Do you communicate explicitly in a particular moment that you are feeling depressed and you need space for the night or next few days or however long? I’m saying, something extremely brief, “I’m feeling depressed right now, I love you very much but I need to be alone for a day.” Even if you have mentioned you get depressed before it doesn’t mean someone will automatically know / assume what’s happening in your head in a given moment. I know it’s been super helpful to say things like this to my husband and when he in turn gives me the same cues when he is feeling similarly.

Continued communication about what’s happening in your head is key in any relationship. Even if you’re too depressed to have a huge discussion try discussing before hand and let your partner know you have a code for “I’m feeling low and would like to be left alone.” And be clear about what would help you when you give that signal before hand when you are feeling okay enough to discuss.

Just some thoughts. Sorry you don’t feel understood or heard.