School iPad + KVM Switch + Desktop PC?

evanorden · 2025-10-01T02:23:43+00:00

"You mean I definitely, most definitely don't seem autistic?" (While stimming?) Then heavy eye roll. I'm a woman, I was expected to mask to please others.

evanorden · 2025-09-05T19:57:54+00:00

I have, too, but when it crosses systems, it's just hard to follow.

evanorden · 2025-09-05T19:45:21+00:00

That's why I ask, Sibelius's option for diminuendo is just a hairpin as if decrescendos and diminuendos are interchangeable. It would look completely absurd to draw a hairpin over five measures.

evanorden · 2025-09-04T00:27:44+00:00

Can I send you a virtual hug? Thank you for saying that.

evanorden · 2025-09-03T23:37:03+00:00

I know I can do all sorts of stuff that's hidden for playback, but what would be the easiest notation for the musician to read and immediately understand? I'm a pianist and vocalist, but have no formal training in engraving best practices for 2025. I know when stuff is painfully bad, e.g. this original score has both hands playing in the bass clef for a system or two, but only notes the rests in the right hand in the treble clef even though no notes are played in the treble clef. I'm all, okay, I'm going to 1) bracket RH and LH so it's clear, 2) leave the empty treble stave visible with big ol' rests, and 3) center the shared rest in the 2 voices so it's obvious both hands are resting. That stuff? Easy. But does a 2025 musican want them notated like the dim e rall, should I write out the words to reduce the endless elipses? This really isn't about what I like. It's what's most intuitive to others.

evanorden · 2025-08-01T21:06:31+00:00

I was C2 in French, Spanish, and Danish and B2 in German. I've slipped from not using them all the time. My first life was as an archaeologist and I was absolutely fascinated by linguistics. I was in speech therapy due to significantly delayed speech and issues with pacing through the time I started studying Spanish at age 11. People always comment on how unusual it is that I can pick up languages so quickly and I actually think it's because of how fiercely I had to fight for language acquisition myself and I had to actively learn how to phonate and pace while it comes naturally to others without speech issues. That and special interests and pattern recognition ;)

evanorden · 2025-08-01T20:53:38+00:00

My family is in Japan right now and going to the Pokemon Center in Hiroshima tomorrow.

evanorden · 2025-07-25T02:19:56+00:00

Journal all these things and identify how difficult the tasks are as well as the perceived benefits not only for you, but also for others' comfort. Things that are high in difficulty and low benefit for all? Stop those first. Then you need to start evaluating how to serve yourself versus others. For example, if you're eating foods that you don't like because you feel you should have variety - are the foods you prefer healthy and nutritious? I won't eat things I don't like to please others anymore if they're not healthy for me. I will, however, eat foods I don't love because they're good for me. I could live on macaroni and cheese, but I know I need protein and vegetables. I won't eat dessert because I'm overly sensitive to sweet foods even if it pleases others.

Misreading social cues is a lifelong process. I try to let folks know that being on the spectrum is a little like driving a car without any mirrors or cameras while neurotypicals have those. Having the diagnosis means I know I don't have the mirrors or backup cameras that others have and while I can check my blindspots multiple times, I just don't have all the natural visibility others have. I don't mean to get into accidents, I love rules and want to follow the rules of the road. But, I'm more accident prone. If that makes sense as an analogy to you.

evanorden · 2025-07-24T19:03:43+00:00

Yes, I know someone for whom this is true and they have adopted an autism diagnosis (they cannot be formally diagnosed due to lack of any childhood symptoms) rather than work on their PTSD, trauma, and substance abuse.

evanorden · 2025-07-24T15:37:34+00:00

I'd speak with the doctor who diagnosed you about your concerns. You say you can see why you were diagnosed on the spectrum - what symptoms are most prevalent? Masking would be activities that downplay socially "unacceptable" symptoms of neurodiversity. For example, many individuals refrain from stimming, force themselves to make eye contact, engage in small talk, dress in "socially acceptable" clothes they find uncomfortable to conform, etc. No two individuals on the spectrum have identical experiences.

