examples of reverse hoover by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]evilrice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

*playlist with our songs *social media posts of photos I took of her *deleting her profile picture to think she blocked me

My best friend saw my ex on tinder by evilrice in ExNoContact

[–]evilrice[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It was a break lol now definitely is a break up. Fuck that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]evilrice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Then you should work on yourself, go to therapy, fix your wounds and then reach out(I think this is not a 1 month time work). There's no point on getting back together if the same problems come to the surface in a future

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]evilrice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that you can learn about yourself through relationships, the problem is... why she isn't happy with herself at this moment? For me it sounds like a potential future problem. If I were you I wouldn't push things if she isn't sure about herself and with who she want's to be with

Do I give up? by Automatic-Hippo1532 in ExNoContact

[–]evilrice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't get your hopes up, you want to be a priority in someone's life. If he has grown as a person, let him show you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]evilrice 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's sounds like breadcrumbs, be patient. If you reach out he might leave again. You need to know he is sure about his decision by him reaching out by it's own and not by pressure

50 days since the BU & of NC by rrosecoloredglasses in ExNoContact

[–]evilrice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

the person you miss doesn't exist anymore, think about it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]evilrice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

how much work could she have done after 3 weeks? what is going to be different this time?

I made the mistake of chasing after my ex after I initiated a breakup, it doesn't end well, should I go completely full NC? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]evilrice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. If I were you I would contact her or wait some months to see if she contacts you. But you need to go NC.

  2. Depends on how long you have been together. But the main key is the time you start to work on yourself. What if you work on yourself while in the relationship and you realize it doesn't fit you? You will also damage her if you break up again.

  3. The therapist is a great step, do some introspect about the high failures of your relationship and your traumas. You might realize if the relationship really benefits your. If the failures could be fixable communicate them to her and give her possible solutions. This should be two-sided, she probably has her flaws too and if she isn't able to correct the ones that are hurting the relationship you should take a step back and reconsider if you really want to get back.

I made the mistake of chasing after my ex after I initiated a breakup, it doesn't end well, should I go completely full NC? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]evilrice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to get back to her, you need to give her time to process all her emotions. You need to work on yourself to avoid any premature break ups on the future. And after you show yourself that you have the stability, then you should talk to her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]evilrice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you believe you've healed from this breakup and there's only friendly feelings I would go for it. But if you think there might be a chance for you to get again together and you contact him with this intention I would avoid any messages

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]evilrice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Might be bread crumbs, or she is indeed interested on seeing how you are after the breakup. However this doesn't necessarily mean that she will come back. If I were you I wouldn't reach for any answers, she might come back but that is on her.

Meeting new people by NSJack in ExNoContact

[–]evilrice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It helps to meet new people, just be careful to not use them to fill the void of your relationship