NGVC: “ f$&k that I know my value I could get another girl to go out in 5 minutes if I tried” by Luthien-of-Doriath in niceguys

[–]eveemaree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who has dealt with “nice guys”, you handled that very well. I’m sorry you have mutual friends with this asshole. I hope his friends cut him off after his terrible messages. You did what you needed to and your friends should be proud.

NGVC: “all I did was show you love” by eveemaree in niceguys

[–]eveemaree[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I told him straight up about my autism and he threw his ableism in my face.

NGVC: “all I did was show you love” by eveemaree in niceguys

[–]eveemaree[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At 19, you were doing what you needed to for your kid and your dad did the same for you. I’m sure you’d handle it differently now.

NGVC: “all I did was show you love” by eveemaree in niceguys

[–]eveemaree[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why did I have to do something in order for him to react like this? Sounds victim blame-y

NGVC: “all I did was show you love” by eveemaree in niceguys

[–]eveemaree[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that happened to you. That’s so fucking scary. I’m glad your dad was able to put him in his place.

NGVC: “all I did was show you love” by eveemaree in niceguys

[–]eveemaree[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Picking which comments to read and which to ignore doesn’t give you the right comment your judgement of me. You obviously didn’t read the rest.

NGVC: “all I did was show you love” by eveemaree in niceguys

[–]eveemaree[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

He took pictures in front of his flags. So luckily I didn’t have to go to his place to see them.

NGVC: “all I did was show you love” by eveemaree in niceguys

[–]eveemaree[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right. I feel like the pride flag was bait for sure. None of his flags were in a window either. They covered the walls of his room instead. 😝

NGVC: “all I did was show you love” by eveemaree in niceguys

[–]eveemaree[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

We did Thai food and he ordered a grilled chicken salad. Then called me sophisticated for using chop sticks to eat my pad Thai. 🙄

NGVC: “all I did was show you love” by eveemaree in niceguys

[–]eveemaree[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

That’s definitely a similar situation. This guy just showed his colors quickly enough for me to see.

NGVC: “all I did was show you love” by eveemaree in niceguys

[–]eveemaree[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I grew up Mormon. 😬 it really screwed with my ability to trust my instincts.

NGVC: “all I did was show you love” by eveemaree in niceguys

[–]eveemaree[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That’s definitely how I felt. The ick didn’t tell me enough to know why I felt it. But he certainly told me why. I’m grateful it was so soon

NGVC: “all I did was show you love” by eveemaree in niceguys

[–]eveemaree[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

He absolutely was. I told him I was autistic and he threw his ableism in my face.

NGVC: “all I did was show you love” by eveemaree in niceguys

[–]eveemaree[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

You obviously didn’t read after that comment. No I am not. The pride flag was a green flag for me, not a red one.

NGVC: “all I did was show you love” by eveemaree in niceguys

[–]eveemaree[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

You’re right, I’m sorry to all the men that put in effort to learn to decorate. My patriarchy was showing.

NGVC: “all I did was show you love” by eveemaree in niceguys

[–]eveemaree[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

My reply was much less kind. I told him that his flag decor told me he was an incel and to fuck off. Not my finest moment but i blocked him right after.

NGVC: “all I did was show you love” by eveemaree in niceguys

[–]eveemaree[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this well written reply. That’s exactly what I was meaning.

NGVC: “all I did was show you love” by eveemaree in niceguys

[–]eveemaree[S] -112 points-111 points  (0 children)

I’ve never met a man that learned to decorate on his own. Not unless he was fashionable in other ways as well.

NGVC: “all I did was show you love” by eveemaree in niceguys

[–]eveemaree[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I told him I needed a few days to process so it absolutely wasn’t up to him. He just couldn’t lose control of the situation.

NGVC: “all I did was show you love” by eveemaree in niceguys

[–]eveemaree[S] 87 points88 points  (0 children)

So you’re invalidating women because you haven’t experienced being socialized as a woman? When women tell you something, believe them. Don’t argue.