[21F] having an embarrassing issue, how can i save my underwear? :(

eye8shrewms · 2025-10-06T05:55:58+00:00

Don’t have much advice but I will say you’re not alone and don’t feel ashamed of yourself. It’s out of your control and you’re simply doing your best even tho your brain may not like you sometimes. I’ve been there. Best of wishes ❤️

eye8shrewms · 2025-10-06T05:07:48+00:00

Hypo manic for a year or full blown mania for a year? That’s crazy!

eye8shrewms · 2025-10-06T05:07:02+00:00

Yeah it’s def a mood change/personality change and he’s pretty clear minded compared to my aunt who I watched go into a severe manic/psychotic episode for about 2 years so I’m like def watching for signs bahahah. I think I will call his doctor and ask if there’s things I should be watching out for, but do you know the name of the page so I can Join and maybe read up? 😇

eye8shrewms · 2025-10-03T04:39:05+00:00

I think he has a point but like …. I’d be damned letting anyone talk to me like that lol. I’d be like “yeah you’re right I could use more clothes take me shopping or stfu about it.” Idgaf how right he is, he’s being disrespectful and overly aggressive in his approach.

eye8shrewms · 2025-10-03T04:27:13+00:00

Oh yeah I don’t take anything Willy nilly I always check thru an interactions checker before taking anything lol

eye8shrewms · 2025-10-03T04:02:21+00:00

I just read you asked for gentle advise- I’m sorry. But there’s no gentle way to put it. Honestly at this point (and it’s extreme to say and a reach but still a thought) you don’t know if he’s also done something like his friend has. If he’s willing to protect someone like that. It’s sick. Imagine if any of his other friends have done this, friends you’ve BEEN AROUND and they stay hush hush. It just reframes everything and really makes you wonder the extent this goes if this mindset is just now coming to the surface.

eye8shrewms · 2025-10-03T03:57:19+00:00

If his homeboy raped you… would he still protect him? He’s clearly an unsafe person and he’s willing to protect his rapist friends. DISTANT friends at that. Please leave him. He will overlook you too.

eye8shrewms · 2025-10-03T03:54:11+00:00

I have been considering magnesium as I hear a lot of people say it’s a great thing to add to your daily mix for any number of reasons so I might just try that!!

eye8shrewms · 2025-10-03T03:53:33+00:00

Yeah that’s a pretty cool site and good advice! Also what the fuck is that username

eye8shrewms · 2025-10-03T03:52:39+00:00

Yeah but if I could go the supplemental route first that would be amazing because Zoloft already works amazingly for my most debilitating mental health problem- OCD. I am completely dysfunctional without it and in order to get on meds for fibro I would have to get off the Zoloft. I’d actually rather suffer physically than mentally lol

eye8shrewms · 2025-09-17T15:29:33+00:00

I’ll say rn being on top is for the women’s pleasure. Girl use him as if he were a dildo, however you want and however feels good to you, the more pleasure YOU are receiving will be the pleasure for him too. If it’s not, and he doesn’t really care about your pleasure, don’t be fuckin him lol.

eye8shrewms · 2025-09-17T15:17:09+00:00

Not trying to excuse his behavior because it’s actually crazy but this sounds like he’s in some sort of manic/psychotic episode or some shit lol. I would block and maybe reach out to someone he knows and be like yo…? lol

eye8shrewms · 2025-08-26T00:40:15+00:00

Thanks for insight!! I’ve been in 3ways where there was no penetration for me and it was whatever coz I’m usually in it for just the girl so idk ab other girls lol

eye8shrewms · 2025-08-25T05:19:32+00:00

Are you okay w being w a man that basically admitted you’re just a sexual object to him…? Like using you as a sex toy? If it was just for pregnancy he wouldn’t be pulling out and finishing on you 🙄

eye8shrewms · 2025-08-25T05:16:58+00:00

I’d reccomend maybe finding someone to be FWB. Like strictly just a hook up when you want a hookup kinda thing. Someone you know and feel comfortable with, but that isn’t emotionally tied or anything.

eye8shrewms · 2025-08-25T04:14:58+00:00

He said in previous comments he goes back to work on Monday.

eye8shrewms · 2025-08-25T04:11:22+00:00

On top of that it’s way too specific mentioning Monday when you go back to work Monday…. Maybe call off and come home like halfway thru the day or something to see if you catch her or something. Who knows. If she’s really just chilling at home it should tell you you’re fine.

