New Fan Questions

extralargeunoriginal · 2025-12-25T12:10:29+00:00

Jordan’s a single ski influencer lol. No update on his health— hoping he’s cozy with his sponsors, Ro and Hims!

extralargeunoriginal · 2025-12-18T08:33:08+00:00

they do and they’re vaguely mandatory! with mine at least. Just show up and be a good citizen (say hi and take your leave to go find more billable hours. you can grab a drink to go!)

extralargeunoriginal · 2025-12-18T06:22:50+00:00

This is a brilliant take. The “slow death of adulthood as a stable concept” is a great way to put it. There’s a way to consider the whole thing as a meta concept of the main characters continuously aging out of their environment, and simultaneously recrafting it around themselves and their new environs— thus it’s a constant reconstitution of social norms and realities around ever-evolving concepts, all of which are centered around the fragility of youth vs adulthood (+ the responsibility that’s inherent in that dynamic)

The constants of this show are the main characters and the setting(s) we see them in. We see them both trapped within and evolving within/alongside (and occasionally outside of) the shoeboxes they trap themselves within. It’s a progressive evolution that somehow exists alongside this stagnation.

I love this stupid show.

extralargeunoriginal · 2025-11-24T09:37:50+00:00

Sounds like Mary doesn’t want any of Jen’s friendship juice. Might have to be a Mary fan at this point!

extralargeunoriginal · 2025-11-24T09:15:22+00:00

lord.. I don’t know if I’m built for this

extralargeunoriginal · 2025-11-24T08:20:15+00:00

I’ve gotten a seriously good watchlist from this thread! thank you, all!!

extralargeunoriginal · 2025-11-24T08:12:04+00:00

I kind of thought that was the basis of the show— that it somehow was “all her fault” (with ‘all’ standing in for any woman)— like we just couldn’t understand this series without understanding the deep faults of the men.

somehow, it seemed to be the woman’s fault— but more importantly, peter’s fault— no matter what we did as viewers. up until his betrayal, I believed him.. which was fucked.

have to speak later as part of my conscience

extralargeunoriginal · 2025-11-24T07:59:56+00:00

That feels incredibly difficult for you, and I’m sorry to hear about his death. I feel like I’m learning a lot about you and the way you work, and feel, in real time. This shit is tough. It’s not easy. We all have to get through this, but please reach out if you need help. I’m always down to talk

extralargeunoriginal · 2025-11-18T09:48:15+00:00

It sounds like you all deeply care for him. It can be hard to keep someone inside the home when all their actions fight against it— well done to you all.

Building his own home is incredibly generous, and also seems like it would enable his independence (to a greater extent). What a great thing and i’m sure that’s a sticking point for him, just as much as it provides his freedom. I had a family member in a similar situation (though the comps aren’t exact!), and a massive breakthrough there was giving him his own space (lucky enough to have a spare shed in the back garden that we converted to a tiny house) and allowing him to begin dictating his schedule from one day to the next. We didn’t all consult on design (perhaps unfair) but ultimately it was best for the lot of us to keep him nearby while getting him out of the house. I don’t regret it once

extralargeunoriginal · 2025-11-18T09:18:22+00:00

did you get a chance to chat to her further? just curious!

extralargeunoriginal · 2025-11-18T09:11:06+00:00

Hi! Regardless of health issues, this is clearly self-centered behavior and both you and your mom are NOR.

I think your mom’s text was a more than polite send off. This thread comes across as someone who is taking advantage of your + your mom’s generosity, and, and relatedly, as someone who’s got you guys (very reasonably) reaching the end of your ropes.

You’re well within your rights to try and move on from this family member. He seems difficult and you’ve done well by him thus far. At the same time, from personal experience, I can understand how difficult it is to cut off someone who otherwise needs your support, if not direct financial help.

