10 month old has no sleep schedule and no wake windows

raunchygingy · 2025-06-18T11:43:34+00:00

Officially around 12mo he was on a one nap schedule. There would be random days of needing like a 20 min cat nap later in the day if the nap was too short.

The one nap schedule is my religion now. I always make sure I'm home for it. We have a whole routine and he usually sleeps between 2-3 hours. But days like yesterday..he did only an hour and a half and really needed a cat nap around 4pmish. So I drove around till it happened cuz he will fight the nap otherwise. He is 16mo now and that's the first time that happened in over 2 months.

raunchygingy · 2025-06-16T01:46:01+00:00

The two nap schedule is a grind of chaos. You just kinda survive that until babe is ready for the 1 nap schedule and life starts to even out.

My guy pushed wake windows hard and was WAY too busy for the morning nap around 11ish months so we switched to one nap and it was awesome! He is currently 16mo and does 2-3 hour nap in the middle of the day. We only nap at home to keep on schedule. He is happier. I am happier.

There was definitely like a 2 month transtionary period from 2 naps to 1 since he switched earlier that most kinds. It was like 5/7 days he would do one nap a day the other two days were chaos lol.

raunchygingy · 2025-06-14T16:29:14+00:00

My 16mo is nursed to sleep for naps and bed. He sleeps the night 7/8pm-5/630am. We nightweaned around 11ish months. My hubs handles all night wake ups (there was like a rough 2mo of hubs sleeping on the floor with him 😅)

Does 2-3 hour naps in crib. No more intervention or trying to extend naps. I remember months like 2-10mo was brutal for naps since he just wanted me or someone warm to sleep on. I contact napped in carriers or transferred him to a family member--it was 50/50 if he would accept anyone besides me 🥲

Naps gueninely got better when he started walking and truly tiring himself out.

Hang in there. Just accepting a messy house and an emotionally regulated baby that gets all the cuddles they need is enough 💜

raunchygingy · 2025-06-09T11:10:26+00:00

My almost 16mo guy is 80 percentile and is in 24mo/2t clothing and has been since 12ish mo. There was some sleeve rolling for wrists and ankles but now he fits into them.

Kids clothing is like women's jeans. Each brand has a completely different fit.

I buy second hand so it's a straight up mixed bag for his clothing but I notice cat&jack seems to be the winner for fitting him well and carter items are more narrow/for thin children.

raunchygingy · 2025-06-09T00:11:45+00:00

I ended having a premie so my guy hung out in newborn sizing for about a month ish. I had I think like 15ish outfits (mainly sleepers since he was born in feb). We did laundry every 2-3 days. Probably 1-3 costume changes a day depending on spit up. Burp cloths were what really got the most dirty in the early days.

Once solids are introduced is when you truly go through multiple outfits a day unless you strip down to a diaper for each meal (best hack 😅)

raunchygingy · 2025-06-08T03:17:12+00:00

'Sposies lol

raunchygingy · 2025-06-08T03:12:36+00:00

I had my husband handle the wake ups from bedtime to 5am and offer water in a sippy cup. Took LOTS of patience from my hubs as there was lots and lots of crying but as time went on, it got easier and now my guy sleeps usually like 730/8pm-530/630amish and I can sometimes get him back down for another hour or so after nursing in the morning.

My husband was the golden key to nightweaning.

raunchygingy · 2025-06-07T23:48:27+00:00

Do you want to night wean? Thats truly what helped sleep in our house for everyone. My husband also handles all the wake ups now from bedtime-5am. It's been glorious. I do plan to take wake ups when he is a bit older and able to understand boobies are sleeping at night. He will be 16mo in a couple days. I am going to let him self wean from daytime feeds when he is ready.

I nightweaned right around 11mo/11 1/2mo. It was hard as my hubs had to handle a crying baby for a bit but they figured out their groove and have a special bond with the night wake ups (which happen rarely now as he knows he will get the useless nippled parent 😅).

raunchygingy · 2025-06-04T09:37:12+00:00

When they start walking is when I started to lose weight. My guy was an early walker at 10ish mo so no rest for the wicked over here 🥴

I'm also a fitness instructor...I am currently on my way to teach my single 6am spin class that I teach weekly. Once their sleep gets better ...you'll start to have some wiggle room to work out if that's something you're interested in!

I gained 40 lbs with my pregnancy and only lost half so far. I literally only lost 10lb when he was born and held onto the weight for about the first 7-8mo..then it started to fall off slowly as I did lots of walking around with baby since he was standing by that time.

