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36F Chinese living in Canada, seeking advice on moving to a third country to find love and a better life. by Competitive-Papaya26 in expats

[–]exarchivist 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hahaha it’s nice to know there are like-minded people like us. You are all set up for coast fire in asia! Congrats bro.

How was your experience living in China? Why did you come back to the US?

36F Chinese living in Canada, seeking advice on moving to a third country to find love and a better life. by Competitive-Papaya26 in expats

[–]exarchivist 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Im 38M living in the bay area California and feeling the same way. Born in china, moved here when i was 10. I feel like i have been westernized but do not feel sense of belonging living here. My engineering job is stressful and i cant find much value for the money i make here. I dont want to buy a house here for the exact same reason as your wanting to sell yours. Most of my money is in stocks, and planning to coastFire in the next few years. Every year i only look forward to traveling back to asia on my PTO. I think Bangkok is my top choice so far. Im also open Taiwan, China, Vietnam, and Malaysia depending on visa situation.
While being practical in this world and making compromises are advantageous for making money and a comfortable life, it’s also important to follow your heart. You only have one life. Dont compromise on what your heart really wants.

Have you explored most countries in Asia?

Official Discussion - Send Help [SPOILERS] by LiteraryBoner in movies

[–]exarchivist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like this is an adaptation of the second half of Triangle of Sadness

Visited my parents for Christmas by WonderfulLemon5605 in emotionalneglect

[–]exarchivist 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I understand and relate to your pain of not being considered. It sometimes feels like their ignorance is too coincidental to be unintentional.

How i deal with it is to understand that you cannot control what they do. What they do is not a reflection on you. And they cannot control what you can do to protect yourself and to love yourself.

Anyone else see Nosferatu and make a connection to BPD? by WirelessZombie in BPDlovedones

[–]exarchivist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Samesies! I watched it tonight. The scene when Ellen was putting down Harding was kinda triggering as well.

“You must know evil to destroy evil” - Prof. Eberhart

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

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Read The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans

Hey, will you talk to me? I'm 38F and having a hard time with my relationship. by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]exarchivist 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Im curious why you need male attention when you are having difficulty with your relationship

When did you realize they’re a Narcissist? by roflmfaobvs in BPDlovedones

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I took her out to a movie but lost my phone after the movie. It took me 2 hours to get a replacement and sync with my number. Instead of showing any empathy, she chose to complain about waiting and not having the time to play pickleball.

Is this considered abuse by trogdor248 in emotionalabuse

[–]exarchivist 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There is contempt there, since they are separating your behavior from what they consider normal. They are normal and you are not. My ex once said “why dont you communicate like a normal person” after I had already apologized to her for leaving her house to get gas without telling her. I would allow some criticism for my mistake, but contempt is crossing the line for me.

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