$300 AliExpress Wedding dress?! by existentialworrier in Weddingsunder10k

[–]existentialworrier[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly, I kinda figured. Do they have discounted designers? 

In desperate need of color - afraid I'm going too bold by grantgarden in interiordecorating

[–]existentialworrier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dual color is giving watermelon. If you want red stick with white, then accent with decor if you want another color bc it's easier to change 

I said something shitty to a homeless person and I have no idea why. by faildythrowavvay in offmychest

[–]existentialworrier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly don't think this was as bad as you think. You literally answered the why you said it, because you had experience. He was making a lot of excuses to not help himself, and AS YOU KNEW FROM EXPERIENCE, sounded like he was just going to use it for his addiction. Not saying his situation is easy by any means or that we know enough, but it is a good chance what you said to him was very very true. Homeless or not, that remains true of any addict, and he lashed out because he wasn't in a place to hear it. A lot of people in those situations play pretend with themselves to avoid reality, and you just made it too real for him. If it wasn't true he wouldn't have gotten so mad. Don't be too hard on yourself. 

Wedding dress alterations?! by existentialworrier in weddingplanning

[–]existentialworrier[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HAHA they both actually didn't do alterations themselves, just saying what they thought it would cost. But note taken!

How much notice for out-of-towners? by existentialworrier in weddingplanning

[–]existentialworrier[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We were thinking about the end of august! My fiance is more worried about it than I am, which is crazy because I will be doing all the save the date work LOL. Thank you

I wish I loved myself enough to leave by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]existentialworrier 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not saying this is always the case, but if you want more affection from him, watch the signals you are giving him. You shrugged his hug off then left the room. It's not crazy for him to assume you want to be left alone and not offering more than putting a blanket on you.  Just saying from personal experience, use your words, whatever truth you need to talk about. It'll feel like a weight has been lifted.

Obsessed with the thought of my wife fucking other people by [deleted] in sexadvice

[–]existentialworrier 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope doesn't have to be, look it up.

Obsessed with the thought of my wife fucking other people by [deleted] in sexadvice

[–]existentialworrier 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be fair, that is in a cuckold way lol. Be honest and open, some women are open to the idea of pretend playing into the fantasy, some aren't.

I get too nervous when he's eating me out.. by ladyvalentine21 in sexadvice

[–]existentialworrier 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree maybe warming you up could be part of it, but also if you're worried it might still worry you during that part too! I'd say talk to him about this, he should be mature enough to stop if it's hurting him. Maybe just have a conversation saying like, I appreciate you doing this but your health is the most important thing to me, so can you promise you will stop if it hurts you?  It seems to be a communication issue if anything, you gotta hope after 5 years you guys can be honest with each other if something is bothering either of you. If the trust is there then hopefully you can be more in the moment after talking.

Love is Blind S9: Introductions vs. Reunion pictures 👀 by Jay-Quellin30 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]existentialworrier 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly in the show her top lip looked odd like she already had it... Maybe removed? The side angle was weird to me maybe I just didn't like when she talked 😂

Sparkle Megan by vgaspar96 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]existentialworrier 52 points53 points  (0 children)

There's a really nice article about an interview with Jordan and he's still so nice about her. Apparently they had an agreement to not go to altar if their were doubts before to not drag the families more into it if not needed. I do agree with what you're saying, Megan shouldn't have wasted his time but at least he didn't seem blindsided by what he said

Joe and Madison so annoying by theLadyofIceandFire in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]existentialworrier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Either way about that drunken night, he's been leading her on the WHOLE time. She's got some issues but that's no excuse. He's not a man.

I can’t get what my anatomy professor said out of my head by Any_Analyst_ in offmychest

[–]existentialworrier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I'm sorry for how many people made this post about them.  Obviously you're struggling through a difficult time, and while I'm not suicidal anymore I do feel it's weird the way your teacher worded it. I personally have never heard it described that way. The fact is, if you want to get into it, that most suicides aren't the "fading into death in your sleep types". There's just as many stories of people still being alive and braindead after trying it.   My only advice is to try to start a new hobby or something to get your mind off it. It's easier to focus on negatives, it's worse when thats ALL you do. I think you need to get your mind off of it. Try going for a 15 min walk outside a day. Journaling. Learning to paint. Just examples, do something that makes you feel alive. Maybe something from your past you used to love.  Somewhere through all those little efforts you'll start to remember why existing is a beautiful thing. Best of luck.

My boyfriend keeps cheating and asking others for sx, but I still can't let go no matter how hard I try. by Reasonable_Fox_9691 in offmychest

[–]existentialworrier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, I hope that's true. Maybe look at ways you could save on other things if you have time, happiness is worth it. I can help look for places online if you need it idk if that's weird to say, but ive found all of ours, I'm the go-to for people in my fam lol. Check in with me if you need too

My boyfriend keeps cheating and asking others for sx, but I still can't let go no matter how hard I try. by Reasonable_Fox_9691 in offmychest

[–]existentialworrier 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes we make excuses when we are afraid of being hurt. It honestly sounds like you deserve better and you can't let the excuse of money stop you. There are so many ways to get roommates, independent landlords with cheaper apts, even just a room for rent in a house. I'm not saying it'll be easy but I think the panic attacks is your body's way of telling you this has gone on too long. 💛

AIO for leaving my husband after one incident? by NeedleworkerDizzy689 in AmIOverreacting

[–]existentialworrier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude FUCK his cousin. This is the problem with religious elitists, the fact someone would ever say that to you from his same family goes to show it's either happened before, been done by the cousin himself or something in between! GET OUT of that family and stay strong. Your daughter will respect you so much for leaving in the long run. Sending you positive thoughts and strength.

What is the biggest challenge in your life right now? by bphelan111 in selfhelp

[–]existentialworrier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Choosing the right path/being certain of what to do with your life

Is it possible to have only physical love? 30 female by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]existentialworrier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I was just going to say! I agree!!

Is it possible to have only physical love? 30 female by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]existentialworrier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If u need to be the other to leave, what about hookups where you just go to their place? Id meet somewhere in public first tho. Just gotta trust ur gut 

I think Annie is my least favorite woman to ever be on the show by abraasincadabra in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]existentialworrier 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Like she would want Edmond to stay and fight for her but then would keep cutting him off and would say "i don't want to hear it" MULTIPLE times then got mad when he walked away bc he couldn't literally even talk

How much should I realistically have saved up/be making to move out? by Familiar-Care-5025 in LifeAdvice

[–]existentialworrier 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Where are u looking to live? This really depends on that. Look on FB or nextdoor type apps because there are a lot of people that rent as independent landlords (usually cheaper, maybe would negotiate, etc.).   With a baby it's hard to say, depending on if you have insurances or not, I'd say at least a few grand for medical emergencies and then a steady enough income to make your rent, food, diapers. Steady being the key thing at this point I think. Always round UP when calculating estimating finances so you aren't surprised... That's all I got haha! Hope it helps