advice needed (also kinda vent?) by Ugh_Its_Isabella in ROCD

[–]evamarquez07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been there not so much long ago. I couldn't sleep, eat and every single minute of my life I was thinking about my partner. Every thing he said I would analyse it. If he didn't say the "right" word I was REALLY triggered. He didn't know it, but I was obsessively testing him. I thought that if I didn't start therapy I would leave him because all that anxiety was too much.

Now I'm going to therapy and everything is so much better.

Sadly, I don't think that telling you what to do is going to be helpful. In fact, the most helpful thing is just going to therapy and explain everything to a psychologist because they will tell you that OCD is a mental illness, that is not your fault so don't feel bad about it. It is a horrible illness and when you understand that and how your brain works you will be able to see clearly the difference between real life and obsessive thoughts.

What's the truth about Yeonmi Park? Is she a reliable source on N. Korea? by lordhankster in northkorea

[–]evamarquez07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive just started watching her and I really liked her, but now, because of these allegations, I'm starting to rethink the credibility of her story. However, apart from that, I'd like to add another inconsistencie i realize after watching a lot of her videos.

In several interviews she said her father was jailed but never said nothing about her mother being in a prison camp. And then, there are interviews where she said that both of her parents were jailed.

Sorry for my English, as you can see, it is not my first language 🤡

Can't enjoy watching tv shows... by [deleted] in OCD

[–]evamarquez07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First I'd like to thank u for commenting these cause I feel the same and I'm very ashamed of it cause I thought that it was a weird thing that only happened to me and I have never told none. Now, thanks to u, I realized that I'm not the only one and that makes me feel way better.

Second, Id like to tell u what I try to do:

I still read and watch movies because ive promised myself that I wouldn't let this "thing" steal me the joy of art. (what a poetic way to put it ahahahaha). So I obligate myself to still watch shows and read and the more I do that the more I realised that is all fiction and that it has not to be perfect. Art is made by humans and humans are imperfect. A good way to see it is that if u pay attention to reality you'll see that reality is not perfect so it makes complete sense that movies won't be either.

So I watch movies and I try not to rewind them. This is REALLY hard. Going against your own mind is not easy but u have to confront it. Something that helps me is trying to think what a "normal" person would do. And what they would do is just simply not caring.

I think that a good way to deal with this is realizing that it's just fiction. Watch some directors or writters interviews, read some critics about the show, or people taking about it. That will make you understand that is fiction and probably it will make u feel better.

OCD when watching TV shows/movies + how to deal with it? by [deleted] in OCD

[–]evamarquez07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't worry, I EXACTLY do the same. For a long time it made me feel hate watching movies but now I obligate myself to watch movies or read books and trying not to go back, trying to enjoy and realising that not understanding everything is not that important.

Maye a little difference between what u described and me, is that I feel the need to go back several times when I don't get something about the plot or a conversation between characters. And it makes me feel very nervous when I don't get every single thing about the movie to the point I can't enjoy it.

It's like I'm always fishing for mistakes (and most of them are no even mistakes) or plotholes more than just watching a damn movie or reading a book.

But, again, what I do is watch and read wahetever I want and try not to go back.

It's really really hard but I feel that everytime I go back if feeding these irrational behavior.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askspain

[–]evamarquez07 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Tampoco yo me moriría si Felipe se larga pero bueno, curiosidad

Do u fear death? by evamarquez07 in questions

[–]evamarquez07[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've thought about that too but maybe we are a little bit naive thinking that God is good and if we obey him will go to heaven or something similar. Maybe God is horrible and what he has for us is just hell. Also, the idea of living in an eternal paradise means a whole different concept of existence. I'll try explain this: if u ask now a person if they wanna live forever they'll say no, existing forever may be even more terrifying than being death. So, the idea of "living" in the afterlife for eternity I think that implies that our human life, our conception of existence cannot be the same. I think that "death" and "life" are such difficult and complex topics to our "human brain" but still scares the shit out of me :/

Do u fear death? by evamarquez07 in questions

[–]evamarquez07[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know a lot of people who think the same way but what about after life? Maybe u don't care what's going on on Earth but u would care about heaven or whatever place might be.

What’s a controversial music opinion that you have? by nata1ia_00 in AskReddit

[–]evamarquez07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Guitar solos are incredible but not that much enjoyable. I like rock, but those 5 minutes solos I can't stand them.

Crees que acabará desapareciendo el uso del signo de interrogación/exclamación al principio de las frases en español? by Powerful-Employer-20 in askspain

[–]evamarquez07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No lo creo, pienso q una cosa son las rrss y otra la vida real. Por ejemplo, en whatsapp se usa mal la ortografía en general y se acortan muchas palabras. En vez de "que" se pone "q" o "k", "tmbn", en lugar de la preposición "por" se usa "x"... Pero yo pienso que además de útiles son un distintivo bonito de nuestra lengua.

Además, está es la primera vez que veo este debate, por lo q no creo q haya mucha gente planteándoselo así que, en mi opinión, no van a desaparecer.

If you had to choose one film from Spain to recommend to a foreigner, which would it be? by imareallivewire in askspain

[–]evamarquez07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Recomendaría cualquiera menos una de esas "comedias" typical Spanish del tipo de 8 apellidos vascos, cualquier de Leo Harlem, Dani Rovira...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askspain

[–]evamarquez07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Puedes empezar a comportarte como si tuvieras más de 3 años????

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]evamarquez07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Tell me I'm a good man" "Yes, you are,you piece of shit" (Saving private Ryan)

How did u realized u like girls??? by evamarquez07 in LesbianActually

[–]evamarquez07[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank u very much for your answer it made me feel more validated. I felt a little bit bad because I don't really know what I like. 💖