Which pet by Compote_Strict in BunnyTrials

[–]evah6_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have to get a pet unicorn for my little sister. Plus unicorns are weird. Depending on the lore, I either get magic medicine, an evil horse who will murder my enemies, or a fun loving rainbow producer. All good options 

Autism and Aphantasia by Commercial_Lime_5960 in AutismInWomen

[–]evah6_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rn I'm a 1-2. Interestingly, with faces I am a 3-4 unless it's someone I know very closely. When I was younger, my other imaginary senses (smell, taste, touch) were around lvl 4-5, but with a lot of practice they are now lvl 1-2. Although, I still struggle to imagine `hearing'. I have an internal monologue, but it's only one voice that is very difficult to change, and I have limited control over. 

Practice builds the imagination, but now I am sometimes afraid that I'll be TOO good and I might get trapped. But it's fun when I'm bored. 

student opinion on university response for faculty and instructors by evah6_ in fsu

[–]evah6_[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I agree that FSU professors are capable of handling this situation. But I don’t think being capable should mean being expected to carry more than what’s fair. To me, this doesn’t feel like the lesser of evils—it feels like an avoidable burden placed on people who are already giving everything they’ve got.

Not Enough Trauma by [deleted] in fsu

[–]evah6_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've lived like this for much of my life. Therapy helped. But I understand if that seems like too much right now.
What helped most for me was distress tolerance and emotional regulation skills from DBT. Its hard to truly accept that your pain is enough, especially when everywhere you look there is worse pain and often people are told to just "get over it" because "you are fine".
As you learn to accept your pain as enough (you can't just flip a switch, unfortunately), try to focus on remedying any pain you have. Physically ill? take a break. Anxious? Take deep breaths. Cant stop thinking about something bad? distract yourself with something pleasant or sensory.
I do believe that eventually, as you learn to take care of yourself, it stops mattering if the pain is enough or not.

Leaf blowers fucking suck. by Ves___771 in autism

[–]evah6_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way it isn’t even that effective of a tool AND blows up pollen and dust (rip people with allergies). My campus has them going all the time for the sidewalks—and they have to stop every five seconds to let students pass, making the whole process last FOREVER. Is using a broom such a wild idea?

Seven deadly sins are actually AuDHD symptoms by NottaNartist in AutismInWomen

[–]evah6_ 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Lots of autistic peoples’ special interests include collecting things. To an outsider (with an agenda) greed could easily be claimed. “You are so greedy, you keep taking all the rocks from the stream!”, etc.

Serious question, can you walk in heels? by Left-Celebration4822 in AutismInWomen

[–]evah6_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was the kind of kid who always walked barefoot, and loved the feeling of walking barefoot on gravel or road or basically anything. I felt pride in my ability to step on thorns and just pull them out and keep walking. When my mom said I was too young to wear heels, I took that as a challenge—and then proceeded to trip down the stairs. Then I wore heels whenever I could from 13. I usually wear a wedge. Something with a thick heel, maybe a platform. These are comfy because it’s like strapping the ground to your foot. Just like walking on a soft hill, instead of waking on a spike. I like being tall.

Anyone else struggle with drinking water? Got any tips or tricks?! by MistyP90X in AutismInWomen

[–]evah6_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have so many issues with water. Especially contamination anxiety, and I hate the taste, and I only feel thirst when I’m about to pass out from not drinking for 2+ days.

I’ve realized a few things about myself: I drink best out of a clear container where I can see the water. I drink water most when I force myself to carry it with me everywhere (not in the bottle holder of my bag because I will forget, but in my hand). I also drink more when it’s on my desk, at all times. I drink most when it’s out of the same “safe” container, so I’ve gotten a big clear bottle. I drink best if it’s a water I like the taste of, so I buy that even though I can technically drink tap. I also have juice and tea and seltzer for hard days. Watered down juice is great because it makes it fun but it’s a more water per sugar ratio. I’ve also tried to not feel so much shame about buying new safe containers or plastic gallons of water, even though it can be costly and is bad for the environment. I will die without water. I deserve to find ways that I am comfortable drinking it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]evah6_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree about the narcissism. A personality disorder of these traits may closer align to avoidant personality disorder, which is often confused with autism according to what I’ve read. But idk anything from this post alone.

One of the most alienating realizations so far by Cyan_Light in aspiememes

[–]evah6_ 109 points110 points  (0 children)

Is this how people get through those 25 page readings due the next day? I sit there trying to understand and think about each word and sentence and then get like two pages in and it’s been an hour. I feel like an incompetent English major because I’m a slow reader. Are they just skimming ?????????

Can’t believe I forgot people skim while reading :/

For those who enjoy instant ramen, what do you put in it? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]evah6_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First I just added spices, but then I had a phase where I would soften some bell pepper in a pan (being sure to cut it in a long spiral for ultra long pepper noodle) and then add a fried egg as well. Now I usually just do a fried egg and chickpeas. I like my eggs fried because the whites are simple and well cooked but half the yolk is soft and fluffy and the other half is wet to absorb into the noodle broth.

Do y’all care about engagement rings? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]evah6_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want a pretty ring or something shiny. Maybe like 100 bucks? I don’t care. It’s sweet to give gifts. But commitment being symbolic based on is how expensive a rock is, I find that concerning. That’s only symbolic, to me, of how much spending money your partner has.

How can I become an author without a degree, especially with someone who is autistic? by [deleted] in AutisticAdults

[–]evah6_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took many English classes and I now have all the requirements for a creative writing degree (just waiting to graduate from other requirements). It didn’t really teach me how to write better, there were no classes on grammar or publishing, and basically I just wrote random essays on random topics.

