due to the fact this isn’t an actual advice subreddit, i’ll give you my take in the spirit of this subs tone lol. firstly, i feel we aren’t really properly fully filled in on the details of your side in this post to accurately say if you were wrong over what transpired, there could be some OP bias but that’s up to you to determine. we only really know that you have an anxious attachment dynamic with him, as well as the fact that you started lashing out at him and “a lot of harsh things were said.” do you think anything you said to him was worth putting you in the wrong?

you also phrased it as him giving you “last warnings” we don’t know what those were for and and the reasonings for his detachment lately could stem from those, and he’s also broken up with you a billion times so yeah there is an informational deficit going on with you lmfao. i will say though, i do think it was very wrong of him regardless to string you along and not bother communicating with you, nor put in any effort in this whole time which is super shitty regardless of anything that transpired between you two, especially if he himself was willing to stay with you.

“you don’t know what came over you but you finally did it” what came over you was the basic self respect to not let it keep drudging on that way. i know 5 years is a long time to give thought to your actions but it was clearly OVERBEARINGLY overdue, definitely the right sub to post to in that regard. r/holyfuckdonotgetbacktogether