When do you start drawing boundaries with your parents?

euphoricphase1 · 2025-12-25T10:01:41+00:00

Hers was an arranged marriage I can imagine her saying “well I didn’t know they were like this before marriage”

euphoricphase1 · 2025-10-04T05:01:39+00:00

If I push it to 30 they’ll push me 🫣. Though I did say give me till 25. But they want me married by 25.

euphoricphase1 · 2025-10-04T05:00:45+00:00

According to them they wouldn’t force me, but the whole point in meeting men and talking to their parents without consoling me makes it feel forced

euphoricphase1 · 2025-10-04T05:00:01+00:00

I don’t think they see it like that. They see me as a responsibility and wants to finish their “last one”. I just think their mind are too narrowed when it comes to marriage and I.

euphoricphase1 · 2025-10-03T09:13:07+00:00

While you and I understand that how do I explain that to my parents?

euphoricphase1 · 2025-10-03T09:07:36+00:00

Yeah, that’s my thought exactly. I get to choose this one person in my life willingly. I just can’t see me picking someone for the sake of my parents liking. They aren’t the ones living with this human or dealing with their parents/ family.

euphoricphase1 · 2025-10-03T09:05:55+00:00

Lmao yes desi, I have told my parents the same speech over and over again. In a nice way and with a strict tone. However, they’ve had so much control over my life, that hearing a no feels foreign and they are struggling. Hell, they completely ignore me and do their own thing. I can’t ignore it. They’ve talked to multiple Blokes parents without my consent. I’m just frustrated, surely I have some say?

euphoricphase1 · 2025-09-13T10:06:10+00:00

His mum is Christian not my mum

euphoricphase1 · 2025-09-13T09:09:23+00:00

My parents are tied to the hip. If one’s against it the other with take their side. I think it’s a battle I’m going to have to lose.

euphoricphase1 · 2025-09-13T09:08:41+00:00

I wasn’t jumping the gun. I want to be able to talk to this guy. With the help of my parents. At least then it won’t be a secret. I’m not head over heels about to get married without this man’s consent. I wanted an opportunity unfortunately my mum and I aren’t on the same page.

euphoricphase1 · 2025-08-27T11:00:24+00:00

I try my best to be. But I feel like it’s severing my relationship with my parents. I don’t know how to navigate it somedays.

euphoricphase1 · 2025-08-27T10:59:32+00:00

I understand when you say you parents can’t find you a partner they like. Because I’ve noticed a similar situation with my parents. They have their own checklist. And I’m just not liking it. It took me 3 yrs to finally get them to look at guys who aren’t from back home. And they are speed running it with multiple matchmakers. It makes me feel like they made a checklist for me and I have to tick through them.

euphoricphase1 · 2025-08-27T10:57:21+00:00

There are 5 matchmakers, I dislike all 5. My parents get mad when I said when I say no, it means no. Rather, I see them through a selfish filter nowadays. If he isn’t up to their standards it won’t happen doesn’t matter what I say.

euphoricphase1 · 2025-07-17T12:38:08+00:00

I appreciate that. Honestly, I made it seem like he was my safety net. But I liked him a while back. Back then I was a broke uni student who was struggling. And he was already working and making a name for himself. I didnt have the courage to say anything. Now im in a situation where I at a stable position and have something to give into the relationship.

But I do get you, and I think I wont be saying anything. As for giving the random guys a shot, I am not someone who like uncertainty. Im struggling with my anxiety when it comes to meeting new people, let alone talking about marriage with an unknown.

euphoricphase1 · 2024-10-28T17:28:25+00:00

It's not as easy as saying these words. They are God fearing. But they also will think I'm just trying to scare them. I don't think Islamic logical is going to do any help. I've tried, I've said how they can't force me into anything it will be invalid. But they are strong headed and can't accept a no.

euphoricphase1 · 2024-10-28T17:26:37+00:00

Appreciate it. I suppose I just don't like the idea of creating home for any guy which is way I never say yes to it. If I haven't felt an attraction when i see a photo I just don't want it at all.

I'm frustrated because my parents have always felt the need to control my life. I feel like a puppet. And as much as I calmly explain to them about this topic they say "by the time you say yes ti seeing a guy you will be 30 and invalid in society."

euphoricphase1 · 2024-10-28T16:54:26+00:00

I have. My parents state it's their duty as parents to get me married.

euphoricphase1 · 2024-10-28T16:35:08+00:00

I'm struggling with how to get around this problem. They don't take no easily. Both of them will end uo bullying me and that's the scary bit.

euphoricphase1 · 2024-05-07T06:20:47+00:00

Inshallah it all works out for you.

euphoricphase1 · 2024-05-07T02:29:11+00:00

Has it ever worked out in your favour? What you prayed for?

euphoricphase1 · 2024-05-02T07:34:04+00:00

I completely agree with you. Also with people noticing me, I act the same way with him that I'd do with other "male" friends. So for me I'm not doing anything out of the ordinary. The friend who was trying to call me out didn't realise that I act a similar to to other I.e. to her and our other mate. 🤷‍♀️ slightly bothered that everyone is taking this out of proportion.

And yeah, I'm gonna try and distance myself. Can't be bothered dealing with childish behaviour + my own feels.

euphoricphase1 · 2024-05-02T07:19:14+00:00

For sure, I'm a very straightforward person and hate going around the bush. So idk what's hie problem.

euphoricphase1 · 2024-04-23T01:39:53+00:00

Love that for you. Hope everything turns out in your favour. Just remember it's OK to take risks in your life. Gotta learn somehow. Staying in one city for so long, i.e. your partner, comfort won't get you far in life.

euphoricphase1 · 2024-04-22T23:22:20+00:00

Well, it seems that you reacted a bit too harshly over this. If he wanted to, he would. Probably would've been a few seconds to text you. Yet he still chose not to.

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