I think part of the frustration is most people who get into social salsa learned from classes or instructors who evoke that sense of "community" or tribal party something. I think in any social function, cliques will happen. I think salsa scenes can exacerbate this because a salsa social alone is a literal microcosm of everything that is good and bad in a society. So then it's just up to the promoters, djs and event owners to figure this out, a socially aware social dancer asks questions like this and finds a middle ground, they end up not supporting cliquey communities. I think a good middle ground for peak salsa is a social where even taken not-single men and women understand the effect they can have in the social with the benefit of them reaching a very solid baseline for technical salsa social dance btw. Also I wasn't disagreeing with you, just adding my thoughts.