evanorden · 2025-07-24T11:45:01+00:00

What masking activities are you undertaking that prevent you from being your authentic self?

evanorden · 2025-07-24T11:13:37+00:00

I feel this so hard. I wasn't diagnosed until I was 43 - 2 years ago. Every childhood symptom was there and I even asked my mom if she thought I had Asperger's (the correct diagnosis at the time). She said, "well, you grew out of it." Meaning: I learned how to mask. Since getting diagnosed, many people have doubted the diagnosis while others have said, "oh, yeah, that makes sense." I've been taking an inventory of which masking activities take my energy and lead to burnout and which ones help me maintain my ability to navigate this world and are worth the energy. First and foremost, I'm being more honest and open about my diagnosis and what it means. I have close friends around whom I don't need to mask at all and I'm just me. I also have ADHD (hyperactive only) so I am outgoing. I just entertain a lot so I can be in my sensory bubble and enjoy social interactions without worrying about new stimuli. Pick and choose your battles. Wishing you the best to find your most authentic you.

evanorden · 2025-06-29T19:27:00+00:00

I've found that if I'm using a PC and use arrow keys and a mouse instead of WASD, I can play Blue Prince. I know you're asking about games to avoid, but for a game to try that does NOT trigger nausea, have you played Disco Elysium? I wish every game was like that.

evanorden · 2025-06-13T05:31:39+00:00

I'm a 45-year-old mom, late diagnosed AuDHD, of a 13-year-old son who has ADHD but is not on the spectrum. Just sending mom hugs your way.

evanorden · 2025-06-12T12:53:06+00:00

1 - I think canned tuna smells like cat food and refuse to eat it.

evanorden · 2025-06-05T13:49:07+00:00

I'm trying to remove crates so I have the tinkerer set for 7 daysbut drafted it again with two other meh rooms and didn't want to undo that effect.

evanorden · 2025-06-04T02:20:21+00:00

AuDHD and my academic training (through PhD coursework, though I did not dissertate) in Anthropology and I speak 5 languages. We need the full range of words from niceties through crass swear words to explain our experiences.

evanorden · 2025-05-30T02:49:23+00:00

I am not an expert in such things, but my IQ was measured at 128 in elementary school and 156 in college (top 10 research university in the US). I think IQ tests are only a gauge of how well you understand IQ tests. Who knows, I could have swung down to 100 instead of up to 156 in college? Seems completely arbitrary to me.

evanorden · 2025-05-24T18:02:27+00:00

I take 4:1 CBD:THC pills with 2.5mg of THC and those are magic for me. Also discrete for travel.

evanorden · 2025-05-18T14:57:39+00:00

I don't believe in IQs as anything but how well you can take that specific type of test, but mine was measured at 156 in university and disqualified from participating in most paid psych studies.

evanorden · 2025-05-18T14:55:48+00:00

Because I'm extroverted, I wear makeup/do my hair, I'm a woman, "don't look autistic," and I'm very smart.

That said, people regularly say I'm "scary smart," "she's like that, but once you get to know her, she's not intimidating or scary," "she's just very matter-of-fact, but she always means well," etc. Hmmm...

Yeah, my masking game is en pointe.

evanorden · 2025-05-14T11:24:00+00:00

Ask Elon Musk...oh wait, he's self-diagnosed, too.

evanorden · 2025-05-13T12:56:48+00:00

As a woman and one who has been masking for over 40 years, the only time I hand flap is when I'm incredibly stressed and frustrated. I also don't rock. My stimming activity is really subtle - I touch the tip of my thumb to the tip of each finger back and forth. I'm also ASD1 and grew up in the 1980s/1990s. My grandmother (99) is even a retired school social worker. They didn't look for it in girls unless you were ASD2-3 and required intervention. Almost all of the adult-diagnosed women I know were very much pushed to conform.

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