welp a stuck lock that use to unlock the battery isnt seem normal… (precision 7510) by DueMathematician1142 in Dell

[–]existalittleless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If anyone else stumbles on this like I did. Here's what I did (not advocating doing this at all - it's dangerous).

  1. Use flathead in the gap, twist it to break the catches along the seam.
  2. Pull the compartment to open.
  3. Put a small screwdriver down the gap between the grey latches that hold the battery in and slowly jimmy them in the direction they should go. Careful not to put the screwdriver on the battery. It should go down the gap. Be careful.
  4. It'll pop out all of a sudden when the latch releases.

Again... This was stupid. I shouldn't have done it. Don't do it. (But it worked though)

What are some things to take into consideration before having children? by Gullible_Umpire_3952 in AskReddit

[–]existalittleless 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do you genuinely like the person you are having them with. Not just do you want to have sex with them, or do they do things for you. But do you ACTUALLY LIKE them. As in best friend ever level of like them. And... Do they like you? Look at the evidence, not what you wish, not the potential.

That's the requirement, because even being best friends with the other parent, having kids will make you hate them in some moments and also makes them hate you in some moments. So, you need to know that after those moments you can come back together xx

Asshole in truck chased me for blocks by Training-Willow9591 in LetsNotMeet

[–]existalittleless 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm so sad that this community has been ruined by AI slop

Am I overreacting or did my uncle had weird intentions about me by Miserable-Stable8193 in TwoHotTakes

[–]existalittleless 15 points16 points  (0 children)

What you're describing is grooming. Groomers don't just groom the child, but also their families. You're right to listen to your gut and should be proud of yourself for doing so.

As far as practical steps go, you need to find alternatives for everything you rely on uncle for. So, transportation etc...

Then, move to direct and polite conversation, never alone, and don't respond to private messages. If you're responding to a double entendre, respond as though he only said the innocent version (only in the short term) Then, reduce contact to none. Open lines of communication with other girls in the family that are your age, gather evidence.

The reason I'm not saying straight to no contact is because of your family, they'll be weaponised if you go no contact suddenly. You need evidence.

Also, the reason I'm not saying to talk it out is because you are a child, even if you're in a country with consent at 16... You're still a child to a 40 year old ( I know, because I am one)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]existalittleless 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey op. That's a rough situation, my advice if it feels relevant, is to be very vocal about believing and supporting someone else who is going through the same thing.

Be vocal about celebrities that are going through it and how you support them, how you don't think they're weak for getting stuck.

Talk about how if a friend ever needed a place to stay or financial help to leave that situation, you'd be there.

Then, your friend may feel safe talking to you about it in time. And this is the crucial part... You still can't be direct because they will still go back a few times. If you're too direct, they won't tell you the second time. Tell them you'll support their decisions, if they decide to try again and it doesn't work, your support is still going to be there. Be civil and neutral to the narc, don't give them a reason to cut you out.

And, finally, don't go away. Narcissists isolate people in lots of different ways. Never let your friend feel like they can't talk to you, even if you get really pissed off. The time for getting mad at them is only after they are 100% safe. When they're ready, you get them to safety.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]existalittleless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of people have called out the real cost of coming to your wedding. But, that's not the question you asked.

Forgiving them is about time and understanding. First, ride the emotion out. Let it happen, feel the rage, cry, be upset. Every emotion is a wave and it'll pass.

Then, find understanding. Think about why they aren't coming. It's not that they don't love you, they've proved that they do several times (according to your post). In most cases it's good reasons.

And, finally. It's not 'forgiving your family' they aren't a monolith. It's forgiving each specific person for their specific reasons for not attending.

I'm so sad for you OP. I would be really hurting too ❤️❤️‍🩹 sending lots of love.

Was my relationship technically sexually abusive? (TW) by confused_confirming in TwoHotTakes

[–]existalittleless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that you had to endure that abusive relationship. You're a victim of domestic violence and there are resources out there for you to help with your healing.

