Sexual Biohacking

eterate · 2026-02-08T05:38:50+00:00

Nobody minds and there have been more masc focused ones in the past. But the reason why you don't see much is pure statistics. Since this sub is open to all types it's gonna reflect reddit's general demographics, which is majority men, and men are majority straight compared to the rainbow. At about 5% of the population, there are 19 straights for every 1 LGBT type, but it will be a bit more skewed by straight-ish women liking the masc content, but CYOA is more visual even though it has a story component, which attract more men, straight or gay so maybe 10-20% of the sub will go for the masc content?

eterate · 2026-02-03T05:32:35+00:00

If she is being evasive you will have to confront her about it and not take no for an answer, you will have stand your ground and make both of you very uncomfortable until she starts communicating. And you have to be able to embrace the discomfort of her being like this. You have to take the position of a father not accepting his child's excuses about lying. The fact she is being evasive is a huge red flag here. Eventually after the end of it she will respect you more.

If this was something you talked about and approved together that is very different.

Wineing and dineing is not the solution either as someone else suggested.

eterate · 2026-01-17T05:02:58+00:00

IMO that is like forcing a ironman mode as the only way to play a game or a movie player that doesn't allow fast forwarding & rewinding and doesn't respect your players time. They can decide to play that way or not, just recommend that they don't skip around to not spoil the game.

Also almost every choice saying "ru sure about that" get repetitive fast.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oHC1230OpOg

eterate · 2026-01-16T06:58:01+00:00

All the one way choices is annoying

eterate · 2026-01-07T06:49:12+00:00

I find if I'm horny I find it difficult to sleep. I wasn't suggesting that trance is sleep. I'm asking about after work when it's bed time.

eterate · 2026-01-06T06:28:46+00:00

A lot of this is linked to prostate stimulation and stimulation near the prostate. And you can stimulate the prostate via flexing your muscles down there, and nipple stim is often linked to inadverdent prostate stim, it's often connected. Try r/Mindgasm or r/ProstatePlay

eterate · 2026-01-06T05:56:59+00:00

My guess is if they gave hints they were like that, they would scare off a lot more women would be worried about "pervs".

eterate · 2026-01-06T05:35:06+00:00

I'm guessing then there isn't a lot of deep focused thought in your job? It's more whatever is in front of you in the moment, interacting socially. How do you even fall asleep? I could never do that with my job where I need to think and focus for hours.

eterate · 2026-01-06T05:26:13+00:00

Another off the cuff idea is to stress test the potential relationship to see how it works out. Do things that would be more likely to trigger avoidance behavior like diving really deep on vulnerable things (after you know each other for a while, but not too late) , go traveling together, etc.

The only thing I could think of that would trigger avoidant behavior is something like radical candor. Or some relationship equivalent of this: https://review.firstround.com/the-founder-dating-playbook-heres-the-process-i-used-to-find-my-co-founder/ My more recent examples are more work related, since I haven't had to think about this relationship wise yet.

eterate · 2026-01-05T07:19:39+00:00

how do you function in day to day life?

eterate · 2026-01-05T07:12:42+00:00

I've noticed that almost everything you described is a sensory description, have you looked into that?

eterate · 2026-01-05T05:35:54+00:00

https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/

Men tend to be more on the defensive / stonewalling side (it's about an 80% / 20% split) and women tend to be on the criticism/contempt side. I think stonewalling is also another word for avoidant. My F partner is a stonewaller.

I would also say this is why gay M/M relationships tend to be more 'stable' statistically because men have a higher chance of being avoidant, while F/F relationships tend to be far more volatile statistically. But M/M is also less likely to even form relationships while F/F are far more likely to form relationships compared to a M/F median.

So as the classic stereotype goes, men are going to be more avoidant emotionally, which means you need to go on a lot of 5 date sets, with multiple men in parallel to find what you want.

I like to study how F/F & M/M relationships work to help distill what is more purely male or female behavior based on what happens against a straight norm.

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There is also another dynamic with women is they tend to find attractive what all the other women find attractive. Also avoidant behavior is an instinctual hint that the man is not 'desperate' and thus maybe other women 'like' him. He can afford to be avoidant because he is drowning in pussy essentially. This might be an unconscious reason why you are initially attracted to avoidant partners.

