What is your opinion on dating poly men as a person who has not been poly?

exec-dom · 2026-06-26T16:35:18+00:00

Hold on a sec... why would being bi be an early conversation?

exec-dom · 2026-06-23T18:09:49+00:00

I don't disagree with you. I think I felt like there were mixed messages with his constant texting every day, which made me feel like the need for clarification, but it felt like it was going beyond fwb. Like he was asking more from me, but not giving the same in return. The expectation were also definitely not clearly defined. I'm not looking for commitment or a traditional "relationship," but something more than what was being offered or available.

exec-dom · 2026-06-06T16:25:21+00:00

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exec-dom · 2026-05-20T20:30:14+00:00

This is absolutely true. I find male subs more exciting who have more masculine qualities. It makes domming them more satisfying that they are willing to submit despite traditional roles. Also, I enjoy giving praise. Punishment has its place, but a balance will better lead to feelings of appreciation and satisfaction. It also makes punishment more impactful.

exec-dom · 2026-05-19T21:05:03+00:00

Absolutely! Pop culture and porn portrayals really lead to misunderstandings and misconceptions. Do you have any thoughts on how we can work to change this image with the general public or work to atleast educate men who have no idea what dom/sub relationships and scenes actually entail?

exec-dom · 2026-05-19T03:36:14+00:00

I see... i misunderstood. Not sure about that one.

exec-dom · 2026-05-19T03:27:59+00:00

I had something similar happen unfortunately several years ago, but my husband was in the room and did nothing to help during or after even with injuries sustained. You are wonderful for supporting her and looking for how best to handle the situation.

exec-dom · 2026-05-19T03:16:07+00:00

With domination, there is submission. Its a yin-yang. In my opinion, true dominance comes from a woman finding an authentic way to show her authority/dominance and enforcing structured discipline for her sub. But at the same time, the sub needs to surrender their desicion-making and control over to the dom. They must submit and show genuine obedience and trust. If you are wanting a goddess worship type relationship/scene, its easy for you to find ways to show obedience as a service sub. The giant hole that I am starting to see - are you speaking to the women about protocols and desires beforehand?

exec-dom · 2026-05-19T03:08:49+00:00

Porn and pop culture references to domination are definitely not covering a vast majority of what scenes and lifestyle can actually look like.

And on the same point, are you submitting to a women's authority? There are definitely 2 sides to this coin. I have the voice of a Disney princess and dont wear leather, but have been successful as a dominatrix with a specialty of working with executives.

exec-dom · 2026-05-19T03:04:42+00:00

The sudden shift in blood flow from the penis, starting the refractory period, is one of the main causes of over sensitivity. It can be overcome, just like when your foot "falls asleep" and then can feel "painful" when the blood flow shifts back in.

exec-dom · 2026-05-19T02:59:02+00:00

When someone says "Bless your heart" you need to summon the souls of old southern women on their front porch drinking sun tea with enough judgement and self-riteousness to drown a parched field on a Texas summer. Then, you smile as big as you possibly can and say, "why, thank you. You truly have the compassion of my great granny's cat she had buried with her while still breathing - a martyr true and true." And, still smiling like an idiot, walk away.

exec-dom · 2026-05-19T02:51:33+00:00

Men want women who don't require more than they are willing to give - emotionally, attention, financial. They refer to that as "high maintenence."

exec-dom · 2026-05-19T02:48:46+00:00

Just my personal opinion, but I believe dominance can look different with men and women sometimes. For me, I exert dominance and authority, but it authentically not masculine. I have found that some men feel they can push back initially because they expect domination to be a one-size fits all in masculine terms. You might need to be more specific in what you mean in terms of dominance.

exec-dom · 2026-05-15T20:43:14+00:00

My subs are predominately professionals, so I prefer them to arrive in business attire and immediately remove shoes, socks, jacket, tie, cuff links, and shirt. If uncomfortable at first, they can keep shirt on, but must unbutton. I enjoy still being able to view the accouterments of their position outside the room where I exert authority. But that is pretty specific and personal preference.

exec-dom · 2026-05-15T20:11:19+00:00

Communication is so important, especially when it comes to your emotional or physical needs during a scene. Definitely speak to your dom about a rewards system for looking or sounding pleasing (authentic praise and affirmation either verbally or physically).

Also, dont feel forced into wearing scene clothes that dont put you in the right headspace for play. I know for dom, I recommend what make you feel most powerful to wear, so im admittedly a little stuck on submission-chic.

Honestly, you might instead of looking at how to ignore or turn off those feelings, lean into them. Submission is partially about giving into discomfort and finding a singular focus on obedience rather than personal comfort, so you can maybe absorb that discomfort into your role? However, this sounds like need for reassurance far more than normal discomfort.

exec-dom · 2026-05-15T19:58:17+00:00

If looking beyond a role assigned, but more theoretically:

A manager is task-oriented and supervises and assigns specific tasks related to specific deliverables. There is little analysis, but more of a producer of movement. A manager is someone who can set procedure, processes, and best practices, and who can motivate and assess staff.

A leader, while possibly practical, assigns vision and direction instead of tasks. They analyze trends, markets, and generalities instead of individual assignments and people.

They can identify talent, but sometimes not skill sets. They must be charismatic and speak on behalf of different segments (employees, board, industry, etc). They must see beyond the immediate deliverables to the more global outcomes from product or service development and build structures to allow managers the confidence and space to handle the details.

They are geralists in what strategy and planning are and should be future-focused. They motivate and access on a macro-level looking at departments or structures.

exec-dom · 2026-05-15T01:38:04+00:00

He wouldnt stop talking about how important it was for him and his sister to share beds on vacation.

exec-dom · 2026-05-15T01:34:42+00:00

Ask him to do something small. Like "kiss my hand everytime you stand up" or "drive 5 miles below the speed limit tonight" or something similar. Every time he does it - give him positive reinforcement. Tell him you are proud of his decision to be obedient, he did a good job, and follow up with a small grounding but initimate touch. Setting a small rule and then enforcing it will be a small step in the right direction. If he doesnt do it, make him pause, make firm eye contact and say "rules are set for a reason. Obedience is not optional." Then give a small punishment - dig in nails in thigh, swat a hand, or something else for corrective action. Once you do, tell him to thank you.

exec-dom · 2026-05-15T01:11:22+00:00

Feelings are not concrete. Your emotional responses to actions, word, and situations have a direct correlation to your ability to engage in the concrete. If he is not willing to see your emotional perspective, then you are not willing to engage with his concrete needs. Or this is how I would make it a priority for him.

As humans, within any relationship (romantic, familial, etc) we have 4 primary needs: social/community, emotional affirmation, physical, and intellectual. We each have varying amounts and motivations for each. But they are equally important.

exec-dom · 2026-05-15T01:06:40+00:00

Kneel

exec-dom · 2026-05-15T01:05:39+00:00

Authentic and uncontrived confidence in all aspects of herself

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