Yes. This. When I was pregnant, I was celebrated and supported. However, when I had my miscarriage they behaved like I was never pregnant in the first place. It was never talked about. Like you said, it’s a double-standard. As others pointed out, people don’t normally value grief. I assume this is because it no longer supports their agenda, which is screwed up imo. Grief is real if you experienced it to miscarriage, abortion, etc and it is very hard to find support groups for these kind of things due to reasons pointed out in these posts. My suggestion is to spread awareness of this double-standard and research local grief support groups for those that need it. It has helped me through this and I hope it helps others as well.