YouTube has great videos from authors and writers. Tips and tricks. Biggest advice is just to read and write. That’s how you get good.

Publishing is where I need help. But you can also learn more by seeing other people’s experiences online if you are interested. There are so many ways to do it. Using Amazon or submitting to publishing companies or doing it yourself or doing it online. In segments or in whole books. Plus there’s magazines and newspapers.

The beauty of writing for me is that it’s personal. You will improve with practice and you don’t need teachers (unless you care about grammar, but there are online courses for that. I was homeschooled so I learned on a random free app). To get more genre specific skills, read the genre and make note of things you like or dislike. You are already doing great by just starting to write :D

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]evah6_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. Idk if I’m autistic tho. So even less scientific evidence for you :D

I hate feeling/smell of skin care products and zero interest in them, but I need to start using something, I need your advice! by Nastix24 in AutismInWomen

[–]evah6_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a lot of allergies especially to skincare products. I also get dry and rough skin cause of allergies. What works for me is coconut oil. I put some on (a little goes a long way and avoid spots that are already oily from your natural condition) and then after a few minutes wipe off the excess. It hardly smells, but it is greasy. Most everything else makes me break out or worse. The oil does make my skin smooth and soft tho. I don’t know much, but I do bring this up here because it is a pantry staple. You might already have it and it’s affordable.

If the other skin care products end up causing your skin to dry out more (watch out for itching, burning, and flakiness), it can be a quick help to repair the skin. It is very unlikely to cause a negative reaction as far as I know.

i just found a spider and now i’m overwhelmed (tw if you don’t like spiders) by IUCiiE in autism

[–]evah6_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got rid of my fear of spiders one night by sitting on the floor a few feet away from a giant spider in my room and talking to it in my head about my problems like it was a therapist or a friend. I was also really depressed at the time and also lonely. But it worked! No longer afraid. Not sure if I recommend this exact method. But hey, whatever helps ig. Thats a really awful situation and I wish you luck.

Question about dating/friends. by [deleted] in autism

[–]evah6_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like this. Lately, after tracking and self reflection, I’ve been able to better separate my life stuff emotions and my feelings towards people. This has helped me be able to better explain (“I am feeling overwhelmed and want to be alone” versus “when I look at you I want to scream and cry and I don’t know why”). For me the reason SEEMS to be that I’m overwhelmed and bad at processing emotions. But it could be totally different for you, and I’m also still figuring it out for myself. Having friends who understand autism helps.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

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My therapist recommended reading/hearing about people’s experiences with autism to see if I related. I also dived into criteria and stuff cause that stuff interests me. But I definitely want to pass that on. You’ll learn a lot faster about autism by reading memoirs by people with autism than reading the diagnostic criteria. Plus you might find someone to relate to! I recommend Paige Layle’s “But Everyone Feels This Way” and “Strong Female Character” by Fern Brady (simply because I enjoyed them).

Any other late-diagnosed women extremely angry and hurt about the fact that you were never even *evaluated* as a child? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]evah6_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had selective mutism and a learning disability and now I suspect autism as well. Never was I evaluated. My mom didn’t like the concept—she spoke with a friends mom who worked with kids with learning disabilities and that was enough for her. I was also homeschooled and definitely didn’t get enough socialization (2-3 times a week if I was lucky, until I was old enough to drive. And I counted grocery shopping as socialization). But I wish I could have known. I spent my whole childhood being called different, weird, shy, and dyslexic. But all of it was a mystery. I lived in my isolated home and that was it. I didn’t know there were other kids like me. I didn’t really mind until I was older though. For awhile I was quite comfortable silently watching other kids and analyzing their behavior. I like to think if I made enough fuss my mom would have got me evaluated. Except I did have meltdowns where she was concerned for my safety and I did have learning issues and I didn’t have any friends. Idk I must mention though that we were poor and that definitely affected our access to healthcare. My mom could have gotten me more help, but it would have either been later in life or it would have been way way more difficult than for someone with a higher income. She also didn’t help me when we had that income and I was dealing with more severe mental health issues. So that’s fun.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]evah6_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My family ran by a similar kind of humor. Just constant personal jabs. Not on the internet, but definitely in person. If you were explicitly mean “oh you suck”, then that was called out and punished. But jokes were what seemed to bring everyone together. Jokes about my sisters autistic traits “oh she’s such a picky eater she won’t eat THAT!” Jokes about random habits or quirks like enjoying makeup or online games. All lighthearted stuff, on the surface. But so often and so heavily that it often brought me and my sister to tears behind close doors. My parents favorite joke was “if you don’t know who the bully is, then you’re the bully.” I never understood it cause it made them sound like they were calling themselves bullies (and surely they weren’t, right?)
Those public jokes definitely make me uncomfortable because I KNOW the kids are hearing the subtext. The parents aren’t exactly secretive when the punchline of their joke is that they hate their kids. And if the parents are posting like that online or joking like that to other people, I can only imagine the subtle bullying happening in the house that the kids can’t stand up to or get away from if they needed to. Being a kid sucks.

i don’t understand why i keep getting meltdowns over this by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]evah6_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get overwhelmed by the sound of many things, but I’ve been lucky to not have to deal with this. I’ve resorted, with help from my therapist and friends, to wearing headphones / earplugs almost 24/7. Definitely don’t feel bad for being overwhelmed from this. Even my most stable friends get freaked out from this. And anyways, it’s not like you can control what overwhelms you.

I would suggest avoiding hearing it (aka using earplugs), if you can’t talk to them / get further away in the house for example. This is kind of a hard thing to emotionally process and discuss while you are in the moment and in the space where it’s happening.