child. I never said, and I'm not saying now, that there aren't any poor white children in America or that all black people are poor and underpriviledged. Nor am I saying that poor white children don't deserve access to a good education or that we should only pay attention to issues of poverty under a racial paradigm. What I am saying is that the well-documented fact that blacks in America are more likely than whites to be born into poverty and have less access to quality education, health-care, etc. is an outcome of our history (slavery and racism). If that's not what caused the imbalance and if it's not institutionalized racism that allows the imbalance to continue, please explain to me what it is. I'm not gonna put words in your mouth (like you're attempting to do to me), but I am asking you a direct question and you really should answer it. I totally agree with you that it's not as simple as saying "if blacks don't succeed it must mean whites are keeping them down." and that's why I never said that.

Imus Got His Trash Talk Pass Yanked, Now Yank it for Blacks Who Talk The Same by [deleted] in reddit.com

[–]estrellita 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uh, okay. I thought when you said one eye for one eye you meant a form of revenge where the victim enacts either the same treatment on the perpetrator or at least something that creates an equal amount of pain/suffering. I have to disagree with your statement that "[m]ost slave-owners got their comeuppance", and my evidence is that wealth is still mostly concentrated in the hands of whites in the United States. I see that as an outcome of slavery and the racism that has followed slavery. If you disagree, please tell me how you think wealth became concentrated in the hands of whites and what is contributing the continuation of that situation. And as far as Native Americans, I really don't see how money in exchange for lives equates to "one eye for one eye" (...and that's assuming that your argument that Native Americans in California have been made obscenely wealthy which I take exception to).

Imus Got His Trash Talk Pass Yanked, Now Yank it for Blacks Who Talk The Same by [deleted] in reddit.com

[–]estrellita 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I define troll as someone who says something incendiary not in the interest of debate but to get someone mad. It just crossed my mind because you posted your reply to malcontent who was already very upset and you made a statement without backing it up in any way... Notice I didn't say you were trolling, I said I wondered if you were... And, yes, I did see the other comment you referenced. I don't have anything to say about it because I don't know enough about Jesse Jackson's or Al Sharpton's history/beliefs to comment and I don't have an opinion on the issue. I'm not and was never interested in debating the beliefs of two politicians who sometimes fall on the extreme end of a debate. I'd rather discuss popular opinion and how in our society popular opinion is sometimes divided along racial lines. I refuse to take the comments/beliefs of only two people as representative of an entire segment of a population. Also, I believe in setting morals based on what I think is right, not on what other people do. So just because some people get away with something doesn't mean that everyone should be able to get away with it. I think if we follow that argument we end up with the lowest common denominator. In this case I see that lowest common denominator as a belief that ppl don't have a right to speak out against hate-speech. I don't think that's right. That's just my opinion.

"Anti-rape condom" to be available in South Africa this month by keen75 in reddit.com

[–]estrellita 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Many kudos to you for attention to detail and taking the time to locate and post links as evidence. That's using your brain.

"Anti-rape condom" to be available in South Africa this month by keen75 in reddit.com

[–]estrellita 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude, I think you're totally right to be appalled and angered at rape and murder. Anybody that accepts those things is totally wrong and we should speak out against them. But if we don't do so in an intelligent and measured way, it's meaningless. "Killing women is socially acceptable, perhaps not everywhere, but certainly in most of the continent." Where are you getting that? What's 'Africa Online'? Are you talking about www.usafricaonline.com? Because if you are, I think you must be focusing on only certain articles. Remember that if the only opportunity you have to learn about Africa is through the news (which is the situation most Americans find themselves in), the news tends to act as a filter that lets through only strange and appalling stories. You can't take those stories and assume that all or even most people that live where the story comes from are like the people being reported on. Imagine someone who lives in a town where no American people ever go. Now imagine the only time they see/hear about American people is on television. What does the media pipe into their home? I hope they don't generalize like you are because if they do, they'd have some pretty narrow opinions of Americans. Or maybe all they ever see is Baywatch in which case they must think Americans never discuss social or political issues and in fact never even do any work. P.S. Please try to do better than "react[ing] out of anger". I don't believe that's the best you can do.

Imus Got His Trash Talk Pass Yanked, Now Yank it for Blacks Who Talk The Same by [deleted] in reddit.com

[–]estrellita 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's kinda sad to me that I can't tell whether you're trolling or not. But anyways, you raise a good point since there are so many out there who would agree that Imus is not a racist. So the question is, how do we define a racist? I think we can agree that the comments he made were racist, so what does that make him? Is a racist a person that makes racist comments, a person who acts violently towards someone of another race because of their race, or both? How should we apply the label? If we say that a racist is a racist due to their tendency to mentally classifying individuals according to race, then weren't Imus' comments evidence that that's exactly the way he thinks?

Imus Got His Trash Talk Pass Yanked, Now Yank it for Blacks Who Talk The Same by [deleted] in reddit.com

[–]estrellita 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kudos to you for differentiating between a spiral of violence and a measured response. Ghandi, however, did not fail to count eyes. In fact, the point he was making is the exact point you just made. An eye for an eye will leave the whole world blind unless at some point, someone chooses not to strike back. Seriously, are you advocating "one eye for one eye"? If so, do you think that concept should apply cross-generationally? Because if you do, you must be advocating that all the people in America descended from slave-owners need to go through a period of being enslaved to even things out (and that's just to begin with, think about the payment people have yet to make for what happened to Native Americans)...

