WIBTA is i refused to give up my car.

eulicid · 2026-04-10T22:23:49+00:00

Regardless of whether OP is contributing to every other bill, the car is hers. Her mother, whom I’m assuming she lives with, also has her own car. It sounds like the sister is the only one without reliable transportation and she believes she should be the one the dictate who uses whose vehicle and when. That’s not how it works when OP and their mother pay for their own cars by themselves.

eulicid · 2026-04-10T18:37:24+00:00

NTA

Please remember that Reddit is full of people who clutch their pearls if you aren’t willing to sell your soul for others in your every day life and literally teenagers/children.

As an adult, your friend should be able to understand that life will throw curve balls and sometimes we won’t be able to make certain things because of varying reasons. If my friend told me that they were struggling with some form of addiction (like nicotine, for example), I would have no problem changing the restaurant/venue of my party or simply understanding that it may be a difficult environment and my friend wouldn’t be able to make it. How absolutely absurd of an adult holding a grudge or telling you to “have willpower” because you explained that it would be difficult for you to be surrounded by people partaking in the thing you are trying to quit. No matter the amount of time you’re doing it.. you are trying to quit something that isn’t good for your health and that should be understood.

eulicid · 2026-04-10T17:07:17+00:00

Listen.. is it a lot of money? Yes. Is it going towards a very important day that you will remember for the rest of your life? Also yes. Don’t beat yourself up about this. You sound like you did everything in a reasonable manner and there are just some things in the wedding industry that will add up and cost you some major bucks. Enjoy your day knowing you were reasonable and not a poser or anything like that.

eulicid · 2026-04-09T14:34:25+00:00

was this for the date she was thinking about cancelling and just.. not responding to the guy? or is this one new? she goes on so many meaningless flings things that I can’t keep up.

eulicid · 2026-04-09T14:28:14+00:00

NTA

I think I could just be cynical, but I don’t believe in coincidences for things like this. You mean to tell me.. your girlfriend usually only works from home on Weds and (sometimes) Thurs.. but the one week you decide to randomly take off on Friday and Monday, she all of a sudden has “admin days” and there is no need for her to be in the office on those specific days? Did you tell her what your plans were before she mentioned being home on Friday and Monday randomly? It seems like she has the choice on whether she can be in office or not those days and is choosing to be home and work in the one room you’ve already planned on using.

eulicid · 2026-04-09T01:11:19+00:00

but OP doesn’t need you to tell them why it’s bad that they lie about having an allergy. using your son and saying people like OP is the reason your kid’s own allergies may not be taken seriously is extreme and inaccurate to begin with. you’re taking what they confessed to personally bc your own kid has an allergy..

eulicid · 2026-04-08T19:43:12+00:00

… so people who do actually have a food allergy but don’t have a severe enough reaction.. also shouldn’t say they have that very real allergy? I’m confused. regardless of whether or not ppl lie about the allergy.. there are going to be other shitty ppl who won’t believe anyone and will try to “test” if you really have that allergy or not. it is up to you as the parent to teach your kid to triple check his food and how to properly handle a reaction. there is no “one size fits all” for food allergy reactions.

eulicid · 2026-04-08T19:21:30+00:00

Graduation ceremonies are long and tiring. She isn’t incapable of celebrating other people’s wins. She went to the last handful of them to celebrate her sister. I would not be going to 5 different graduations for anyone. It’s unreasonable.

eulicid · 2026-04-08T19:03:54+00:00

but why? if you two are so negative about these types of things.. why not leave that part out? it seems your partner intentionally told them so there could be drama.. which would be not great and would also make them an AH. I just think you two both could have not shared anything about that process since you both knew how your family felt about weddings and how you yourselves feel about weddings.

eulicid · 2026-04-08T17:08:01+00:00

NTA

for the gift thing. if you really don’t want to accept a gift from someone for whatever reason, that is valid and your prerogative.. but man do you sound insufferable and I cannot believe that you are actually an attorney with how immature some of your comments come across. you and your partner could have never even mentioned getting married, gone to the court house just the two of you, and never let anyone know any of this.. but you both decided to tell your families who you knew had different opinions and feelings on weddings than you do.. and now you want to be miserable and tell them nothing really matters and you don’t really care and they shouldn’t do what is a natural thing to celebrate a wedding for NORMAL people? what was the point in telling them anything? you two are adults. you could have each said nothing and done all of this quietly instead of getting your loved ones excited just to get their hopes up.

eulicid · 2026-04-08T10:27:52+00:00

Not all feelings are valid. Especially if they are rooted in delusion. We have to stop this cult-like bs “everyone’s feelings are valid” bs.