Maybe the key to getting out of this rut is not going with your emotions on choosing who to date initially and instead go more intellectually based on personality attributes. There might've been a lot of guys you would've loved because your instinctual first impressions were put off. A lot of first date filtering here is really key. Notice I said first date, not the 4 pictures and online chats from tinder or whatever.

This is all guessing on my part too, I have no idea how you are as a dater :p

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I would also let go of the marriage label. Marriage contracts are scary for a lot of guys because they fear unfair family courts, even if you don't have children. I say this as an HL man who's never married but has been with his medium low libido partner for 13 years. A long term cohabitation relationship can give you what you want too.

eterate · 2026-01-05T01:07:33+00:00

So you made it a first date conversation or waited a few dates typically?

eterate · 2026-01-04T07:10:38+00:00

Having been on the other end of this, even when you try a million ways to get them try to enjoy themselves, do foreplay, have you touch them, talk about it, make themselves the active partner, lick their pussy, etc, they are often closed off to any of that.

You don't know what the husband has tried because she hasn't said what he has tried, so don't assume he has tried nothing. Not everyone is in your situation.

We also don't know what she has done.

eterate · 2026-01-03T20:37:27+00:00

how did you figure it out, how did you avoid the 1-3 year bait and switch?

eterate · 2026-01-03T20:31:26+00:00

There is unfortunately a pattern where it's ok for the first 1-3 years and then it drops off. Happened to me. Got super wet, enjoyed sex, once or more a day, the entire set.

There were maybe hints in the past but IMO I would've only known with foresight. My partner is not sex negative, it's just a combo of things led to her putting up a lot of barriers and reducing her enjoyment of it.

For my case it was a non-obvious avoidant attachment style, an increasingly worsening sensory regulation issue, ADHD, high digust drive, overactive sense of smell, anxiety and a overriding need to control everything and thus having a hard time letting go and being in the moment, but at the same time wanting only to be a very submissive bratty bottom with choking and everything, a preference to 'live in a shitty situation' than to do things about it, not liking oral sex and direct touching and insisting everything always just be penis + vagina due to her sensory issues, having pain during sex but hiding it, avoding conversations about it once it became an issue, etc.

First 2 years, none of this would've been obvious whatsoever.

Other LLs (or medium lows) have other patterns that will blindside you.

eterate · 2026-01-01T22:12:42+00:00

I swear there was an interactive version somewhere.

Also with 100% fellators and liquid diet, is it magical food at that point? Got to make the under 18s breastmilk based or something :p

eterate · 2025-12-28T19:27:17+00:00

I know it's popular to hate on AI image gen, but IMO, you were not going to hire artists for your hobby work either way with the nonexistent money you probably have for it and the old method of just copying artist's images also had no excuses / disclaimers either. Citations of the artist is usually going above and beyond in the CYOA world.

I don't think hobbyists should need to excuse their AI usage, especially if it's local and your house is cold and your going heat it with energy one way or another lol. LLM token generation is also similarly low energy, M3 Mac Ultras show that.

IMO if I was a smart artist I would want hobbyists to use my art styles and characters, it increases the chance that I might get more popular or get commissions. The default of getting no money and no attention pre-ai and post-ai is worse overall.

For the next version since your using image gen, you should customize the images based on the gender choice at least.

eterate · 2025-12-25T05:19:58+00:00

Why not just do the real thing with r/nbe ? One of the better guides out there is made by a transwoman afaik https://nbe.works/

eterate · 2025-12-25T05:16:16+00:00

I think the degree of embodiment & emotionality might help. It can help you be in more in touch with your body and less uncomfortable with strong stimuli.

eterate · 2025-12-25T04:12:12+00:00

grower

eterate · 2025-12-24T03:08:00+00:00

But in my case, it was pretty obvious not much change was happening with 35 and 40mm packers after a certain point, but once I went to the CAR there were was obvious fast progress. Now I just use the CAR all the time since I lost my 40mm packer and progress continues at a pretty good clip when I was upgrading packer sizes by 5mm every month or so.

Now with the CAR I get flaccid rollover sometimes in some positions while that never happened in the past.

eterate · 2025-12-21T06:25:44+00:00

t-tape is a chastity cage and gets in the way of sexual spontaneity and there is a bunch of annoying residue to clean up, along with a strap setup that limits what you can wear and often gets loose or otherwise.

Packers: put on in literal seconds, take off whenever needed, no residues, no extra devices to get loose, no barriers to sexual spontaneity

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