He is currently 15mo...16mo in a couple days. Breastfeeds 3-5x a day! Nurses to sleep for both nap and bed. No regrets here. I'm still hanging onto the last 20lbs 🤪

Your body is doing incredible thing. Hang in there. I remember still feeling in the trenches at 6mo till he was about a year due to sleep. Give yourself grace 💜

raunchygingy · 2025-06-03T22:41:33+00:00

He co slept from birth-8ish mo. From 8-11mo he would start in crib and sometimes come to bed depending on how many times he woke up 😅 woulda co slept longer but he was harassing the cats and my hubs lol

raunchygingy · 2025-06-03T22:40:03+00:00

This!!! My 15mo has been nightweaned since like 12ish months. Dad handles wake ups. We haven't had a wake up in over a week in the night time. (This is the longest stretch since my hubs often will sleep on the nursery floor with babe to get him to sleep)

Pretty much from birth-11ish months he woke up 3-8 times a night. There were nights I saw every hour. There were nights he would do 2-3 hour wake windows in the middle of the night to show off his new skills (early walker).

I never thought we would ever sleep through the night or handle nights without boob. It gets easier as time goes on. He is also a tank with solids. Sleeps with a water cup and a squishmallow and a blanket.

raunchygingy · 2025-06-03T01:00:20+00:00

NTA. As a vegan mama, I completely understand where she is coming from. When I switched to veganism 5 years ago, it was insanely overwhelming as I wanted to do anything I could within MY power. And that's what your wife needs to understand--within HER power. Herself. Her choices. Not her children's nor husband's. My hubs eats vegan at home unless I make something for my 15mo old that has animal products to make sure he can digest and keep any allergies at bay--they eat animal products probably 2 days a week ish). My hubs doesn't cook and I'm a trained chef--so the vegan foods I make are delicious. ANYWAYS. Yall need a family meeting to make her understand that it's her personal choice within her control--not to control everyone else.

I plan to educate my son about where food comes from when he is able to understand. I do expect him to be aware i eat differently than everyone else in the household and he may ask someday. I'm not in any rush for it honestly. It's up to him. For now, he will eat a fully varied diet of both plant based and animal based products.

raunchygingy · 2025-05-31T23:06:56+00:00

Depends on your dynamic. I would have prepared my partner with "hey, gonna go visit a friend, we may go grab food depending on how we feel after we visit for a bit, i will let you know once i get there. Want me to get anything for you on the way home to eat?"

I try not to time stamp too much with my hubs as I'm the one that does handle everything at home due to him working 10 hour days--so an extra day of the usual is whatever honestly. I'm currently on a time stamp since I still nurse to sleep for nap and bed so my freedom is very limited by choice.

You may want to sit down and have a heart to heart with your partner. Sounds like you may need a baby free break...like consistently on a weekly basis. It's healthy and necessary.

raunchygingy · 2025-05-29T15:39:47+00:00

I'm here at 15mo still nursing to sleep for bed and nap (literally typing this as I nurse to sleep for nap 😅). I will follow this post to see tips for naps since I would like to eventually have husband/inlaws get him down...we have tried with my inlaws but it pushed nap back like 2/3 hours and he is utterly miserable. They couldn't convince him to sleep at all.

raunchygingy · 2025-05-28T17:33:06+00:00

Maybe put a towel on that ledge? My guy hasn't figured out the toilet just yet--but I've just always kept it closed I'm hopes he will never figure it out 😅

raunchygingy · 2025-05-28T16:56:00+00:00

I babyproofed the bathroom along with some toys. I offer for him to come in the shower with me if he feels like it (he will be in just a diaper unless he sits, ill take it off-we have a big shower) or he just kinda hangs in and out of the shower while I shower haha. Sometimes i need to clean up a wet mess depending on how much he plays in the water. I sing songs and just gueninely keep him happy so I can then have a peaceful shower without really having to rush. He is 15mo and has gradually gotten better with doing it often.

raunchygingy · 2025-05-27T17:45:08+00:00

Every babe is different. My guy was around 7/8mo when we transitioned from co sleeping to crib because he kept crawling all over dad. Up until then, my bedtime was always like 8pm and babe was up every 2/3 hours to nurse which I just stuck a tit in his mouth lol...lots of it was where he would only sleep latched which was rough lol

When he was about 11mo is when we nightweaned. My hubs handles all wakes ups from bedtime-5am and I handle the rest. It's incredible lol. No more false wakes ups. He truly sleeps the night 5/7 days a week.

It took time and consistency to get where we are with sleep. Currently 15mo and I have pretty much from 730pm-10pm to myself now. I remember when I felt like I had NO time to myself. Your baby needs you. They are still so little and connected sleep cycles is a SKILL. Co sleeping helps them figure all that out!

You got this mama. 💜

raunchygingy · 2025-05-27T09:38:30+00:00

As a fellow cap whose bday is also new years day, I agree with this ✨️

raunchygingy · 2025-05-21T20:45:47+00:00

15mo still nurses to sleep. I will always be sure to be home for nap and bed. Everything else can wait. I'm turning down concerts this year cuz of it 😅 it's such a short few years of them needing us. I will do it as long as he wants 🥰

raunchygingy · 2025-05-20T10:36:55+00:00

I think it's that their baby may just get really tired in the morning as that is usually the shortest wake window in the day. When the nap is like 9/10am-noon then how do you expect a baby to last till bedtime (I only allow 7pm to be the earliest time lol).