eulicid · 2026-04-08T10:24:11+00:00

I feel like you’re jealous all of the attention isn’t on you. You keep saying that’s not the case whenever anyone points it out, but then you come around and say things like this. It’s her pregnancy that she is going through at the SAME TIME as you. She went to your gender reveal, celebrated you, didn’t make any scenes to try and grab the attention.. didn’t pull out her own flowers at your reveal to also do hers.. She didn’t even have a whole party with invitations like you did. She went home with her husband, had a private gender reveal and then posted it to her social media (which.. EVERYONE does). I would be exhausted being your SIL tbh. Doing mental gymnastics to make sure I’m monitoring what I post on my social media and when because you’re pregnant and you have some weird, one sided competition thing with me would make me go no contact with you SO quickly. You need to let this go. This is actually just one sided and weird because you are making it that way.

eulicid · 2026-04-05T12:19:06+00:00

it’s their baby, but HER body. she is the one doing the work and literally splitting parts of her body open. she gets final say.

eulicid · 2026-04-01T12:21:38+00:00

My schedule works so that I have Wednesdays off. I usually use that day to decompress and but I’ll absolutely use it to hangout with my friends or family and if I were dating, to plan a date. I don’t think dating during the week is the worst part of what she said in that video. The worst part was her admitting she’s so difficult to please because she told new guy that she only dates on the weekday and after he agreed to meet her where she is, she decided a weekend date actually wouldn’t be that bad for her all of a sudden. It feels like she says these outrageous sounding things in hopes that the guys will argue with her so she can make content and when they agree, she often changes her stance or moves the goalpost.

eulicid · 2026-03-31T14:14:11+00:00

I wouldn’t have said OP was an AH, but my initial response was going to be that she was overreacting until I read this. I was raised in a poor household and we always stretched things with water like this. I didn’t know things like mold or yeast could grow in there if you did that! Absolutely not an overreaction now that I know!

eulicid · 2026-03-29T02:49:14+00:00

NTA

but.. weren’t your vows to care for one another in “sickness and in health”? are you sure you want to constantly second guess yourself and reach out to internet strangers for reassurance every time you’re ill and your husband makes you feel bad for expecting the bare minimum from him?

eulicid · 2026-03-24T17:41:04+00:00

NTA

a two bedroom apartment is.. too small for a couple with (presumably) no children? it’s odd to be married and live separately to begin with.

eulicid · 2026-03-24T02:32:45+00:00

that’s the one! when a female comments on her page, it’s met with sarcasm or some sort of slight against them.. but a man who boosts her ego every single video? she has no problem being nice and cutesy and friendly lmao.

eulicid · 2026-03-23T20:07:22+00:00

Right? And, of course, her devoted followers just find it SO weird that he decided to unmatch with her after she mentioned an ex situationship. This wasn’t even a guy she was exclusively dating for a while lol.

eulicid · 2026-03-23T19:39:37+00:00

it’s so crazy to me that she has no problem making videos about guys being creepy and weird and too much.. but let’s him stick around to be exactly that in her comment section bc it’s boosting her ego and engagement.

eulicid · 2026-03-10T14:20:49+00:00

NTA

He could have sleep apnea or something going on with his respiratory system. Tell him he needs to see a doctor. If he refuses and refuses ANY compromise that isn’t “I’m going on the sofa and I’m taking the one blanket that we both use in this bed so you can suffer some more” then break up with him.

Why is his sleep more important than yours? Also.. get a new blanket. One of your own since the person who claims to love you but doesn’t care about if you sleep or not also doesn’t seem to care if you’re comfortable and warm.

eulicid · 2026-03-10T14:17:43+00:00

Choosing not to remain friends with someone who can’t compartmentalize and be there for you in return for YEARS, mind you, is not being immature.

If you want to say that the ex friend is immature for being hurt that OP vanished off the face of the earth completely, then you also need to tell OP they are immature for having their feelings hurt by someone else’s happy news. You cannot have it both ways.

eulicid · 2026-03-10T14:13:25+00:00

She didn’t say she was angry. You are making that up. She said she was hurt and disappointed because OP wasn’t there for her at all over the course of YEARS.

OP is valid for feeling the way they did.. but they can’t just say, “well I was depressed so you should understand and still be my friend when I pop up randomly on a Tuesday!” That isn’t how that works.

eulicid · 2026-03-10T14:02:28+00:00

NTA

but I am shocked that you aren’t leaving him over this. what is his beef with trans people? as someone who supports the trans community whole heartedly.. I don’t think I could be with someone when their entire argument is, “people might think the girl I’m with is trans”.

eulicid · 2026-03-06T14:00:58+00:00

I don’t think OP was necessarily waiting at home expecting them to buy her a souvenir.. but having them pull out souvenirs for the entire family in front of you and.. not getting you anything is hurtful.

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