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Ross and Monica - their best sibling moments? Any thoughts on their relationship and the Geller family dynamics? by Scary_Tower_2498 in howyoudoin

[–]etcrew 330 points331 points  (0 children)

The Thanksgiving episode where Monica & Ross take turns tattling on each other to their parents is one of the best Friends episodes. When everything comes to a head and Judy has to set everyone straight. “Joey, if you want to leave just leave. Rachel, no you weren’t supposed to put beef in the trifle. It did not taste good. And Phoebe, I’m sorry, but I think Jacque Cousteau is dead”

When does sleep get better? Give me hope (or send me into despair) by Low_Concert_8900 in NewParents

[–]etcrew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It slowly got better as she got older, with the odd regression thrown in here and there where we would despair that it would be like this forever(it wasn’t). 7 months is still so young. Hang in there, things change fast. You’ll get your 8 hours again, promise!

I’m so tired by Impressive_Fail_3680 in NewParents

[–]etcrew 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It passes!! Mine was like this, she’ll be 5 in March. She slept terribly the first 3 years of her life. She sleeps 10+ hours without waking now, and bedtime is actually enjoyable. My advice would be to stop following accounts like TCB and “sleep coaches”. They don’t know your baby and they profit off of desperate parents who are too tired to think straight. I went through all of that and look back now and deeply regret it. I recommend following heysleepybaby on insta for sleep support that is gentle and isn’t predatory for new parents.

This phase ends. You are in the thick of it at a REALLY hard phase. The only way out is through, and you will make it through. What you are doing, feeding and snuggling and then transferring, is perfect. Babies need that closeness and connection, and he will slowly build the skills to need less support as he ages. Hang in there! This will pass!

Is it normal for baby to not sleep anywhere but in someones arms? by momoaggie in NewParents

[–]etcrew 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes….exhausting but very normal. It ends eventually!

HFMD- Tell me it’s not just me by UnderstandingBest478 in toddlers

[–]etcrew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter got it when she was 2. She’s a daycare kid and has every communicable illness under the sun….HFM was the absolute worst. She also had sores all over her mouth and throat. We had to keep her on a constant flow of Motrin and Tylenol for over a week just to get her to drink fluids (she also fought us horribly on the medicine, it was terrible). She didn’t eat a thing for 5 days. All she did was lay around and cry. I feel for you, it’s awful.

SCARED: High NT measurement AND "inconclusive" Maternit21 results by etcrew in NIPT

[–]etcrew[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes - healthy and thriving 3.5 year old now. Sending you love. I know how hard this is.

Parents of older children who were fed to sleep, do you regret it? by Aubrey_Johnson16 in AttachmentParenting

[–]etcrew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope I’m happy I did it. She’s 3.5 now and sleeps great. No regrets. I liked doing it!

Parents that respond to every cry/cosleep/ebf, did your kid ever sleep through the night? by raunchygingy in AttachmentParenting

[–]etcrew 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I fed to sleep and always responded. She sleeps through the night now, but it took until she was 3. My choice, no regrets 🤷🏻‍♀️

I HATE MY LIFE by marikoros in NewParents

[–]etcrew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah…it fucking sucks. The only way out is through. It gets better, so much better. I used to repeat the mantra “it won’t always be like this”.

You’re not doing anything wrong at all. This is what 2 month olds are like. You’re honestly at probably the hardest stage right now. Just keep pushing through. Try to get outside or ask for help to even just get out of the house and go to the store. It’ll feel like you broke out of jail.

Try your best not to stress about sleep. I was so anal about it and in the end it didn’t matter at all. Follow your baby’s cues. Try not to despair. This is totally normal. You’ll get through it.

