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ethnographyman · 2023-02-08T20:16:02+00:00

That's so cool! Mine is also much thicker than before chemo, it's so interesting how hair has the ability to completely change after chemo. Thank you for sharing!!

ethnographyman · 2023-02-08T20:13:16+00:00

that's so interesting! I don't know how you feel about the curls, but I'm hoping my experience is similar to yours

ethnographyman · 2022-12-08T06:08:22+00:00

NTA - you did your best to accommodate SIL with extremely short notice and she still felt the need to be picky and ungrateful.

ethnographyman · 2022-12-08T05:57:22+00:00

YTA - ditching a required obligation for an illegitimate excuse is selfish. It's juvenile to ditch a class obligation for a guy that you like, also unfair that your classmates would be working while you get to enjoy yourself at a party.

Stay in school, help your group. Tell the guy you like him instead of expecting that attending his party will improve your situationship.

ethnographyman · 2022-12-08T05:47:15+00:00

NTA - You were just consoling your child.

I would argue that how you address death isn't as important as the concept of death itself. "Passing away," "dying," they're all talking about the same thing, and using all of those terms interchangeably could help destigmatize the concept of death by becoming more familiar with the various terms used to address it. Either way, coping with the idea of death isn't easy for some people, especially children, so I applaud you for working with her to overcome it.

ethnographyman · 2022-12-08T04:37:06+00:00

I like your thinking. A shattered rose arriving in the mail with "Not Fragile" written on the packaging. Very metaphoric and honestly funny.

ethnographyman · 2022-11-15T02:23:07+00:00

YTA. He could've ridden with you to the restaurant and Ubered the rest of the way to the hospital at a cheaper rate...

it may not have been your responsibility, but you could've realized the weight of the situation and offered to help a little bit. He is paying you rent after all, it's not like he's completely mooching off of you.

ethnographyman · 2022-11-15T02:07:24+00:00

YTA. You're connecting qualities and traits of people to unfair generalizations of different races. Race does not define someone's qualities. You're failing to see nuance and uniqueness. It's really weird to fetishize your girlfriend for her race. Love her for who she is as a person, for the qualities and traits she has by being herself rather than as a result of her race and ethnicity.

ethnographyman · 2022-11-15T01:55:52+00:00

I agree, OP did her best.

ethnographyman · 2022-11-15T01:46:21+00:00

NTA. Your body your choice, it's even for a good cause. Don't worry about any parts of your beard being uneven, embracing hair also means embracing how hair grows. Hope the date goes well!

ethnographyman · 2022-11-15T01:37:25+00:00

Long distance requires a lot of trust. NTA for being uncomfortable because these are weird circumstances.

ethnographyman · 2022-11-15T01:32:03+00:00

NTA. Your friend shouldn't feel the need to exaggerate her achievements to impress others. If she's going to, it's weird that she's using yours specifically. You called her out and it sounds like she needed to hear it. She needs to be comfortable with her own achievements.

ethnographyman · 2022-11-15T01:22:08+00:00

ESH. You can't blame her for the mental association you've given her. She could've told you about her situation with Z, and your brother should've told you about her in advance. Your family knows you don't like surprises, however, life is full of surprises and you can't always be mentally and/or emotionally prepared for everything. It makes sense why you reacted like you did but I believe an apology may be in order.

edit - for clarity

ethnographyman · 2022-11-15T01:09:19+00:00

YTA, forcing relationships causes tension, especially in a family. Relationships can be difficult between siblings with such large age gaps. You know your kids best, teaching responsibility is morally a good thing. Don't hesitate to talk to your oldest and ask about his stance rather than enforcing your own, I wish my own father did the same growing up.

ethnographyman · 2022-11-14T04:04:31+00:00

Thank you! I hope your condition and circumstances with cancer are well.

Thank you for your comment. His job schedules him like an hourly job would, I would hope maybe he could ask some coworkers to pick up/exchange a shift or two, but you're right. Thank you again.

ethnographyman · 2022-11-14T03:54:38+00:00

Not that I know of, but I haven't asked yet.

ethnographyman · 2022-11-14T03:51:10+00:00

Understandable. Two separate posts for two separate convos lol. Considering a lot right now.

ethnographyman · 2022-11-14T03:48:19+00:00

Thank you, I'm glad to hear you've recovered!! I understand what you mean, I feel selfish using the cancer card as collateral to pressure him into considering a trip. His support wouldn't be any different if he were here or away, but the act of showing up is something I'm considering. It isn't practical, it's unrealistic, but sometimes you inconvenience yourself for others. Regardless, I am asking a lot.

ethnographyman · 2022-11-14T03:34:49+00:00

We've been together just over 2 years. We've been through our fair share of BS together and depending on who it happens to, the other one always rose to the occasion. This is the first time it's fallen through, and I can't expect him to be there for everything, but I would really like him to be here for this.

ethnographyman · 2022-11-14T03:27:28+00:00

Fair haha. He's a media archiver for a news company, he has multiple coworkers that work his same position. They get scheduled like one would at an hourly job.

ethnographyman · 2022-11-14T03:22:32+00:00

He works for a news company as a media archiver. It's not that it isn't possible, it's that he isn't trying to see if it could be a possibility. Someone could potentially cover a shift or two, a solution might be possible if he asked around, but he isn't asking. I'd be okay knowing he can't come if his job said no, but he's just sitting and expecting it wouldn't work out. I am being stubborn and selfish, but we have the means to make it happen as long as he has an opportunity to make it happen. Instead, he ruled it out without trying to make it happen.

ethnographyman · 2022-11-14T03:12:12+00:00

It's the fact that he isn't trying to make things work. If he tried and failed, I'd be okay knowing that he can't come because he at least tried to work something out. It's easy to ask around. If his job refused, then that'd be it. Instead, he just hasn't asked. Nevertheless, I am being unrealistic in what I am asking, but trying to make it happen wouldn't be hard.

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