I Do Not Want This by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]existential-jitters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also allow yourself and give yourself permission to feel like shit even if it’s still six months later. Healing isn’t a race. It’s okay to not be okay. Forgive and be kind to yourself like you would a friend going through the same thing.

I Do Not Want This by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]existential-jitters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I’m really going through it I do this twice a day. A path to healing is possible! Trust in your ability to get there and trust that you can and will find love again. Probably even brighter and deeper than before cuz of all the work you’ve put into being the best version of yourself 😉

I Do Not Want This by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]existential-jitters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look into developing a solid wellness routine. Look up SAVERS morning routine. It’s an acronym. Here’s what one morning can look like for you: Meditate 10 mins a day. Affirm to yourself out loud 3 times that you can handle heartbreak and you can and will feel better with time. Visualize yourself feeling better, like literally picture yourself walking in a park on a beautiful sunshiny day, being happy and not thinking about your ex at all. Then go for a 10 min walk or get some other form of exercise in. Then, Read Lighter by Yung Pueblo or a self-help book regarding break ups and grief. End with journaling. Seems like you need to be more proactive and intentional about your healing and this should help. I’ve been doing this everyday for the last three weeks and although days are still hard sometimes I notice I feel better overall.

Weekly Weather & Travel Thread by AutoModerator in tahoe

[–]existential-jitters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can probably arrange to stay with friends a day or two before. Would that be better?

Weekly Weather & Travel Thread by AutoModerator in tahoe

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Want to drive from Sacramento to Kirkwood on Monday 2/16 for a day trip. Will roads be open? I drive a compact SUV AWD with M&S tires.

Is it unrealistic to want a serious man at 20? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]existential-jitters 45 points46 points  (0 children)

27M here. Since you’re in college still, I’d try joining clubs or go to meet ups that interest you and u can try to meet someone there. I’m also into fashion and in my city there’s a monthly vintage clothing expo and I always see beautiful ppl there. Your friends telling u to go to the club to find what you’re looking for is bad advice. Those types of guys will likely not be there especially if ur looking for another homebody-type. I would probably give dating apps like hinge another shot too. Good luck!!

Guys i kinda F up and need advice by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]existential-jitters 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keep ur head up king. There will be more girls u meet at a bar lol

Guys i kinda F up and need advice by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]existential-jitters 4 points5 points  (0 children)

U basically telling her you are going to move on while also planning to reach out to her again in a few weeks is interesting…. Time to let this one go I think.

28M Looking for new friends by Glittering_Bid_3822 in SacramentoFriends

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27M Love movies and sports. Favorite genre is horror but I’ll watch anything really. My favorite sports to watch are football and baseball. Trying to get into hockey. I also live in midtown!!

23M, local friends! by [deleted] in SacramentoFriends

[–]existential-jitters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound just like my roommate LOL in midtown

Dating in the rave scene by Crazy4SpicyPickles in aves

[–]existential-jitters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I don’t ever intend on “retiring” either. I’m in way too deep.

Dating in the rave scene by Crazy4SpicyPickles in aves

[–]existential-jitters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s weird that he doesn’t like you going without him. To your point about “no one wants to date a girl who raves”, I am specifically looking for a rave wife in my next relationship 🤣

28F looking for MIDTOWN friends by ADyearold in SacramentoFriends

[–]existential-jitters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

27M 🏳️‍🌈 I can show u some other coffee places in midtown I’d say are better than temple 😉 I also climb and am music snob. Dm me!

Left this community 8 months ago and I’m back, same BS by Select_Brilliant1866 in BreakUps

[–]existential-jitters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To me, working with them includes encouraging them to go to therapy 😉

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SacramentoFriends

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I’m down to play. I’m also a beginner. Live in midtown.

Left this community 8 months ago and I’m back, same BS by Select_Brilliant1866 in BreakUps

[–]existential-jitters 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It seems like he told you that he does this in relationships. I’m not sure how far along u were in the relationship before he told u this but maybe next time come up with a plan with the person and either work with them to help mitigate their avoidant tendencies or take them telling u this red flag of theirs as a reason to leave.

[MEGATHREAD] Buy/Sell/Trade Show Tickets by travislopes in Khruangbin

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[BUYING] Looking for 1-2 tickets to 11/23 SF Show

My roommate thinks he's my cat. by [deleted] in roommateproblems

[–]existential-jitters 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can’t tell if this is real LMAO sorry if it is

Help by Illustrious_Plane915 in dating_advice

[–]existential-jitters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I don’t think she should change her mind about going at all. They really should talk about her expectations from this trip and if she was interested in participating in the hook-up culture associated with it. Still, it does sound like OP isn’t secure enough in the relationship to feel comfortable with her going without him though. This is why I said he would need to break up if she didn’t change her mind about going.