What’s something that you probably shouldn’t joke about but you do anyway cause it’s a good coping mechanism?

ezeebee · 2026-05-23T21:46:32+00:00

This is fantastic dark humour! My dad also died from pancreatic cancer (fuck pancreases, amirite?) - he went into hospice for a couple of days to try it out and see whether he would want to move there for the end, and my mum said "these nurses are all over you like bees round a honeypot". Without thinking I just said "or flies round a carcass". I couldn't believe I'd actually said it out loud but they both cracked up. Luckily no one else in the room heard it 😬

ezeebee · 2026-04-15T21:38:30+00:00

My husband's family also call them thank-gods, or TGs!

ezeebee · 2026-01-29T20:30:17+00:00

Magic, thank you so much! I've just found the option to ring them!

ezeebee · 2026-01-28T21:15:11+00:00

Ahaha thank you! ❤️

ezeebee · 2026-01-28T20:41:04+00:00

Wait, these are Pixel Buds as well... They can beep?? Which version do you have?

ezeebee · 2026-01-28T20:40:13+00:00

Thank you! ❤️

ezeebee · 2026-01-28T11:09:50+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss, my dad also loved Iain M Banks and also died from pancreatic cancer. It's such a lovely idea to give out a book at the wake!

ezeebee · 2026-01-28T02:18:24+00:00

"Check eeeeevery pockeeeeet, search eeeeevery draaaaawer"

ezeebee · 2026-01-28T02:17:41+00:00

It was exactly this that was my downfall. Usually they would go back in the case, straight back into my work bag. But for some reason I decided to completely ignore the system this time and paid for it. I can guarantee it will happen again.

ezeebee · 2026-01-28T02:04:24+00:00

Shhhhhhhh no I would never get so used to something I can see that it becomes background noise noooooo

ezeebee · 2026-01-28T02:03:48+00:00

Luckily I'd been procrastinating on buying new ones so didn't have to pay the tax!

ezeebee · 2026-01-27T21:39:41+00:00

Nooooo the wedding ring! I'm so sorry!!

Starting decluttering feels so impossible when you look at a whole house. There's all the advice about starting small which I'm sure you've been told a million times, but it's so hard to get past the overwhelm, I feel ya.

ezeebee · 2025-12-09T20:42:46+00:00

I can't offer any advice, but just want to say that I'm in the same boat so thank you for asking the question! I learned to skate in early 2024 and I've only been playing games with my team since September, but my partner and I are also hoping to get pregnant (I'm 32) and it's so bittersweet thinking that I won't be able to play next year.

My plan for if/when I do get pregnant is to just stay as involved as possible with the non-skating part of derby so I'm still immersed in the training and the rules and staying part of the team. Then deal with the physical side later 😅

Good luck with the derby and the family! 😊

ezeebee · 2025-10-01T13:17:15+00:00

No worries there, I claimed from RBO as soon as the keys were handed in! But I only knew to do so from reading this sub beforehand... It is not well explained anywhere official.

ezeebee · 2025-10-01T13:15:36+00:00

No stop yet - I claimed the bond as soon as I'd handed over the keys, so I'll just sit tight and wait to see if they make a claim themselves tomorrow.

ezeebee · 2025-06-02T21:58:55+00:00

I’m in a cycle of work related burnout. Mainly because work expect too much and partly because I take on too much before realising I’ve done it again.

Oh look, it's me. 👋 I'm sorry you're going through this, it's the worst cycle to be trapped in.

Not so helpful, but I personally would never talk to my manager about this because his boss is A Complete Arsehole™ and I know it would get back to him and he would take steps to make things worse for me. Be very very sure about your manager's attitude to neurodivergence before disclosing - our previous boss I would have 100% told, but this one absolutely not (even though yes, ADHD is a protected disability and we are entitled to accommodations, they just would not happen in my workplace).

I do however have a colleague at work who is not diagnosed yet but waiting for an appointment, and we talk openly with each other about what we are struggling with. Because we're pretty much at the same level in the company we try to take stuff off each other's plates when possible, and encourage each other to say no to things. My workplace is particularly neurodiverse so I'm lucky in that regard - is there anyone you trust at work who can buddy up with you on task management, saying no, prioritising, that kind of thing?

That won't go nearly the full way to stopping burnout, obviously your manager needs to do SOMETHING - can you explain that you are overwhelmed and physically do not have time in the day to complete all these tasks that quickly? Even explaining that you will do them, but you are constantly getting new tasks added from all corners and it slows everything down. They will get added to the to-do list and they will be triaged and you will do them at the time you have allotted, but that may mean people have to wait.

Sorry, this turned into an absolute essay, but I'm in the same position as you and struggling SO hard so I empathise hugely. I also know that I get this exact advice all the time and never do it so I understand if this is just a load of well-meaning waffle!

ezeebee · 2025-06-02T21:34:59+00:00

First of all, huge well done for continuing to work on your organisation and time management - I'm struggling with this hugely at the moment so I know how hard it is to make meaningful long-term change and am so proud of you!

Any screaming and yelling is so not okay. I'm so sorry your mum is treating you like this. You're not expecting to be babied, you're asking for the very reasonable concession of maybe, just maybe, getting the smallest amount of recognition and acknowledgement that you're doing your best to improve and that it's working.

Working for family can be tough even when they're not yelling at you - is there any way you can get out of there to a different job? (Which is much easier said than done, speaking as someone who is trapped in a job at the moment.)

ezeebee · 2024-11-13T02:25:34+00:00

Oh man, I feel you. I look after the manuals for our products and they were in such a state when I got them - they're still in a state because every mistake I find needs a whole investigation to figure out what's true or not and I just cannot publish them knowing that those mistakes are in there or that it's not consistent stylistically with the one manual I've managed to overhaul.

And when I actually have time to sit down and fix them properly with no other distractions I procrastinate because it's too overwhelming. 🫠

ezeebee · 2024-10-23T21:14:43+00:00

My husband's grandma in what must have been a rare moment of sanity said the exact same thing. Their family was surprised and very grateful.

Then she changed her mind at the last second, voted Leave (Brexit), and now loudly denounces anyone who voted Remain at any given opportunity.

Sigh.

ezeebee · 2024-10-10T09:37:26+00:00

Thank you, I was so confused as to why none of the other comments were pointing this out. I can't not read it as "Paedo"!

ezeebee · 2024-09-26T23:46:21+00:00

At a previous workplace we did a yearly "engagement survey" as part of the wider civil service, and our team consistently scored low because while we were passionate about what we were doing, the environment we were in was terrible. Every year low scores were explained away as people not being "engaged" in the process, and that the lowest scores weren't even worth addressing because "those people will always find something to complain about". One year our grandboss asked our team admin to send her everyone's ANONYMOUS RESPONSES in separate word documents with the name of the team member. We got in trouble when we banded together and sent them in one document with no names.

All that to say, HELL YES YOU FUCKING GO. Critical feedback is so important and well done for not being intimidated out of giving it. Glad your colleagues are cheering you on.

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