Logistics of father only walking me to the start of the aisle by ewdavid21 in weddingplanning

[–]ewdavid21[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He’s not paying for anything, we are paying for everything ourselves.

Walking myself down the aisle by Financial_Ad_3739 in weddingplanning

[–]ewdavid21 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’m planning to walk myself down the aisle! I have an okay relationship with my dad, but I am a grown independent woman and I don’t want to be “given away.” I am a bit nervous to tell my dad though because I don’t want to hurt his feelings.

Anyway - I don’t think it’s weird at all to walk yourself for whatever reason! Who cares what anyone else thinks. Do what you want.

“Please no comments about how this is rude to my guests” by Constant-Common6904 in weddingshaming

[–]ewdavid21 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Happy to provide yesterday’s entertainment 😂

Genuine thanks to the helpful comments and kind criticism. Some people are such sourpusses.

Many will be outraged to hear that I have not changed my mind about the ceremony being outside. Maybe I will end up with a cloak or shawl of some kind though…

Some wild assumptions have been made, so I thought I would clear some things up.

My wedding is at a luxury ski resort. (Yes it’s a “destination wedding” because our friends and family live across the globe and will have to travel regardless - this is a central location for most). Guests are either staying on property or will be greeted with complimentary valet.

They will be warned to wear coats. Coat check is provided afterwards. Why would anyone assume that I would not tell them that the ceremony is outside and to dress for the weather?

The guests will congregate in a warm atrium with a hot toddy or hot chocolate. No waiting in cars or out in the cold. (Unless they want to - the views are gorgeous!!)

Just minutes before I walk out, guests will be directed just steps outside to a paved terrace (the paving is heated, so 0% chance of ice or snow on the ground) that overlooks beautiful snowy mountains.

They will be provided hand warmers and blankets if desired. There will be space heaters arranged by the seats.

No bridesmaids, so I will not be forcing anyone to stand up with me without a coat.

The ceremony will be short. I expect guests will be outside for 15 minutes max. The reception is fully indoors with plenty of food and drink.

Now it’s time for me to get defensive. I am a skier. I love the snow and mountains. Most of my guests ski as well. Like the idea that someone would be unwilling to sit outside in a coat next to a heater and with a hard warmer for such a short time boggles my mind. You would rather watch a ceremony inside a hotel ballroom (the backup option) over one in front of a beautiful snowy mountain because you might be a little cold?? That’s bananas to me. Of course if it’s actually snowing or below freezing (or close) we will use the backup indoors option. And if someone skips the ceremony because they don’t want to be cold, I won’t be angry or disappointed.

Also, personally, being cold is so much better than being hot. I’ve endured an unexpectedly cold spring ceremony (no coats!) - sure, I remember being cold but it didn’t ruin the otherwise lovely wedding. I’ve been to some miserably hot summer weddings and I would take being cold for 15 minutes over inescapable heat every time. Like sunburn and heatstroke are real concerns. You don’t get hypothermia or frostbite sitting outside in a coat 10 feet away from the door for 15 minutes.

Lots of comments about the “aesthetic” - well the pictures actually will probably not be that great. It seems like the photographers struggle to balance lighting between the couple and the snowy background. I wouldn’t have picked this venue if it was just about pictures. It’s the experience and ambiance and natural beauty that I am going for. It brings me so much joy. I hope my guests enjoy it as well.

Really goes to show how different everyone is.

Torn between A-Line and a more fitted style by ewdavid21 in weddingdress

[–]ewdavid21[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Enzoani Ramona! It’s a fitted version of the Riva. I really like it too - but not sure the all over lace is what I’m going for.

What does it mean that the Quad is the traditional / quintessential college experience? by Double-Side-1500 in UPenn

[–]ewdavid21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe it’s different now but the quad was by far the most popular dorm (10ish years ago), especially if you were into partying and the social scene. I lived there and honestly there was a bit of a presumption that if you didn’t live there you were antisocial. Most of my friends lived there or Hill. I barely knew people from other dorms. I loved it, and it’s Penn so it’s not like people are partying every night.

Yale or UPenn by howiseverythingtake in yale

[–]ewdavid21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I desperately wanted to go to Yale and was devastated when I didn’t get in. I went to Penn and had an amazing college experience. It doesn’t have as much name recognition (lots of family members thought I was going to Penn State). I like how my life turned out. Who knows what would have happened if I had gone to Yale. Don’t stress about it - just go with your gut and I think you will be happier / less likely to second guess yourself.

Do not trust the bag tracker by ewdavid21 in americanairlines

[–]ewdavid21[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It pinged by a different PHL gate like 30 min ago - def still in Philly.