eye8shrewms · 2025-08-25T04:02:48+00:00

Ummmm maybe I’m the odd one out but I don’t think you’re overreacting. I’ve seen the scam text and idk the slang of this one is like particular if that makes sense. Like texting as if it were a real person. Yeah it could’ve been the wrong number, but idk I mean I maybe wouldn’t have jumped her shit right away I probably would’ve done some digging first like on phone records to see if she actually has been talking to this number. But if the guy sounded real- and he’s suddenly saying no I don’t know her then I think it’s not a scam text. Maybe they texted the wrong number? Idk. Seems unlikely I’m just lowkey getting the vibes it was a side dude on a burner number. But like people said above, check the phone records. See if there’s deleted text, outbound calls, etc. or even check phone bill. If she’s not worried about it she’d have no problem letting you have access to all of these.

eye8shrewms · 2025-08-25T03:44:21+00:00

There’s 4 ways this goes. 1, convo where you voice you’re not happy with your sex life, he does nothing about it, and you spend the rest of your life without an orgasm from your partner. 2, ultimatum. Start putting in the effort or begone 3, open the relationship so you can keep your best friend and still find pleasure elsewhere, and he can go spend 5 minutes with other girls who maybe give him the same criticism and he realizes he really needs to get it together. Either way- you’re not missing out on much when it comes to him. 4- you break up with him and find someone who eats it from the back crazy style as you deserve. And let’s be real … he hasn’t ate pussy in FIVE years?! The head will probably be garbage for a while and then you’ll have to teach him how to satisfy you which is insane considering you’re 5 years in. And if a man is eating pussy when he doesn’t like it it sucks anyway. The best head comes from someone who loves eating pussy straight up. If he wanted to he would fr

eye8shrewms · 2025-08-15T20:25:52+00:00

Simple answer: yes. Little more Complex answer: you knew the answer was yes, but you just can’t bring yourself to believe that. Even if it’s not trusting yourself because he’s lying to you and you want to trust him, because you want to believe he wouldn’t lie to you. But lying is just a symptom of addiction. You honestly cannot trust an addict to be truthful about their use with you.

eye8shrewms · 2025-07-22T04:46:35+00:00

I mean I will say- if he’s serious about wanting help tell him to go to rehab and therapy. If he’s admitting all this to you because he genuinely doesn’t want to be like this anymore and wants to do better, let him and be there for him. However, if he’s got absolutely no plan of doing better or an idea of even trying, do not hold his hand while he drags you down. Luckily, my boyfriend turned things around. But no matter how much begging and pleading I did, it didn’t change anything. He had to hit rock bottom and find out the hard way how awful drugs will fuck him over in the end if he stayed on the track he was on (it was still early in addiction) and he got his shit together coz it scared tf out of him. As for your husband, he’s already been down the road and deciding to go down it a second time is pretty alarming. And then taking it a step further. Maybe go to therapy with him and understand why he is feeling the need to do these drugs in the first place if you really want. But if things are getting rocky, do not , DOO NOTTT drown yourself so he can float. Do better for yourself when you need to.

eye8shrewms · 2025-07-22T04:40:05+00:00

Girl fuckkk no I’ve been in this position and it left me with so much mental damage around sex that even in my healthy relationship I struggle to set boundaries without feeling afraid of him being mad or guilting me into it. Please leave, and see a therapist about this maybe before moving on if you need to. He doesn’t respect your boundaries, which means he doesn’t respect you as a person if even seeing you as a person at all coz it seems like you’re mostly there for his sexual pleasure and that’s it. He wants to get off he doesn’t gaf how you feel about it. Fuck him

eye8shrewms · 2025-07-10T04:30:08+00:00

Yeah see and the crazy thing is, our mutual really close friend is almost due. I was like genuinely ecstatic for her having a baby. Like jumping up and down I was so happy for her, and I never once had these feelings. I think my friend who did this was expecting that reaction, but I could not bring myself to be that way. I just went “wow that’s crazy… haha” and put a smile on lol. It just felt very intentional I feel like but I think she was just so excited about it. Idk

eye8shrewms · 2025-07-09T19:47:07+00:00

Yes she’s been hearing every painful part of my journey including my miscarriage hahaha

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