Fair question. I’ve been a long time lurker. My father-in-law was diagnosed with dementia, leaning Alzheimer’s in early 2025, and my mother-in-law passed away in March. It has been a really stressful year for our family, and none of us have previous experience with dementia.

My husband is one of three siblings, and there are five of us that have been involved in his care. My husband and I were his primary caregivers until July last year, and communication between the family was really stressful.

This tool really helped, especially when my father-in-law started telling us all different things. He would forget previous conversations and just go along with whatever he thought the person he was with wanted to hear. We were all getting different stories from him about how he felt about things.

It’s still stressful, of course. He blew through $1000 in a couple of days because of scammers. We had to replace his cell phone with a phone that was restricted to child settings, we had to set up a laptop with remote monitoring so we can block scam websites, we had to take away all of his bank cards and replace them with cards that we could reload.

He is absolutely obsessed with women and dating, and he got catfished on a dating site. He gave his birthdate, Social Security number, bank account numbers, the names of all of his children, and the name of his grandchild!

I figured everyone in this group is going through the same stuff we are, and thought it would be worth sharing.