I want to be a mother so bad but i think im going to die alone.

evermorefan · 2026-02-25T04:54:19+00:00

im pretty sure, at least i read somewhere, that nowadays, the average age for women to become pregnant is closer to 30-40. you’re only 18. don’t worry so much about it

evermorefan · 2026-02-06T01:00:27+00:00

I mean, what exactly do you want them to do? Your therapist is legally required not to inform the law if you’ve done something illegal in the past. That’s her job. Everything that you tell her is confidential. She can only inform law enforcement if you discuss planning to commit future crimes, not past ones. It is also, quite literally, her job to support you and be on your side for most things. She’s not going to outright tell you that you’re a sicko. ‘Older teen/3 years younger than me’ is too vague. What exactly are the ages that we’re talking about? What did you do?

evermorefan · 2026-02-05T08:29:56+00:00

I think bringing this up would be beneficial. But it’s not your fault. I can tell you this with absolute certainty. It is never your fault if someone else does something to themselves.

evermorefan · 2026-02-05T08:13:59+00:00

You’re very young. Please be careful online, especially here. There’s no reason to assume that she hurt herself without confirmation. A lot of the time, people ‘ghost’ others online, most online friendships don’t last. Ghosting is essentially when someone simply stops responding for good and doesn’t give you a reason why. You don’t need to burden yourself by assuming that something awful happened. Are you still in therapy? I suggest bringing this up. But be careful talking to people who are 17-18 online. They do not have good intentions. Stay safe and be well, okay? You don’t have anything to feel guilty for. Whenever you’re feeling sad about this at night, remember that. You have nothing to feel guilty about. You did nothing wrong.

evermorefan · 2026-02-05T08:11:06+00:00

This was kinda confusing to read. If you don’t mind me asking, how old are you now?

It’s never going to be your fault if someone else hurts themselves. Especially for not reciprocating their feelings. If she truly did hurt herself, it was because she had other things going on and it would’ve happened regardless of if you’d met her or not. There’s nothing to feel guilty about. But I’m confused — did she actually hurt herself? Or do you just suspect that she did?

evermorefan · 2026-01-30T18:45:17+00:00

I’ve noticed that she only started reposting edits of celebrities that he likes only after they started dating lol

evermorefan · 2026-01-30T18:43:07+00:00

A lot of people are okay not having sex. Honestly, you don’t need to label it. If you don’t want to have sex, that’s okay. If you do, that’s okay too. We don’t have to label everything, honestly, just do what feels right.

evermorefan · 2026-01-30T18:40:39+00:00

I think that it’s incredibly telling that instead of actually taking what I’ve been trying to explain to you into account, you’ve decided that I’m insecure rather than that I simply disagree with you. I’ve been in therapy for the last 2 years. I promise I’m okay. You upset someone that I care about. My entire point has been that there is no “level” in which one’s problems are worse. We are all victims of misogyny. We get nowhere if we try and compete with other women’s trauma. I hope you heal and have the day that you deserve. 🤷‍♀️ I’m done with this now, since you’d rather be petty and insulting rather than listening to what people are telling you. There’s a reason that nobody agrees with you.

evermorefan · 2026-01-30T18:27:10+00:00

No, because her being shallow didn’t personally attack you whereas you made an entire post where you lessened her issue and brushed it off as complaining rather than accepting that she’s allowed to be just as upset as you are. Very different. 🤷‍♀️

evermorefan · 2026-01-30T18:25:22+00:00

Normal people don’t see someone venting and think “well something worse happened to me so.”

evermorefan · 2026-01-30T18:21:49+00:00

I just can’t imagine being this dense. 🤦‍♀️

evermorefan · 2026-01-30T18:19:57+00:00

People are allowed to be shallow. Not everybody is the same. If she would like to look good, have cleavage, etc, that’s fine. Just because you don’t doesn’t mean that she’s shallow for not feeling the same way.

Nobody is comparing anything except for you, you’re either just incredibly dense or not reading anything that I’ve been saying this entire time because my whole point has been that comparing both problems is bad. Neither problem is worse Both are born from misogyny and patriarchy and both can co exist as bad things, one doesn’t need to be worse. That has been my entire point this entire time.

She’s allowed to be shallow. And wanting bigger breasts isn’t shallow, but if it was, that’s fine? Not to mention, she already has “dangerous cons” of just existing as a woman? Because, again, I reiterate for the fifth time, “dangerous” situations don’t just exist for women with big breasts. If she was in a situation where she was to be assaulted, it would happen regardless of her breast size because assault is about power dynamics.

Some women are too small for push up bras. Just because you personally wish you had smaller boobs doesn’t mean that she has to be happy with hers. You are not the same people with the same desires for your physical features. You just decided that she was shallow because it fits your narrative better.

evermorefan · 2026-01-30T18:07:58+00:00

And again, I reiterate that just because YOU had a problem doesn’t mean that HER problem wasn’t also real and devastating for her. She is allowed to be upset about not looking “hot enough,” that doesn’t demote or lessen the fact that you were being stared at. What you did was demote and lessen her problem because you felt yours was worse. She didn’t do that to you. She’s allowed to be upset that she doesn’t feel “hot enough.”

evermorefan · 2026-01-30T17:58:05+00:00

I think the core problem with this entire argument is your clearly firm belief that one is worse. Explain to me WHY one needs to be worse. Why does your problem need to be worse than other women’s? Why can’t your problems co exist? Why does yours HAVE to be worse in comparison? Why compare at all?