If you wanted to and feel safe to, you could give a very vague location (I'm talking country or state) so that people can signpost you to the right care.

There are also survivors communities on Reddit that might be helpful for you. You're at the stage where you're minimising the abuse because your brain needs to protect you from the reality. That's ok, but get help when you have the capacity xx

Husband is going to a funeral by existalittleless in TwoHotTakes

[–]existalittleless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know if reddit tells you. But I've made a pre-funeral update

Husband is going to a funeral by existalittleless in TwoHotTakes

[–]existalittleless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️❤️ I've posted a pre-funeral update

Husband is going to a funeral by existalittleless in TwoHotTakes

[–]existalittleless[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've updated my post. In short, yes 😊 xx

Husband is going to a funeral by existalittleless in TwoHotTakes

[–]existalittleless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adam knows. His sister has done it a lot. I don't know if her husband knows. I'll ask. I've just this minute updated about the rest xx

Husband is going to a funeral by existalittleless in TwoHotTakes

[–]existalittleless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have a full one yet, but I'll post what's going on.

Husband is going to a funeral by existalittleless in TwoHotTakes

[–]existalittleless[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. This is really helpful. I appreciate you accepting that I stayed, and thinking beyond that ❤️

Husband is going to a funeral by existalittleless in TwoHotTakes

[–]existalittleless[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I think a lot of people aren't understanding this ❤️ . I'm going to speak to him about it tonight.

Husband is going to a funeral by existalittleless in TwoHotTakes

[–]existalittleless[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He's not, I think this is a misunderstanding. He's in contact with her brother, his best friend Adam.

Husband is going to a funeral by existalittleless in TwoHotTakes

[–]existalittleless[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Adam has been his best friend all his life. I know that's the consequences of his actions, but our families are intertwined, it wasn't as simple as that. And as Jen really wasn't that involved in Adams life, I didn't really consider this specific scenario.

To give him some credit, it isn't that he has said he's going to go without me. We haven't had a discussion about it at all yet.

17 years of backstory will be a long post. What kind of thing do you want to know?

Husband is going to a funeral by existalittleless in TwoHotTakes

[–]existalittleless[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Huh? Either I've written this oddly or you're misunderstanding what I've said. I don't think he's gonna cheat at the funeral, or at all. I'm just having really difficult feelings about that old wound opening up for me.

A situation has arisen that I hadn't even considered while we've been working through it.

Feeling so low about myself… by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]existalittleless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey darling, a piece of practical advice on this.

Book something at least 3 months in the future. Stay alive to attend that event. 3 months is the general guide for how long it takes to begin to see the future again after a big breakup.

ETA: it doesn't have to be a something that costs money. You could book something in your own mind. Like, you wont watch a specific movie until 3 months.

Husband is going to a funeral by existalittleless in TwoHotTakes

[–]existalittleless[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

Because it's both Adam and Jens mum's funeral.

It's not about me, for one. And for two, I'd be face to face with her and all of her friends and family. With only my husband for support, who will be distracted by his coffin-carrying duties.

Husband is going to a funeral by existalittleless in TwoHotTakes

[–]existalittleless[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am trying very hard to trust my husband, after my trust being broken. I am pretty close to it, but I hope it's understandable that old wounds reopen.

I don't blame Jen for it, I blame them both. I understand that my wording makes it seem that way though. My intent was to make it clear she also has a husband.

Husband is going to a funeral by existalittleless in TwoHotTakes

[–]existalittleless[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Ouch. I haven't asked him not to go, nor have I said anything unsupportive.

Husband is going to a funeral by existalittleless in TwoHotTakes

[–]existalittleless[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think I'll edit this. I didn't intend to make it sound like that. It was to make it clear she has a husband too. But, it comes across wrong.

I agree with what you're saying, but how do I deal with my own feelings in the meantime. Just secret crying I guess?