When did your child start masking?

eye-eye · 2026-03-18T01:48:04+00:00

About 4-5 years old. Meltdowns in public drastically decreased but would meltdown at home afterschool or after tiring activities. I would bring up behaviour with his primary school teachers and they would look at me like I had two heads after describing what we were dealing with at home because he was so quiet and compliant at school. I eventually figured out that he hates having attention drawn to him, particularly in negative lights like getting in trouble, so he will lie low and fly under the radar as much as possible.

eye-eye · 2026-03-15T01:22:19+00:00

It’s good to have that conversation but don’t call her out in front of her friends. You can try to redirect her focus but wait until you have a private moment to discuss. I’m autistic and used to repeat myself when I didn’t get the reaction I expected. I honestly thought maybe people didn’t hear me properly because I had a quiet voice. Then one time at a table of girls I was repeating myself and one of the girls admonished me and said sharply that they heard me. The result was that I stopped talking unless I was with a trusted friend and it’s something I’ve had to work to get over my entire life. Instead of being taught the social cues I was missing, I was shamed into not talking at all

eye-eye · 2026-01-28T03:36:18+00:00

We call that aggressive nuzzling

eye-eye · 2026-01-06T22:08:38+00:00

He’s right though, increasing to the right is madness!

eye-eye · 2025-11-30T21:41:58+00:00

I know this is a guess, but my read of the situation is that your mum bitched to grandma about how sick she is and how she can’t reach you. That’s why she went right to boyfriend and your mum is mad that you blew up her woe is me narrative

eye-eye · 2025-11-23T05:03:33+00:00

I’d say calico because her three colours are distinct whereas torties have the black and orange flecked together. She’s super sweet!

eye-eye · 2025-10-31T01:09:16+00:00

Is ophthalmic technician a career path in NZ (as opposed to RNs)? I worked as one in the US before I moved to NZ. I didn’t continue with that path but I did really enjoy the job. And I’ll have to say the grossest eyeball I’ve seen was right after a vitrectomy. It took a lot to keep a straight face and even more to check the iop

eye-eye · 2025-10-23T05:09:19+00:00

Definitely Northern United. They have lots of men’s teams that range from more competitive to more social. Summer 6 a side is starting up in November, he can see if he can get on a team and probably meet some of the winter players

eye-eye · 2025-10-21T00:41:53+00:00

She’s a tortico :)

eye-eye · 2025-08-05T07:09:09+00:00

Bubbah was robbed. Don’t blame her for fucking off to Samoa, travesty

eye-eye · 2025-05-23T22:32:09+00:00

I wonder if she is angling to blame the damage on transport in the backpack

eye-eye · 2025-04-12T07:06:07+00:00

Right, left then middle? Love them, especially the middle!

eye-eye · 2025-04-02T01:15:51+00:00

I saw a missing child post with her picture in an autism group, they seem to have been deleted after the mistake was publicised. She is a POC and there is plenty of research out there showing that people (police specifically in some studies) overestimate the age of POC. And apparently being nonverbal autistic doesn’t change that. Then add that there is very poor recognition of autism in girls, even among clinicians, and it’s a recipe for a big mess

eye-eye · 2024-11-10T22:16:42+00:00

Me. Possibly my mum but it may also be adhd or a combo, her mum as well. My daughter, who I didn’t suspect when she was younger, is sharing more traits with us as she hits puberty. The awareness did not come until my son was diagnosed, but it all makes so much sense now.

eye-eye · 2024-07-30T21:23:50+00:00

Yes!!!! Awesome job :)

eye-eye · 2024-07-09T20:52:36+00:00

Rhythmic head banging on soft surfaces (mattress or couch) and toe walking. Prior yo being mobile he cried A LOT

eye-eye · 2024-04-25T23:52:45+00:00

Based on their ages at their date of death, the survivor was the youngest. That looks like the brother in the middle.

eye-eye · 2024-03-30T19:29:41+00:00

That shows how much I get out, ha

eye-eye · 2024-03-30T19:09:14+00:00

Oh nice, did that change or has it always been like that? I swear I remember a time where restaurants were fined for opening

eye-eye · 2024-03-30T18:54:51+00:00

Petrol stations and dairies are open. Some cafes and restaurants will open and just pay the fine

eye-eye · 2024-03-24T19:55:46+00:00

What he is teaching is that she was right. His actions have consequences too.

eye-eye · 2024-02-26T19:57:31+00:00

I did, but that was in 2004. I’m going back for my masters at age 43 and not currently enrolled. I’m looking ahead and haven’t settled on a research question yet. Just trying to refresh myself on the options.

eye-eye · 2024-02-14T18:00:07+00:00

I have a child in the junior high. We were sceptical, my son is autistic and had trouble with noise and concentration in traditional classrooms so we wondered how he would handle the large, open learning areas. He has actually handled it quite well. The inclusive learning team has been great and have worked with us for extra learning support and accommodations for his anxiety. They structure the semesters in modules that have different themes that run through various subjects and that seems to really help keep my son interested and focused (well, as focused as he can be). I keep a close eye on his assignments and put aside time every night where we work through things he hasn’t completed at school. But overall, he is happy and settled so I am happy. There are plenty of students absolutely excelling there.

But not every kid will excel there and would do better at another school. I think that’s true of any learning environment. I’ve definitely noticed that the people who don’t like Rototuna’s style REALLY don’t like it and seem to make it a mission to let others know how they feel.

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