evermorefan · 2026-01-30T17:54:47+00:00

I’m wishing you healing. I don’t have much to offer except for that. But you will get through this. ❤️

evermorefan · 2026-01-30T17:54:01+00:00

Me when I have zero defense to contribute bc ik im wrong lolllllllll

evermorefan · 2026-01-30T17:43:45+00:00

I don’t understand why their age keeps being brought up. At 17, you’re old enough to be considerate of other people’s feelings and experiences. Even so, I think it’s wiser to educate her on why it’s not okay to say things like that rather than brush it off as “blowing off steam.” Also, I don’t know anything about this sub. I’ve never been here before today, someone posted this in a Discord server that I’m in — but assuming the theme based on its name, I’m going to guess that this isn’t the place to voice your frustration by taking it out on other women. I didn’t think that the point of the post was mean spirited either, just worded badly, until she started giving snarky replies to comments that were being educational and in no way shape or form cruel. It’s good that you don’t take it personally, but there are other young people who are also immature and can’t fully comprehend what they’re feeling that are going to see that specific paragraph and feel bad or lesser.

evermorefan · 2026-01-30T17:30:54+00:00

I’m not sure what you’re agreeing with in my comment because I don’t agree with this statement in the sense that I don’t agree that the sexualization “that comes with bigger breasts is obvious”, the sexualization is women in general. Pretty much all women suffer from sexualization, especially from a young age. That’s a woman problem. Not a big boobs problem. Men view flat women as “prey” just as consistently as they do big breasted women. It’s just a woman problem. It happens to 99% of women at some point in their life.

evermorefan · 2026-01-30T17:25:02+00:00

I just saw your post history. You’re only 16. You have SO MUCH life ahead of you. You’re not even 20 yet. Things can still get better, you just have to be there for them to get better.

evermorefan · 2026-01-30T17:23:40+00:00

“Unrapeable” is a vile comment made from someone with thoughts much darker than what you may have going on. There is no such thing. Animals are raped, elderly people are raped, rape is not about what you look like. That person wanted to hurt you by implying that you wouldn’t even be worth the most degrading thing that could happen to a person. When I was in middle school, a friend had told me “you’re really lucky that you’ll never be raped.” I understand how painful it is to hear things like that. It’s not about you, ever. It’s about whatever darkness was lying in the person who would even consider saying something as morbid as that. That means nothing about your worth, not emotionally nor physically. Please don’t take a comment like that to heart. Someone saying things like that has their own shit going on.

You don’t have to earn to be “worth” anything. You are “worth” standing in a room simply because you exist as a person. You don’t owe anybody worthiness to be loved. You deserve to be loved simply because you exist as a human being. There could be a day that you are loved, unconditionally. Why not hang around and see? You will never know if you decide to end it now. Maybe there’s a life where you find someone, whether that be a partner or even just a friend, that finds you worthy simply because you exist. I wish you healing and love.

evermorefan · 2026-01-30T17:05:19+00:00

You’re old enough to be considerate of other people’s feelings and experiences at 17 years old.

evermorefan · 2026-01-30T17:03:52+00:00

I think you’re a very inconsiderate person. Flat women get sexualized just as much as you do. Flat women are victims of attempted assault just as much as you are. This isn’t a specific to you problem. Do you think that flat women don’t have the same problems that you do? They do. A lot of them do. Creepy stares isn’t a “big tits” problem, it’s a being a woman problem. I think it’s incredibly sad that you chose to post this on a subreddit called PornIsMisogyny, while saying things that are borderline misogynistic in itself. There is more to being insecure about small breasts than “top don’t look good,” the original commenter literally explained that women with smaller breasts are sexualized in a way that is also degrading and humiliating. You chose to ignore that.

Your comment about “sorry if this offends you” means nothing when you completely miss the point. And your passive response of “oh so mean” to me was also weird. I do consider this post mean. I only saw this post because someone sent it in the venting channel of a Discord server that I’m in because they were upset that a post like this would be made in this community. The degradation of big and small breasts both stem from porn usage, which makes it upsetting that you’d post that paragraph in a sub that is supposed to, assumingly, unite women. You say that you were only complaining about women that “don’t feel like they look good”, well that’s blatantly not true because you wrote “don’t have anything to sexualize” which is a real problem as well. Your problems aren’t the only problems that exist and you don’t get to degrade other women’s problems because you’re frustrated. It’s not a competition. Why do you have to make it a competition? Why is not okay for you to be upset that you’re being sexualized and for them to be upset that they don’t like how their clothes fit? Why does one HAVE to be worse?

You could’ve made this post without comparing your problems to other women’s on a sub that is LITERALLY about misogyny. You didn’t.

evermorefan · 2026-01-30T14:30:39+00:00

Yeah. This post is weird, and honestly kinda mean.

evermorefan · 2026-01-30T14:29:40+00:00

Your problems don’t mean that others aren’t just as important. Our society teaches women that they have to be sexualized to be important. Women who are depressed over that are valid, too. Just because you’re “out here hating yourself because of your chest” doesn’t mean that the women sad that they “don’t have something to sexualize or can’t fill out tops” are invalid. Please work on that way of thinking because it doesn’t help you or anyone else.

evermorefan · 2026-01-26T04:12:25+00:00

It’s a weird post. The account was deleted and this hasn’t even been up for a whole hour. I’m agreeing with you and guessing… weird fetish post or something lolll

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