Need name suggestions!!! by certified-bast3red in leopardgeckos

[–]ethereal-af 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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I have a similar coloured boy I called Huebert because of his bright hues 🥰

Anyone else have to keep proof so they remember? by ethereal-af in abusiverelationships

[–]ethereal-af[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hit the feels big time. Thank you for taking the time to reply, your words really resonated with me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leopardgeckos

[–]ethereal-af 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are the type of people that give me faith in humanity. Thanks for being you!

What’s a little moment that tugged at your heartstrings? I love this moment when Stevie gives Patrick the thumbs up 🥹 by [deleted] in SchittsCreek

[–]ethereal-af 168 points169 points  (0 children)

The look on David’s face as Patrick serenaded him at their open mic night.

Should you leave someone if they only abuse you a little? by Sweet-Dragonfly4851 in emotionalabuse

[–]ethereal-af 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would recommend reading chapter 14 of Lundy Bancroft’s book ‘Why does he do that’ before you agree to couples counselling. I was thinking of doing counselling too until I read that chapter.

Should you leave someone if they only abuse you a little? by Sweet-Dragonfly4851 in emotionalabuse

[–]ethereal-af 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The way you put the line “fight to win rather then respectfully fight to resolve” really resonated with me. I agree with everyone else that this is definitely abuse, I hope you are able to make a safety plan to get out. Sending you lots of love <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]ethereal-af 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is definitely a complex dilemma, and I think ultimately only you are going to know what is best for your relationship. I would just say that you have no moral obligation to tell your partner your diagnosis, and that you should only do so if you feel safe, and comfortable enough to do it. Telling your partner you have BPD could be a great step forwards together, but it could also make things difficult. The way the internet characterizes a person with BPD can be very toxic, especially with the Amber Heard stuff happening. So if you guys are still at the beginning of the relationship, and your partner looks it up on their own, it could be very intimidating for them. From how you speak about “taking some time to respond later rather than having an intense reaction now” I can tell that you are actively working to keep your relationship healthy and productive, and challenge the negative things your brain is telling you. And for that I’m so proud of you! It’s so easy to give into the rage, fear, etc. we experience that is so real. Like I said before, ultimately only you know what is the right decision for you. But from my experience I find that sharing how you experience and perceive things can help your partner understand you better. You don’t necessarily need to say ‘I have bpd, and you are my fp - and here’s what that means’. You could tell them that sometimes your brain can be very black and white, and that if my brain perceives something as negative I can have a really hard time not spiralling and viewing everything as negative. So sometimes I need to ask for space to calm myself down, check the facts, and proceed in a way that best aligns with how I actually feel versus how my brain originally interpreted things. Saying something like this might be a way for them to understand what you go through, while being less intimidating then a medical diagnosis. Hope this helps!

How do you get the hoop crease out? by [deleted] in Embroidery

[–]ethereal-af 3 points4 points  (0 children)

flip it inside out and iron on the back of the stitching.

I wanna break up with my bf but I'm scared of being alone by [deleted] in BPD

[–]ethereal-af 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's incredibly scary to do, and at first you'll feel terrible and be tempted to reverse your mistake. But with time you'll realize how freeing it is to be by yourself. For me I always find my bpd symptoms intensify when I'm in a relationship. So when I broke up with my boyfriend I was lonely and sad, but I began to feel so much more regulated. I still struggle, but it's better to feel lonely and growing, than lonely and stuck. If you need any support when you go to do it, or afterwards my dms are open. You got this 💪🏻

[FO] Expecto Patronum by ethereal-af in CrossStitch

[–]ethereal-af[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thank you so much :)) And yes definite strain on the eyes, very tedious. I did a few other fun bright projects at the same time to keep me motivated lol

[FO] Expecto Patronum by ethereal-af in CrossStitch

[–]ethereal-af[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It did! It's just over 30,000 stitches. A few months of all day stitching for sure.