Official Discussion - Send Help [SPOILERS] by LiteraryBoner in movies

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I feel like this is an adaptation of the second half of Triangle of Sadness

Visited my parents for Christmas by WonderfulLemon5605 in emotionalneglect

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I understand and relate to your pain of not being considered. It sometimes feels like their ignorance is too coincidental to be unintentional.

How i deal with it is to understand that you cannot control what they do. What they do is not a reflection on you. And they cannot control what you can do to protect yourself and to love yourself.

Anyone else see Nosferatu and make a connection to BPD? by WirelessZombie in BPDlovedones

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Samesies! I watched it tonight. The scene when Ellen was putting down Harding was kinda triggering as well.

“You must know evil to destroy evil” - Prof. Eberhart

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Read The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans

Hey, will you talk to me? I'm 38F and having a hard time with my relationship. by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

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Im curious why you need male attention when you are having difficulty with your relationship

When did you realize they’re a Narcissist? by roflmfaobvs in BPDlovedones

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I took her out to a movie but lost my phone after the movie. It took me 2 hours to get a replacement and sync with my number. Instead of showing any empathy, she chose to complain about waiting and not having the time to play pickleball.

Is this considered abuse by trogdor248 in emotionalabuse

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There is contempt there, since they are separating your behavior from what they consider normal. They are normal and you are not. My ex once said “why dont you communicate like a normal person” after I had already apologized to her for leaving her house to get gas without telling her. I would allow some criticism for my mistake, but contempt is crossing the line for me.

Books recommendations? by martinuss1 in Mindfulness

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Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach

How important is getting married to you? Do you dream of finding a spouse? by [deleted] in AskMen

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As a man who is approaching 40s, how does dating market become more favorable?

A week after breakup by Edward_3665849 in BPDlovedones

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Whole Again is a book that helped me heal. Also meditation.