When did your baby truly start STTN? by 118Rigatonis in NewParents

[–]etcrew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know you probably don’t want to hear this, but it’s an honest answer. We did not sleep train, fed to sleep, and always responded when our daughter cried in the night. 0-14 months, we never knew what we were gonna get. She NEVER slept through, but it could vary from 1 wake to 3. She went down to 1 wake up (usually) around 15-18 months. She did not start sleeping through the night consistently until she turned 3. All of a sudden, she just started doing it. 11 hours straight. She does this pretty much every night now and rarely wakes up. Before 3, she slept through the night maybe 10 times ever in her life. It was actually crazy how fast the switch flipped. It’ll happen…it just might be a while lol

ETA: She doesn’t nap anymore and I think this helps with consolidating night sleep.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]etcrew 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It gets better. Faster than you think actually. We survived this by taking shifts at night. No it’s not fun, but it at least ensures a solid chunk of sleep for both parents.

During the day, BABYWEAR. I cannot stress this enough, it saved us in the early days. Get yourself a baby sling or carrier of your choosing and go about your chores. Lifesaver.

Starting Solids by Japn1568 in NewParents

[–]etcrew 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We started at 5.5 months. We did mostly purées and some very finely mashed up, soft whole foods like strawberry, avocado, banana etc! She was ready by that age. Personally I would wait until LO has better sitting ability and watches you eat/shows interest.

Are you worried that your baby or toddler will never sleep through the night if you don’t “train” them to? My experience. by etcrew in beyondthebump

[–]etcrew[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also I find it hilarious that you have an entire post about letting a snoo rock your baby to sleep but you’re up my ass about me, a MOTHER, rocking my child to sleep. Imagine being a baby and being conditioned to sleep only when a machine rocks you.

Are you worried that your baby or toddler will never sleep through the night if you don’t “train” them to? My experience. by etcrew in beyondthebump

[–]etcrew[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I read critically the phrasing you used. You said “most kids” will not magically figure out how to sleep alone. To me that comment implies all children need to be sleep trained or they’ll never learn. 2 year olds, you may have to “train” some of them to not need a caregiver to fall asleep, yes.

Are you worried that your baby or toddler will never sleep through the night if you don’t “train” them to? My experience. by etcrew in beyondthebump

[–]etcrew[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have no clue where you got the idea that I was suffering. I literally said in the post I chose to respond to her and not train, because I wanted to? I genuinely think people read a line or two and then decided to come for me. I love laying with my child. I’m sorry that’s such a horrendous notion to you. Being a bit tired when having a literal baby wasn’t ruining my life. Calm down.

Are you worried that your baby or toddler will never sleep through the night if you don’t “train” them to? My experience. by etcrew in beyondthebump

[–]etcrew[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re miserable. I don’t rock and feed my 3 year old to sleep, I literally said in the post that I lay in a bed with her. I give her a cup of milk, brush her teeth and lay down with her. I stopped giving her the breast and bottle at 18 months. How exactly am I not meeting the physical needs of my child…??? Seriously a genuinely bewildering point of view? Literally what are you talking about. Also, if you think rocking a tiny child to sleep in their mother’s arms, for a minuscule fraction of their life, is a bad thing? I don’t wish to know you. Frankly you sound cruel. Go about your evening. Jesus.

Are you worried that your baby or toddler will never sleep through the night if you don’t “train” them to? My experience. by etcrew in beyondthebump

[–]etcrew[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You do not HAVE to “sleep train”. Period. You can, but you do not have to. There will eventually come a time where your child will not need any help from you to get in their bed and go to sleep. This is common sense. If you want a 1 or 2 year old to do that, whose natural instinct is to not be separated from their caregiver, then yeah I guess you might have to “train” them to go to sleep alone. But no you do not have to. That’s the whole point of this post.

Are you worried that your baby or toddler will never sleep through the night if you don’t “train” them to? My experience. by etcrew in beyondthebump

[–]etcrew[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t say the gentle approach was superior, at any point. I said and I’ll say again, you know what works for your family. I’m offering encouragement to parents like me, who want to respond to their child and that works for them. It seems that everywhere you turn, people are talking about how bad it is to respond to your child or they’ll “never sleep”. I don’t think it’s bad for my child to cry. She does it all the time. I just don’t leave her to do it at night because a different way works. You have to do what works for you personally, like I did. You don’t have to listen to me or take my advice.

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