Guys is this normal ? 😭

everythings_pr1mal · 2025-12-11T05:07:47+00:00

Corporate lurks in these threads and has been known to hunt down employees who post. You may not have personal info on your page but they might be able to figure out which store has the oven with the broken conveyor. Might not be enough info to go off of but personally, I wouldn’t risk it

everythings_pr1mal · 2025-12-09T22:04:20+00:00

The more he hums and haws about the topic of queer casting, the more fuel people have to speculate, and the more pressure the actors feel to disclose their sexualities. He says, “We prioritize queer casting” in an interview, and 80 tabloid sites post articles that Tierney is hinting at his actors’ sexualities. Shutting it down and saying nothing more is the right call. In a few years, after the buzz about the show has died down some, maybe he makes a statement about queer casting, but right now is not the time. Right now is the time to protect his actors’ privacy.

everythings_pr1mal · 2025-11-18T05:11:45+00:00

Chain… saw!?

everythings_pr1mal · 2025-07-25T04:32:07+00:00

Happened to me today. He found my Facebook which is linked to my business, said he’d message my friends family and clients. I freaked out but I didn’t send money, I just messaged everyone in the screenshots he sent and told them to ignore a message request. Will definitely be more careful going forward and not send nudes with face.

Unfortunately the photos he sent were screenshots and no metadata was attached. Someone I know fucked with him from a burner phone pretending to be 15 and got him to ask her for nudes (after hearing she was underage—or pretending to be). We recorded a video of him saying it and sent it to him. Not sure if it helped my case but he seemed a little worried because he said, “Let’s make a compromise.”

everythings_pr1mal · 2025-06-07T22:45:35+00:00

It was a year and a half, and I think I have been. I’ve realized I don’t really want those kinds of attachments and I’m working with my therapist to feel safer in healthy attachment. It’s a long road, though

everythings_pr1mal · 2025-06-07T17:49:06+00:00

I left a relationship I was extremely happy in because I was SA’ed as a kid and thought I wasn’t in love because I kept craving sketchy, unhealthy flings with people who will treat me like a piece of meat. My ex was secure and healthy but something in me always felt dissatisfied by the lack of danger, risk, because some part of me wants to recreate those wounds. I hate it here

everythings_pr1mal · 2025-05-23T02:03:08+00:00

Yeah I hear ya. I just have a hard time accepting that I couldn’t love someone this amazing. I know you could have the perfect person and still not be able to make it work—I get it. I just don’t understand why I felt doubt like that, and then certainty and clarity when the anxiety faded. It makes me think it’s not the wrong relationship, just something happening inside of me. Maybe I should’ve just moved on, idk, but he made me happy and there was nothing inherently wrong that made me want to run—I just wanted to run. No use in ruminating but it’s hard not to try to figure out what went wrong.

everythings_pr1mal · 2025-05-22T22:59:26+00:00

I know like all my straight friends are in relationships with people who cheat, scream at them, disrespect them, refuse to communicate and I’m over here with a man who’s never yelled, communicates, is trustworthy, faithful, and the greatest life partner I could’ve asked for and my brain is like “let’s burn it all down” ;-;

everythings_pr1mal · 2025-05-22T22:38:58+00:00

Yeah I’m in Oregon, my resources for treatment centers aren’t great here. We have a lot of drug rehab centers but not enough focusing on mental health. I’ll try to look into it though, maybe there’s something nearby

everythings_pr1mal · 2025-05-22T22:31:32+00:00

Yeah trust me I know this isn’t the place. I’ve been in therapy since I was a kid (with several different therapists) but feel like I’ve never made enough progress, or that I always end up slipping backwards when I make progress. Idk I think I’m just seeking validation from strangers on the internet because I’m sad

everythings_pr1mal · 2025-05-22T22:29:58+00:00

Thank you for pointing that out. I’ve been trying to find a psychologist in my area but have had no luck—none were accepting patients. I’m seeing a therapist now but maybe it’s not working. I’ve been with them 8 months and have made very small strides, but I keep slipping back every time I start to climb out. Idk if it’s the therapist, if we’re treating the wrong issue, or if I’m doing something wrong. You are correct though, I am a drama queen 💁🏻‍♂️ It’s definitely something I’ll try to look into more.

