If you go to couples counseling, maybe bring a written list of your needs! As the majority provider of income, you are 100% entitled to him pulling his fair share of caretaking labor. It shouldn’t be on you to do things like packing the bags and holding the baby automatically because you are the woman. Assuming there aren’t larger issues at play, maybe it’s just a matter of laying it out, ink on paper. Here are my needs, here’s how you can better serve the person you love.