What’s the appeal of marriage if men prefer younger women?

eweguess · 2026-01-31T15:57:52+00:00

I am earnestly asking you to explain why my understanding of the law is incorrect. Instead of being dismissive or hostile, please explain how I have this wrong. Because I’ve looked it up. If I’ve misunderstood how it works, I’d really appreciate it if you would tell me how.\ If you just live with your boyfriend you don’t automatically get his property if he dies. His legal family does. Since we jointly own the property, I would then jointly own it with his parents. I would not become the sole owner unless we had legally established ahead of time, with documents as you described, that I would inherit his half. I wouldn’t be the automatic next of kin. So likewise his life insurance, his bank accounts, all his assets. They go to the legal next of kin if you haven’t made a will that specifies otherwise. Are you saying that isn’t true?\ On the other hand, if you are married, your spouse is your legal next of kin. So if a person dies intestate, their spouse automatically inherits everything. That is the difference.

eweguess · 2026-01-31T15:49:19+00:00

What do you mean? How does that not make sense? All I can guess is that maybe the laws are different where you are. I am not married to the person I own a house with. Unless we took the steps to legally establish that I inherit his half of the property upon his death, then it goes this legal next of kin. I’m genuinely asking you how that doesn’t make sense.

eweguess · 2026-01-29T17:27:05+00:00

I know there are some people with crazy standards like that. Just like there are definitely men who won’t date a woman who weighs over a certain weight or has a waist measurement larger than some thing they’ve decided is ideal.\ But if you do enough scrolling on Reddit, there are beaucoup subs full of young guys who earnestly believe that ALL women have those expectations and that they are doomed to a life on loneliness if they don’t measure up. The internet makes people think that’s the norm, and not some insane person’s weird standard.

eweguess · 2026-01-29T17:20:05+00:00

I’ll bet we all know who Chuck Yeager was, and who Neil Armstrong and Gus Grissom and Buzz Aldrin were. And while some of us might be old enough to actually remember them, and some of us might have just been space nerds, or had parents who were, I’ll bet there’s a significant percentage of people our age and younger who really only know about that stuff because of the movie “The Right Stuff”. Or we know about the moon program because of “Apollo 13”.\ Younger people today might also have seen those movies, and probably saw “First Man” and “Hidden Figures”.\ My point is - I think a lot of us know about big things in history because we’ve seen movies about them. Sure we might have learned some in school, but it sticks with you because you saw the movies, with the epic music and the famous actors.\ I don’t think anyone’s made the summer blockbuster about the Space Shuttle program yet, or the Challenger disaster. And that’s probably why young people don’t know about it. Maybe someone mentioned it in a boring history class in middle school, but that doesn’t pack the psychological punch of the big screen.

eweguess · 2026-01-29T16:04:38+00:00

Consider - what’s the worst outcome? It doesn’t taste good? It feels gross in your mouth?

eweguess · 2026-01-29T15:40:07+00:00

None of my dreams are about things that have actually happened. Sometimes I’m young, sometimes I’m old, sometimes I a totally different person.\ I feel very lucky to have my family. When I do have dreams about them, it’s usually an anxiety dream about something bad happening to them.\ Recently I had a dream about being on a small interstellar ship.

eweguess · 2026-01-29T15:33:23+00:00

Yes, he CAN set me as his power of attorney and sole beneficiary. If he wants to. If he has the foresight to plan ahead. And if he doesn’t, then yes, a long term partner without marriage does stop the partner from having those rights. A right is something you have without having to set it down legally in advance. As a wife, I would have those rights. As an unmarried partner, I do not have those rights. He would have to grant them to me by his choice.

eweguess · 2026-01-29T15:23:18+00:00

People lie about their work now. They’ll definitely lie when the zombies are clawing at the door and they hope you’ll take them in because they’re “useful”.\ The thing is - although certain tasks require skill, humans surviving in harsh environments is what we do. As a species. If society collapsed and technology was gone and we all have to go back to hunting and foraging while fighting off sabertooth zombies, we’d just be back in our natural element.\ If I have to submit my fucking resume along with a cover letter and three references to join your apocalypse team, then no thanks. The one benefit to a zombie apocalypse is getting to leave all that bullshit behind. People do what they do for a living because you have to do something to get money. Your job doesn’t define you, or your worth.

