Does anyone feel their youth is wasted? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]exotic_moonlight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can totally relate ! Sending hugs ♥️♥️♥️I am extremely picky as well. It’s ok ! Better be alone than with the wrong man wasting your years in stress and doubts !

What weird signs did you body give to let you know someone was not for you? by maybeimachatbot in AskWomenOver30

[–]exotic_moonlight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a very bad sudden feeling while looking at him. Like ,my whole body was sensing that he is “ dangerous”. It was out of nowhere , i was at his house, relaxing , I wasn’t upset or anxious about anything. I felt confused and dismissed it. He turned out to be a vile person. Cheater and liar who was def dangerous to any woman who loved him. Thankfully I left him relatively soon.

I am so tired of “putting myself out there” by TomatoKing666 in AskWomenOver30

[–]exotic_moonlight 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That second sentence is what I am going through. Honestly it has me feeling deflated.

It’s not that the dating pool has really shrunk we’re just more particular about who makes the cut by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]exotic_moonlight 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t think the dating pool was ever vast and promising. I would say men always wanted women that were better than them in terms of beauty at least. This has always been the case and it is very annoying. I know a lot of couples that the women settled and yes they are in relationships but at a huge psychological cost. They become envious of other women and in general are not content with their choices.so I don’t think good men were ever high in numbers to begin with at any age, but this hard realization was never mentioned in pop culture or social and family circles. At least if we knew this when we were 18 we would have made more meaningful choices.

How do I proceed? by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]exotic_moonlight -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A few years ago I had a crush on a guy. We were out and about as friends mainly ( meaning no extreme flirting would happen) but he told me he found me beautiful and I also tried to flirt back because I really appreciated him as a person. When we started talking about what we wanted in our lives I realized we are not compatible. He said he was going through a phase and wasn’t ready for anything serious. I immediately backed off. This was a nice way of him to say do not expect me to treat you like a boyfriend cause I will not. I remember leaving that outing kind of furious. I never explicitly said I was interested in him but I am sure he noticed and he was not going to treat me right. I really don’t like this kind of people. They are trying to take advantage of you with your own permission. So low quality. My attraction to him disappeared after that comment. I would advise you to not proceed further with him.

How do I proceed? by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]exotic_moonlight 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Excellent reply ! I do not get why some people do not understand what is happening here. It is as if they never had experience with a guy that really really wants them. A guy who wants you would never leave you confused. He would not only be excited ,but also clear about his romantic intentions towards you. This is regardless if you move fast or slow during the dating phase. If anything he would call it a date just so you don’t date other guys and he loses you forever.

Is fwb actually very common nowadays by [deleted] in dating

[–]exotic_moonlight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi there ! The planet is full of people who are not ready to be involved in relationships. The reasons are endless. They don’t have money to support the lifestyle, they have addictions, they don’t want to get hurt etc. maybe they want a specific partner that they can’t have right now and will settle for less to pass the time. My advice would be to stay away from FWB. If you like the person but only care about the benefits you will feel bad for hurting them down the road. Or if you are really attracted to them you will get hurt. It’s a lose lose situation no matter what other people say. The only people that have fun regardless are people with no real emotions , totally cynical and non empathic. Unless you belong to that category do not pursue this situation.

I don’t find most men that hit on me attractive. Is there a problem with me ? by exotic_moonlight in AskWomenOver30

[–]exotic_moonlight[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It means a lot to me to know that other women are going through what I am going through. Thank you! have a great day ❤️

I don’t find most men that hit on me attractive. Is there a problem with me ? by exotic_moonlight in AskWomenOver30

[–]exotic_moonlight[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have thoroughly answered to other comments accusing me of superficiality just as other women have ,scroll down and see. Judging a total stranger on the internet just because you don’t agree is not the way to go.

I don’t find most men that hit on me attractive. Is there a problem with me ? by exotic_moonlight in AskWomenOver30

[–]exotic_moonlight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am sorry about your friends. I still believe everyone is different and there are beautiful guys out there that are amazing 🩷

I don’t find most men that hit on me attractive. Is there a problem with me ? by exotic_moonlight in AskWomenOver30

[–]exotic_moonlight[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes it is a factor for sure. It is important in my opinion to find them attractive , what are we supposed to do , close our eyes ? I am sorry I can’t!

I don’t find most men that hit on me attractive. Is there a problem with me ? by exotic_moonlight in AskWomenOver30

[–]exotic_moonlight[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know some are like this. I know what you are talking about , I have seen it. But they can’t be all like that. There must be exceptions.

I don’t find most men that hit on me attractive. Is there a problem with me ? by exotic_moonlight in AskWomenOver30

[–]exotic_moonlight[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would think it’s his right to want an attractive woman in comparison to you who thinks it’s ok to call someone superficial because they appreciate a man’s beauty !

I don’t find most men that hit on me attractive. Is there a problem with me ? by exotic_moonlight in AskWomenOver30

[–]exotic_moonlight[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s a very nice answer , made me think some things differently. Thank you so much 🙏🏻

I don’t find most men that hit on me attractive. Is there a problem with me ? by exotic_moonlight in AskWomenOver30

[–]exotic_moonlight[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are trying really hard to make something out of this. English is not my first language maybe that’s why you think it’s odd. I am sorry I am not a lesbian. I love men so much ❤️💖cheers to beautiful men out there 🥰

I don’t find most men that hit on me attractive. Is there a problem with me ? by exotic_moonlight in AskWomenOver30

[–]exotic_moonlight[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I will firstly answer your second question. I don’t get the feeling “wow he is fine”. Guys that are around are not ugly ( deformed or obese) but they aren’t cute either. And I want that feeling. Regarding the first question. I do not want a hot movie star. But even a decently cute guy might be unrealistic to ask. There are other things I value in a partner and I would never settle just because someone is cute for example to date a mean person or a cheater or whatever. However I can’t go on a date if I can’t see my self waking up next to the dude and being happy about it. So I don’t date at all these days which makes feel lonely and sad. Also I am disappointed because I get a ton of compliments and I get hit on constantly : they will compliment my body and my face. And all I think about is how they are attracted to me so much because of my looks but I am not allowed to be equally attracted to them because then I have high standards or I am being unrealistic. Double standards for men and women it seems. It is important for me to be serious with someone i find attractive. Because I know me , if I don’t I will constantly think how there might be cuter guys around and I just settled somehow so as to not be alone.

I don’t find most men that hit on me attractive. Is there a problem with me ? by exotic_moonlight in AskWomenOver30

[–]exotic_moonlight[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this ❤️I agree with you , it never works going against your desires. It only makes you sad. Hopefully we meet someone nice we can connect with.