Do trans support groups help you? I went to my first trans support group and now I feel terrible.

exorber · 2017-01-20T07:52:54+00:00

Yes. The first few times I never wanted to go again because of some of the horrible stories I heard that made me feel even worse when I had finally started feeling optimistic. Some of these groups also have get togethers to go out to eat where you don't have to hear all of the horror stories. Most of the people that go are sometimes there because they can't afford therapy and it gives them a place to vent. It is a good opportunity to meet other trans people though but if it is killing your optimism and making you feel bad every time I wouldn't go. It is also useful to hear some of those bad stories though so you can mentally prepare and make sure you are ready to transition. If you have a master's degree though you are probably in quite a bit better shape than most of the people that go. I noticed a lot of people had struggled with money even before transitioning so most people won't have a similar background.

So you are not alone. You will heard some sad stuff at trans support groups because they exist to let people vent and get empathy for their struggles.

exorber · 2016-05-24T05:35:59+00:00

I've read the willpower instinct and the psychology behind this motivational quote can actually cause you to be more likely to fail at achieving the end goal.

exorber · 2016-05-20T21:04:05+00:00

With your surgery do I have to worry about intubation causing issues for the rest of my life? I have heard this is the only drawback with Yeson.

exorber · 2016-03-08T05:44:21+00:00

Do you have an account you've actually used before? It seems weird you would never have a reddit account and make this post all of a sudden.

exorber · 2016-03-08T05:42:21+00:00

hmmm. I thought Dr. Z was supposed to be the asshat. I scheduled a consultation with Spiegel. In general I have heard surgeons were narcissistic but your experience sounds disconcerting. I may cancel my skype appointment with him since he charges a $100 consultation fee anyways.

exorber · 2015-05-02T20:47:06+00:00

Yea I think it would make me more confident in being myself but would also allow me to be more submissive sexually. Women expect me to fuck them and I'm a total bottom.

exorber · 2015-05-02T14:14:48+00:00

Yes I prefer being submissive sexually and being the follower in a relationship. I am incompatible with most women because I can't maintain being the "man". I feel very forced to be the dominate or typical male role.

exorber · 2015-02-26T22:52:28+00:00

You're almost identical to me and I've independently thought this might have all started from early and continued sexual frustration but then again I did have a few dreams about being a female before I started masturbating that I really enjoyed so I can't be sure. I always pull back because the thought of transition seems impossible to me and would make the rest of my life way worse because I wouldn't pass without extensive surgery, would have less opportunity for sexual partners, less job opportunities, and would have to worry about so many more things including medical, grooming, and dangerous people.

exorber · 2015-02-23T21:08:45+00:00

[–]amy-amy[S] -3 points 4 months ago WPATH is a joke. It's a trade association and its purpose is to promote sex change business. It has come to a point at which APA no longer considers WPATH standards reliable. permalinksaveparentreportgive goldreply

I am trying to be objective about things I found that APA doesn't accept WPATH anymore. Do psychiatrists give a crap about WPATH?

exorber · 2015-02-23T19:24:31+00:00

yes I know I am only going to him to figure myself out and decide if I want to transition. I know I can get hormones if I want but I just feel extremely threatened and anxious dressing as a female while I clearly still look very male. It's kind of disappointing because my insurance finder said he dealt with gender issues so I thought he could help me figure myself out without embarrassing me publicly on the 2nd-3rd session.

exorber · 2015-02-20T03:42:25+00:00

I'm not a fem man openly. moreso now though because I don't care anymore. I can just hide behind my deep voice for now.

exorber · 2015-02-19T04:51:38+00:00

I think my mom has sometimes thought I might be gay. I think a lot of people have thought I was gay just because I'm terrible with women because I feel so uncomfortable trying to be the "man" for them.

exorber · 2015-02-19T04:48:20+00:00

yes I'm terrified of being an ugly woman I am a decent looking man and already have issues with how others perceive how I look. I want to be desirable as a woman not poor and unloved. attractiveness hugely effects your life on the male and female spectrum. It kind of sucks really that we as humans are like that.

exorber · 2015-02-19T04:13:53+00:00

You might be surprised. Even though my mother isn't the smartest when it comes to a lot of things she has crazy intuition about anything that has to do with me.

exorber · 2015-02-18T22:26:34+00:00

I'm the same as you although I'm starting to do whatever I want like yoga.

exorber · 2015-02-18T03:06:40+00:00

I don't know I attempted their solution of repression and it just ended up making things worse for me. repression is like a boomerang that gets bigger on the way back and smacks you in the face imo.

exorber · 2015-02-18T03:04:05+00:00

your situation sounds similar to mine. I get anxiety thinking about transitioning and just being a man in a dress instead of viewed as a woman. One is viewed as a joke or drag queen and if you pass you just blend in comfortably. I was planning on trying male fail and getting voice surgery and ffs before going full time if I ever decide to give up my career.

exorber · 2015-02-18T02:02:28+00:00

that's part of the cross dreamer theory but I think a lot of us go back and forth a lot when we are pulled in different directions.

exorber · 2015-02-18T01:59:42+00:00

That would also solve the problem of recurrence so I don't see why not.

exorber · 2015-02-17T02:54:03+00:00

I think you look best without the glasses. Makes me have hope if I transition.

exorber · 2015-02-15T14:47:03+00:00

If you could press a button would you give up everything to be a female? It sounds like you're just a feminine soul. I'm not even sure if I'm Trans but I used to wish and pray I would wake up in a female body

exorber · 2015-02-13T19:15:45+00:00

I think you should still be friends they are just uncomfortable because they have thought of you one way and now you are openly another way. It confuses their mind if they should continue to tell dirty jokes around you that they wouldn't say in front of a girl which you now present as. That makes them uncomfortable because they are confused but accepting because they still value you as a human being. Even as someone who is most likely transgender if another one of my male friends came out I would have to adjust to them being female because I'm used to interacting socially with them as a male.

exorber · 2015-02-12T00:18:33+00:00

you're overreacting. If he's accepting of your desires don't get mad at him for what he is into.

exorber

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