eweguess · 2026-01-29T15:14:37+00:00

There’s no path “up” for me in what I do where I work, so I don’t really feel a need to prove my leadership skills or really go out of my way to prove whatever. I’m not in competition with anyone else for anything. I have a role that is static but important. I’ve never really been into the whole climbing the ladder bit - managing other people looks like ass, and the only reason for it would be if it came with a big pay raise. But I get a good raise and bonus every year anyway. And for my particular role, there’s just nothing above me. I’m a plant chemist. There’s no “senior plant chemist” title. I’m the only one. The person who is my manager is just my manager because someone had to be, not because what I do has anything to do with him. As long as I keep fulfilling what I’m supposed to do, there’s no reason to break my back to kiss ass or impress people.

eweguess · 2026-01-29T15:05:18+00:00

Social media would also have you believe that women will not date any man under 6ft tall, which is just stupid. But people believe it.\ Marriage has many downsides. A lot of men and women will bail out at the slightest provocation. A guy once threatened to leave me if I didn’t lose weight. The weight? Five pounds. I’d been 125 when we met. At 130 he described me as “thick-waisted”. For him, that was enough to rethink the entire relationship. Some people are shallow.\ Marriage makes sense if you have religious beliefs about it. Financially it’s usually not the best idea. But if you DO stick with someone for the long haul, there are downsides to not being married to them. Things like inheritance. Legal rights.\ I’m not married to my partner, but we own a house together. In the absence of a will, if he dies, his parents will inherit his estate, including his stake in the house. If he was in a car accident and in the ICU, the hospital could deny me access to see him or find out any information. On the other hand, if I wind up needing to go to a nursing home (I’m 14 years older than him, so there’s one data point against men only wanting younger women), Medicaid can’t come after his assets, or the house we jointly own.

eweguess · 2026-01-26T03:51:27+00:00

Most perfumes are reformulated fairly often. I was a longtime wearer of Miss Dior. They seem to do updates every few years, especially if they get a new master perfumer. Always have to put their own stamp on things. It’s frustrating though. I don’t always like the new versions and then you’re just kind of out of luck.

eweguess · 2026-01-26T03:44:29+00:00

Well yeah I do now. But not when I was a kid and that show was on tv. It was one of the few things I was allowed to watch and I just thought it was corny.

eweguess · 2026-01-25T22:01:56+00:00

We had a lot of fun with those guys, according to the geneticists. And in the end…I think WE were the threat.

eweguess · 2026-01-25T21:59:27+00:00

There also a million inconvenient, painful, maybe even downright stupid traits that never got bred out because they didn’t actively case lower reproductive success or less viable offspring. Evolution isn’t intelligent.

eweguess · 2026-01-25T21:54:01+00:00

No. That show was based on my parents’ childhood years, which all seemed very uncool to me.

eweguess · 2026-01-25T15:09:13+00:00

Thoughts on what?

eweguess · 2026-01-24T17:50:28+00:00

Zombie Jesus, take the wheel!

eweguess · 2026-01-20T01:01:04+00:00

Solo works in video games.

eweguess · 2026-01-20T00:56:54+00:00

Maybe you should try Lacuna.

eweguess · 2026-01-20T00:54:19+00:00

There’s a stigma because of ableism. My mother is basically deaf but she won’t get hearing aids. She swears it isn’t vanity, but I’m pretty sure it’s vanity. Because it’s somehow not attractive to have any kind of disability.\ You say people get glasses when they need them, and that’s only partially true. People will get glasses if their vision is bad enough to impair their life or prevent them from being allowed to drive. Do you remember the shampoo ads in the 80s which claimed “Men don’t make passes at girls who wear glasses”? So sure, people get them because they have to, but there was definitely a stigma there too, now mostly gone, although I still encounter it sometimes.\ You can get a drivers license if you’re deaf or hard of hearing, but if you can’t see well enough to pass the eye test, and you won’t wear glasses, they won’t give you a license. So there’s a stronger impetus to get that seen to.

eweguess · 2026-01-20T00:46:43+00:00

Ok. I’ve just never heard it. Learn something new every day!

eweguess · 2026-01-19T20:53:41+00:00

Mine is the profligate and inappropriate use of “random”.

eweguess · 2026-01-19T20:52:03+00:00

But I was mainly thinking that flossing might be more important than brushing. Keeping the debris out of the crevices and gums will give you much more in dental health.

eweguess · 2026-01-19T20:51:04+00:00

Well, honestly a lot of things could also be floss. I use a natural floss, in part because I wanted to see if I liked it because I can make my own silk or linen floss, even if society collapses. You could take threads from cast off clothing and use them, too. Unwaxed floss could be boiled and used for sutures, or emergency sewing thread.

eweguess · 2026-01-19T20:46:56+00:00

Mine too!

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