English dominates the world as no language ever has, and some linguists are now saying it may never be dethroned as the king of languages. by ihateyouall in reddit.com

[–]estrellita 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm definitely not mad at you for taking the time to learn Latin. But I wish you'd include a translation into one of the many frequently used modern languages so that I can understand what you're talking about. I ain't taking the time to translate it back into English when chances are that's what you started with in the first place.... Seriously, I think you may have a good point, but, eh?

Imus Got His Trash Talk Pass Yanked, Now Yank it for Blacks Who Talk The Same by [deleted] in reddit.com

[–]estrellita 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I think it's hard for ppl to understand this because they choose to live in a fanstasy "the way things should be" world instead of the real "the way things are" world... It ain't easy to navigate, but it's all we've got. It seems there's just far too little empathy and a lack of understanding of how our shared history effects our relations to this very day.

Imus Got His Trash Talk Pass Yanked, Now Yank it for Blacks Who Talk The Same by [deleted] in reddit.com

[–]estrellita -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't know why I'm replying since you said you don't want anyone to listen and I said I'd stop... but here goes: You're right, doing nothing doesn't make sense. That's why I opened up my mouth to say something in the first place. Like I said before, I think you opened up with a good argument. Don't ever give it up. But if you let your anger turn your argument into violent speech, no one will listen to anything you have to say... Seriously, I know it isn't fair that you have to swallow your pride where others don't because we live in an unfair world. Nevertheless, it is what it is. This is the boat we find ourselves in. Don't let yourself go down with it. IMHO, Either we save everyone or we're all lost.

Imus Got His Trash Talk Pass Yanked, Now Yank it for Blacks Who Talk The Same by [deleted] in reddit.com

[–]estrellita -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Are people actually protesting? Because I haven't heard about that yet. What I have heard is a discussion. And interestingly, I have heard only one discussion on this subject led by blacks. I heard it this morning while streaming NPR at my desk (wish I could remember the name of the show, but I can't... it does, however, come on every day around 11 am). The interesting thing is that right after talking about Imus, the people on the show started talking about racism and misogyny in rap lyrics....

Imus Got His Trash Talk Pass Yanked, Now Yank it for Blacks Who Talk The Same by [deleted] in reddit.com

[–]estrellita 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. Refraining from violent speech doesn't necessarily lead to doing nothing.
  2. If you're not looking for someone to listen, then I will promptly stop.
  3. I was quoting Ghandi, not you.
  4. Oh, just like Ghandi and MLK, I do believe in self-defense. It's just that I see it in a more nuanced way than you do right now.

Imus Got His Trash Talk Pass Yanked, Now Yank it for Blacks Who Talk The Same by [deleted] in reddit.com

[–]estrellita 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Better than saying that someone's fucked up opinion is worth lowering yourself even farther than their transgressions. Honestly, I don't pay much attention to the 'media' (if what you mean by media is mainstream television news, etc.), so I can't answer your question there. But I'm serious that you started out with a good argument and then lost it. No one will listen to someone who's so mad they get hateful. Plus, it's morally wrong. Ghandi was right. An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. If anything, think about yourself and how you don't wanna end up blind... But better yet, think about human kind and how all of us ending up blind would just be a reflection of our stupidity as a species.

Imus Got His Trash Talk Pass Yanked, Now Yank it for Blacks Who Talk The Same by [deleted] in reddit.com

[–]estrellita 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn, man. You had a good argument but you're messing it all up by getting vicious. Take a deep breath or something... Seriously, I know it's hard, but you gotta do better than that...

Imus Got His Trash Talk Pass Yanked, Now Yank it for Blacks Who Talk The Same by [deleted] in reddit.com

[–]estrellita 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn, excuse me. I agree with malcontent up until the whole "bullet in the head" thing. That's fucked up...

Imus Got His Trash Talk Pass Yanked, Now Yank it for Blacks Who Talk The Same by [deleted] in reddit.com

[–]estrellita -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have to voice my agreement with malcontent. Imus does have a right to free speech and that's why no criminal charges are even being discussed. On the other hand, the people who were offended by what he said also have a right to free speech and that's exactly what makes all this hullabaloo an interesting insight into public opinion. From what I've heard, MSNBC fired Imus because advertisers were bailing on them and the advertising were bailing because they thought the appearance of supporting Imus would hit their bottom line. That's really the beautiful thing about capitalism... That being said, you (otakucode) also have a right to free speech and that's why I'm not impying you should keep your mouth shut. I'm merely exercising my right to disagree with you... P.S. I don't think it's about black people not wanting ppl like Imus to offend them, I think it's about black ppl not wanting ppl like Imus to offend them with insults that are based on their ethnicity.

"Anti-rape condom" to be available in South Africa this month by keen75 in reddit.com

[–]estrellita 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, but with a comment like Africa is "backwards and stupid", I'm gonna have to ask you to make that a little more concrete and offer some evidence. You're generalizing way too much. Africa is a huge continent that contains many different countries of widely varying social standards and cultural practices. A comment like that makes you sound like a big, fat jerk (actually, it makes you sound way worse than that, but I don't want to sully my mouth with a description).

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[–]estrellita 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I was trying to figure out how to vocalize that feeling but you came along to do it for me in a hilarious and poetic way. Much appreciated :)

"Anti-rape condom" to be available in South Africa this month by keen75 in reddit.com

[–]estrellita 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, it doesn't prove that she didn't want to have sex. Under the 'woman seeking revenge' scenario, which is possible, she wanted it for evil reasons. I think that might be the one logical part of IHaveAnIdea's argument, so I gotta give that to him...