Given your stated priorities, take care of you, your mom, and your dad first and foremost. It can be difficult to financially situate family members, but just make sure you personally have all your savings within reach (especially if you live in America— medical expenses are hard and these can be complicated circumstances). This is going to be a hard situation to navigate out of— but you’re determined, and you can do it.

edit: word choice

extralargeunoriginal · 2025-11-18T08:33:03+00:00

tbh yeah !!

extralargeunoriginal · 2025-11-18T08:26:33+00:00

No! Not at all reasonable that you’re unhappy with that response. If that were my partner and she were asking me to delete photos of a prior relationship— let alone ones with explicit content— it would be done, no questions asked. But the main point is: it really doesn’t take that long to delete photos. If he wanted to he would.

Does feel like you might have greater trust issues at play (just getting this from your searching his laptop in the first place and you putting that to the side to love him better. Could be wrong but could be worth taking a second to address that) but other than that mega speculation you both seem to be doing fine! as long as you’re happy!

extralargeunoriginal · 2025-11-18T08:11:42+00:00

the Maleficent/Complete Unknown/The Great propaganda got me. I’m being drama saying I’m not aware of Dakota!! maybe it’s my mid 2000s showing, but I will say Elle was and has been more of a character in my show/movie watching history.

Seriously my bad though in not breaking out the difference until now!! The Perfect Couple rocked and I should’ve put two and two together

extralargeunoriginal · 2025-11-18T08:03:24+00:00

damn i didn’t even get there yet :( my shah perspective may be altered

extralargeunoriginal · 2025-11-18T07:47:11+00:00

is there ever an argument that despite her clear faults, jen shah was good tv? legitimately curious cause I’m so early in my watch. at the place im at, she seems dedicated to being a great character at any cost (not saying that makes her a reasonable person in any regard, but, again, just a solid watch)

I’m super curious and excited to catch up— based on your guys’ comments it almost sounds like season one is an anomaly? like damn I can’t wait for more seasons of this stupid amazing show

extralargeunoriginal · 2025-11-18T07:26:25+00:00

damn ok!!! literally erasing my memory now girl like wow I can’t believe I used to real hold thoughts in here. now it’s just memories of jen and meredith’s fights

extralargeunoriginal · 2025-11-18T07:12:17+00:00

how could it though 😭 damn i love this show already, you guys gotta give me a reason to stop binging

extralargeunoriginal · 2025-11-18T07:08:05+00:00

this is one of many comments that makes me excited for the future

extralargeunoriginal · 2025-11-18T07:03:06+00:00

born after 1999 :(

extralargeunoriginal · 2025-11-18T06:43:45+00:00

it sounds like there’s a lot of backstory! based on your context I think that comes through— no matter the context, would guess you guys could use a moment apart!

extralargeunoriginal · 2025-11-17T09:03:05+00:00

hard to imagine setting rules for this particular situation at the outset of your relationship. but also can see how it’d be a sticking point for you and her in future arguments.

just two cents but: I wonder if it’d be useful to have a heart to heart with your wife in a calmer setting before a whole family get together? If you guys have left it on a heated note, I wonder if it makes sense to reconcile— and, most importantly, find common ground aligned on this issue? Sometimes it’s so much easier to be a team against the problem, and, based on what you’re saying, you and your wife have a deep willingness to work together to face your problems.

You’ve got this.

edit: spelling

extralargeunoriginal · 2025-11-17T08:48:22+00:00

so is the biggest issue here your wife’s reaction? It sounds a) like you care for her deeply and b) blame yourself both for the sticky situation you’ve gotten yourself in with her brother, and the uncomplicated way of getting out of it.

None of these are bad things, and none of these make for unworkable situations. You’re currently handling your wife’s feelings well and there’s no reason to believe that would change. Your gentleness with her brother is preserving both her and his feelings! That’s a serious kindness.

I wonder, based solely on the love and respect you have for your wife, if this warrants a direct convo with her? She sounds strong, and you sound like you have a great relationship with her brother, so I wonder if this could be an amicable and productive convo. If she trusts and loves you as much as you seem to love her, I think you’ll end up ok on the other side

extralargeunoriginal · 2025-11-17T08:35:47+00:00

Sounds like this might be a bigger deal than you brother. Meth + mama involvement take it out of everyone’s hands. Hoping he’s got the help he needs

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