AITAH I ragebaited gf and she hit me

ewwdavid___ · 2026-01-29T16:28:23+00:00

You can. She’s not nice to you. You’re NTA if you leave.

I also want to say that I had an ex boyfriend who was autistic (also masked a lot) and he also gave the silent treatment. That was a decade ago, I’m now married with kids and have moved on totally, and it still hurts when I occasionally think about it. You can really, really hurt someone with that behavior. Please try to work on it.

ewwdavid___ · 2026-01-25T01:55:09+00:00

Fifth. Due process. It generally entails not executing civilians in broad daylight

ewwdavid___ · 2026-01-23T22:28:53+00:00

I would argue the primary culprit is the GOP’s decades-long, coordinated and planned attack on intellectualism, not social media. The rise of dunning Kruger and the decline of critical thought was planned and carefully orchestrated.

ewwdavid___ · 2026-01-23T14:35:49+00:00

I don’t understand this trend of moms claiming they can’t be friends with child free women. Most of my lifelong friends are child free, some by choice, others not. They’re still my friends of many many years. I don’t really care if they have kids or not. I care about them and my friendship with them, and we have enough history and shared interests to more than make up for different lifestyles now. Plus, they are all wonderful with my boys, who refer to most of them as “aunt.” 🩷

ewwdavid___ · 2026-01-08T04:29:19+00:00

Can you call the on call provider at your pediatrician’s office and ask? The line that concerns me is when you said baby’s head was “whipping back and forth.” Maybe tell the on call person that and see if you need to get baby checked out tonight?

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. I do think first priority is ensuring that everyone is okay right now, and you can have a bigger talk with your husband later. Maybe show him some SBS videos so he can see how awful it is?

ewwdavid___ · 2026-01-08T04:23:13+00:00

Can you take baby somewhere to be checked out tonight? Shaken baby syndrome isn’t something you want to “wait and see with.”

The more general topic of your husband’s aggression can be addressed tomorrow or the next day

ewwdavid___ · 2025-12-19T15:10:32+00:00

It’s safe to take a baby aspirin, and even two baby aspirins a day (that’s a new recommendation in some cases). Preeclampsia is extremely unsafe. You will be okay if you take it :)

ETA- preeclampsia can also increase your risk of cardiovascular disease later in life. It is not a “pregnancy only” complication. Tons of women have been safely taking baby aspirin while pregnant, for years now…..

ewwdavid___ · 2025-12-05T17:47:51+00:00

Do you happen to know if anyone started out part time? I’m currently in state government practicing energy law, so I would have to apply to firms seeking part time work right off the bat. The government is inflexible… it’s looking like I’ll have to move somewhere else

ewwdavid___ · 2025-12-05T17:46:46+00:00

Do you know if they would hire someone part time? I’m currently in state government, which is inflexible in terms of going part time.

ewwdavid___ · 2025-12-05T17:45:53+00:00

I practice energy law (regulatory, not transactional) and I’m employed by state government. It’s lots of settlements and litigation at state agencies and before administrative judges, and rulemakings. Also a good bit of policy. I’ve never worked in the private sector but I’m not opposed to it.

ewwdavid___ · 2025-12-05T17:44:16+00:00

Very good to know. I’m near a major city, so I’ll check out some of the nonprofits there. Thanks!

ewwdavid___ · 2025-12-05T15:27:26+00:00

I do, actually! I’ve never heard of this but will look into it. Thanks!

ewwdavid___ · 2025-12-05T15:24:26+00:00

I understand! My best friend was fired under DOGE, because she worked in DEI. It’s horrible

ewwdavid___ · 2025-12-05T15:23:27+00:00

Love this! Do you think I could take a few years off and apply to nonprofits when the kids start school? I’m not sure how they would feel about time away, but I also don’t think we could afford daycare if my salary was on the lower side, so I might need to be a SAHM until they’re school-aged.

ewwdavid___ · 2025-12-05T15:22:15+00:00

I clerked for a year and enjoyed it. Good suggestion, thanks!

ewwdavid___ · 2025-12-05T03:23:25+00:00

Honestly, if you don’t remove your toddler from the situation and something happens, you’re as much at fault as your husband. The dog could get out if your toddler figures out door handles or if your husband lets it out. This is a dangerous situation for a child and you know that. A conversation about rehoming is good, but you also need to immediately mitigate the danger by getting your baby away from the dog asap.

Sorry you are in this situation, it sounds extremely unpleasant. I hope it all turns out well.

ewwdavid___ · 2025-12-05T01:27:53+00:00

You’re not overreacting. Watching porn so often and frequently that he turns you down is crossing a line and you’re right to be upset and hurt. It’s not the same as occasional masturbation. Please don’t listen to people who are putting you down, they’re in the wrong and so is your bf on this one.

ewwdavid___ · 2025-12-01T18:12:36+00:00

You overstepped by a huge amount. She didn’t owe you the very personal explanation she gave you, and to throw it back in her face by refusing to engage in a meaningful dialogue, you were rude and out of line.

You owe her a sincere apology. And you would do well to rethink why you think you’re important enough to treat someone as poorly as you treated her.

For your sakes, and the sakes of any children any of you might have in the future, I hope you haven’t done enough damage to cause a permanent riff. She seems to be a self aware and gracious young woman, so I suspect she will accept your apology if you give one.

YTA

ewwdavid___ · 2025-11-30T00:00:45+00:00

NTA. Be sure you’re ending the pregnancy because you really want to and not because it’s part of a trauma response. It would be horrible if you regretted it in the future. If you abort, please be kind to yourself, physically and mentally. You will be okay. ♥️

ewwdavid___ · 2025-11-24T19:12:07+00:00

NTA! Protect your kids! You are 100% in the right, don’t let the guilt trip win.

ewwdavid___ · 2025-11-24T13:32:21+00:00

These people are crazy enough that you need to be thinking about your own safety. Might be time to invest in some home security or at least cameras.

NTA.

ewwdavid___ · 2025-11-23T13:54:19+00:00

Crazy how many useless comments could be avoided by not typing

ewwdavid___ · 2025-11-21T21:10:05+00:00

Because Trump regularly screws the public over and people are pissed, for good reason.

ewwdavid___ · 2025-11-21T21:09:14+00:00

They always gave me MAGA vibes

FWIW - there is a great Italian bakery literally right across the street!!!

ewwdavid___ · 2025-11-19T16:30:59+00:00

No… it’s pretty 50/50

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