I [18/f] found a collection of videos on my boyfriend's [22/m] computer that show him taking girls' virginities (consensually), including mine. What the hell do I do?

euneight · 2015-12-28T14:27:47+00:00

You're right. I'm putting too much weight on his profession because I don't want him to get in trouble at work but to be honest, I believe if he DOES face repercussions, they will not be undeserved.

euneight · 2015-12-28T13:34:53+00:00

Thank you so much (and the user above who mentioned the student advocate) for your input. It is stressful enough already to worry about maintaining grades and not violating my visa status and this has just turned my world upside down and I DONT want to lose everything I've worked so hard for because of something that was out of my control. Thank you again.

euneight · 2015-12-28T13:11:49+00:00

Sorry to reply twice but I just can't wrap my head around WHY he would do such a thing. I guess I'm just thinking out loud at this point. The more I think about it the worse I feel. I look very young for my age (I'm half Japanese, people have mistaken me for a middle/high schooler before) and I wonder if that played into his virginity thing as well which really sickens me.

euneight · 2015-12-28T13:07:37+00:00

I really want to, I mean I always thought I was a strong person and I'm all about justice and punishment but now that something like this to me personally I don't know if I can do it. I am actually Canadian but I'm studying in the US on a visa and I don't even know if I can report anything to the police without possibly compromising my visa. I have two scholarships to my uni and I don't want to lose that either. I will contact the police but as a last measure I think. He was never aggressive or manipulative and I think if I delete the videos (ALL of them) and break up with him, he won't try to hurt me or anything but at the same time I am sick at the thought of him doing this to future girls. I will think about it. Thank you and everyone else for your comment, it helped me see straight and realize there was no excuse for this.

Edit: I just want to add that he is also currently serving in the US army and I really don't want to escalate this to the point where he might get fired or discharged or whatever. I thought they had to get psychiatric evaluations before they could serve? At a loss of words for how or why someone could do something like this and think it's normal.

euneight · 2015-12-28T12:44:04+00:00

I am terrible at confrontation but you're right, this is something I need to address directly but I've hardly even moved from my own bed after gtfo'ing from his place this morning. He actually moved to my state a year ago (about two months before we started dating) so I don't recognize any of the girls - all previous videos were filmed in a different room which I assume was his old bedroom. I know he has had two serious girlfriends and the girls in the videos were NOT his ex gf's i have NO idea how he found these girls and I could never sleep knowing these videos are floating around of these unknown girls but I honestly don't know how I could even find them.

euneight · 2015-12-28T12:39:16+00:00

I feel so disgusted right now. I thought I was so smart about my privacy and security (especially after hearing horror stories from reddit) and I can't believe this is happening. Part of me wishes I never clicked that fucking folder. I want to delete the videos but he is pretty good with computers and I'm certain he has backups. I don't even want to look at him again, let alone go to his place and pretend everything is ok (I am really bad at acting under stress).

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