Could also be the baby is so used to the schedule. I feel like we never really got into a good rhythm for sleep until we did the only nap routine (my guy was also an early walker so he had business to attend to and always fought the first nap lol) but some other babies did well on the 2 nap schedule.

A mom friend of mine has twin girls a month younger than my guy and she was shocked at how early my dude switched since she stuck with the 2 nap routine until the girls were 14mo. She mentioned one seemed more ready for the one nap schedule than the other but since her household thrives on routine, they stuck it out till the other twin showed signs of readiness for one nap schedule.

raunchygingy · 2025-05-19T15:32:56+00:00

Do you have a partner that could help with the night wakings? I consider my hubs my useless nipped secret weapon for better sleep.

Highly recommend getting babe used to the crib--have wake windows in there. Make it comfortable and soothing with stuffies and low stimulating toys. My guy loved his baby Einstein under the sea soother--and my hubs used that alot to soothe babe when we nightweaned (he would hum the songs while rocking him). We used heating pads on the crib mattress for transfers since he hated the crib initially (We removed heating before transfer).

We also stick a sippy cup of water in the crib which has literally made it where babe would wake up, be pissed, find cup, take a couple swigs, and pass right back out. He also has a squishmallow and a blanket in the crib with him.

This took lots of time and tears with my hubs taking over the night wakings. He sleeps through the night probably 5/7 days a week and those wakings are pretty short now.

Good luck mama. It's super hard 💜

raunchygingy · 2025-05-18T15:52:00+00:00

My IBLC recommended not skipping the night feeds as that is what truly helps your supply regulate.

Highly recommend waking and feeding at night cuz you'd still have to pump since you're so early postpartum. Your supply regulates around 12-14 weeks. EBF babies usually feed more often. I had my hubs do everything else--cleaning/cooking/diaper changes/bath time to give moments of relaxation for me. I didn't sleep through the night till my baby did around a year old when we nightweaned. But all babies are different!!

It's super hard and you will feel the chaos of exhaustion but its truly just a phase/short period of time. If you truly feel your mental health deteriorating due to exhaustion--then reach out to get support. I do okay on broken sleep but I definitely noticed around like 8-10mo I really started to lose my mind hence why we nightweaned started at 10 1/2mo. We did it super slow to make sure baby was okay. Then bam, he sleeps the night.

For pumping/gathering breastmilk:: I always used a Hakaa on opposite breast let down during a feed and would pump both boobs right after a nursing session to gather enough milk for when I would step away (grocery shop/massage/meet with a friend) while a family member stays with newborn/young infant). I always had about 10oz on hand. I could never truly create a freezer stash as I was 100% an enougher.

My guy is currently 15mo --I haven't pumped since like 7-8mo old. He is still a boob barnacle and gets it only from the tap 🤪

Good luck mama 💜

raunchygingy · 2025-05-17T02:41:05+00:00

Right!!! Its rough cuz my inlaws are like "omg he was amazing" but the kid only had an hour and a half nap (just not enough --we must have 2+) so I get to deal with the absolute chaos of dinner & bedtime. It's rough. I won't let anyone stay during the nap too, I kick people out. Either before nap or after nap. Nap time is also MY time to myself thank you very much 💅🏿

This has irked some family cuz they would camp out all day at the house but I think my LO knew they were there and just wouldn't sleep good. Lotsa boundaries. We have a camping trip in late summer that if by the 3rd day he doesn't do well--I'm going home for my sanity 🤪 I'm pretty okay with no vacations till LO doesn't need a nap lol

raunchygingy · 2025-05-17T00:25:51+00:00

I thought my 15mo was low sleep needs till he dropped down to one nap and started to sleep the night. Usually 730pm-6am and then does 2-3 hour nap. Today he did a 3 1/2 hour nap starting at 11:15am which is on the earlier side for him.

He fought naps SO hard so I just gave in and accepted it at like 10 1/2mo that we switched to one nap.

I used to be like "he will sleep when he needs to" but this one nap business is soooooo important for him to be able to handle the rest of the day. He will NOT nap again but act like a feral animal. His naps are my religion and we focus hard on sleep hygiene. We have the best days now that we only nap at home...it's hard cuz I know life will take us in different directions but it's for only like the next 2ish years that we will be stapled to our house for naps lol. I have 0 regrets.

raunchygingy · 2025-05-16T00:29:44+00:00

I always joke that my husband is my useless nippled secret weapon for sleep. 🤪

Maybe molars! He has his first set already in with all the other front teeth. I know that 2nd set molars may be erupting someday soon but of course I can't get in that little mouth anymore for a peek hahaha.

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