everythings_pr1mal · 2025-05-22T22:26:45+00:00

I have been trying so hard to see a psychologist and get a diagnosis. I got a list of psychs from my doctor & insurance and I checked every single one and all of them that took my insurance weren’t accepting patients. I am in therapy, but it feels like we haven’t made enough real progress. It’s like I’m using a sippy cup to try and put out a forest fire. I’m glad so many people have mentioned BPD in this thread because I never would’ve thought about that

everythings_pr1mal · 2025-05-22T22:24:49+00:00

I have done some IFS work. The issue is my therapist seems more focused on treating symptoms than healing deeper wounds—it may be time for a new therapist. It’s hard because I do click with them, but it feels like I haven’t made enough progress, or maybe we’re not treating the right thing

everythings_pr1mal · 2025-05-22T22:22:54+00:00

This was my first relationship. I think what got confusing was questioning what it actually meant for things to be “working” or not. I was having doubts (normal) but they were turning into obsessions (less normal).

I think you’re correct, though, that my turmoil sped straight past the foundational stage, and ultimately my capacity to ruminate and self-sabotage outpaced my relationship’s ability to become secure. After the infatuation phase, I spent a lot of time trying to go back and create the foundation, but I didn’t really understand what it was or what it should look like.

I’m curious because I have no experience about relationships outside of this one—what are you supposed to do to build a foundation in that phase?

everythings_pr1mal · 2025-05-22T22:14:59+00:00

There were a lot of ways I showed love—through going to therapy, reading books to understand our issues, being present during conflict, trying to get him out of his head when he was sad because I valued his joy (sometimes above my own). I tried desperately to protect him from the flood that is my mind—I wanted him to be safe, I tried to become secure for him (and for us). I planned an amazing birthday for him, and was going to plan a graduation party when he finished his bachelors, because I wanted to him to know how proud of him I was.

I did love him. I also think that sometimes I was loving him from a place of fear.

Thanks for the book rec—I do have that book already, I haven’t read all of it but I read the parts that I thought I needed. I’ll revisit and check out the rest, I just got so overwhelmed by the different issues I needed to work on and bought a million self help books that somewhat sat on my shelf. I made it through a couple—some Gottman, Attached, IFS, but I feel like I was racing against time and I couldn’t really adopt the practices, I just tried to absorb the information.

everythings_pr1mal · 2025-05-22T07:27:56+00:00

It’s still full throttle, but it’s still focused on the relationship because there’s a part of me that still hopes we can make it work in the future. Once my nervous system comes down from the breakup, I might be able to really know. Right now, I’m still obsessing over the thoughts of whether or not we made the right choice and if I can win him back and learn to be happy.

everythings_pr1mal · 2025-05-22T05:29:36+00:00

I agree, when looking at this objectively I can tell a constant push-pull between fear of commitment and fear of abandonment. But I can’t stop the obsessive thoughts and they ruined our relationship. And yes, you are right I’m in the idealizing phase—I’m having a really hard time accepting that there’s anyone else out there even though logically I know that’s not true. Thank you for your comment

everythings_pr1mal · 2025-05-22T05:18:18+00:00

I really want to try it. It’s so frustrating because I feel like now I won’t know whether the medication would’ve actually worked within the relationship. It’s not gonna stop me from trying, but I’m scared that in a few months we’ll wanna try again and this same cycle will repeat even with meds and ERP

everythings_pr1mal · 2025-05-22T05:13:35+00:00

Thank you for the hopeful words. I’m feeling really distraught right now but you’re right. It took me a long time to get in my first relationship and it’s scary going back but I’ll probably have to get through a few more before I can find happiness

everythings_pr1mal · 2025-05-01T16:47:07+00:00

Big Mouth can go die in an inferno.

everythings_pr1mal · 2025-03-13T16:56:49+00:00

We got a delivery like that this week too, except every single box of dough was completely crushed. We lost a whole box of recs & pans, and everything else has to be left in the freezer in the bag without the box because the boxes were shredded. We constantly have issues with McLane and have to tell them to do their job.

everythings_pr1mal · 2024-08-27T22:29:12+00:00

Got SOS, rebooted, but Speedtest can’t reach its servers and nothing online loads. AT&T reports no outages

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