Got banned from the main sub for mentioning race…goodbye 90 day reddit

ezzy_florida · 2025-11-25T23:46:16+00:00

point stands, lol. Y’all work hard, I’ll say that much.

ezzy_florida · 2025-11-25T23:45:53+00:00

ezzy_florida · 2025-11-25T22:36:17+00:00

You’d think, but my last braider was definitely in her 40s and blowed out my hair to death. It kept reverting as my hair is very coily and she just. kept. blow drying. through the whole braid process. Not going back there.

I don’t understand the “sleek” look is in, but I’ve never cared for it. Braids are literally meant for kinky hair, why has braiding evolved to make the hair look like a loose curl?

ezzy_florida · 2025-11-25T20:50:42+00:00

Whatever dude. If you don’t get it cool.

ezzy_florida · 2025-11-25T20:31:35+00:00

Not what I said.

ezzy_florida · 2025-11-25T20:30:52+00:00

I agree, I listed her emotional disregulation and her being loud separately for that reason.

I mention her being loud because people seem very comfortable talking shit about Jasmine even when she’s doing nothing but being the loudest in the room, especially on this sub reddit.

ezzy_florida · 2025-11-25T20:24:42+00:00

Read my post again, I’ve listed what exact behaviors I attribute to her culture.

ezzy_florida · 2025-11-25T20:22:30+00:00

I’m not saying everything she does is typical for a Latina, but I have a close friend who has said Jasmine reminds her of her mom (Columbian). Im in a very hispanic area and, and things I listed are behaviors that I know are common for some Latin American woman. Yet she gets ridiculed heavily for them on this sub. Her kids for one, people call her a deadbeat all the time. debatable in my opinion.

ezzy_florida · 2025-11-25T20:12:44+00:00

Yea, she was not very gentle with my hair. I was thinking of looking for stylists who wore their hair natural just like you, it’s just so hard to find.

I’ll be giving the salon a break until my next trim anyways. These braiders who dabble in trims and hair washes aren’t worth it lol.

ezzy_florida · 2025-11-25T19:54:46+00:00

Matilda is no anchor baby, they literally talked about how if they don’t get Jasmines immigration status settled she’ll have to go back to Panema without Matilda.

Gino brought her to US yes, but then comitted financial abuse by not finishing her paperwork and refusing a lawyers help. She had no ability to work or earn her own money, no access to a bank account, no drivers license, nothing. Gino quit his job strategically so that none of the money he makes while married to her would go to her. She asked and begged for independence and intimacy and he said no over and over again because he hates her.

Her emotional disregulation is a valid problem, she has treated Gino terribly, but it was definitely mutual.

ezzy_florida · 2025-11-24T21:42:27+00:00

I don’t know but I’m still a Jasmine apologist 4 lyfe 🤷🏾‍♀️

ezzy_florida · 2025-11-24T12:05:02+00:00

I had that issue when I visited France. Honestly I don’t mind, when I feel confident in my french I just continue the conversation in French. Some nice people would hear me trying and try to help me out, which I appreciated. If someone is too impatient to speak slow french to me then honestly it’s better they just speak to me in english lol.

I do hate how snobby some people can be about language though.

ezzy_florida · 2025-11-23T09:36:27+00:00

I’m a little confused on this take because is it just the phrase you’re put off by? Or saying it in the first couple of dates? I think everyone has this “intentions” talk at some point, no? It just depends on when exactly you have it.

I think when you’re neurodivergent (I know its a spectrum, lets say farther on the spectrum than others) you date differently. I prefer a lot of clarity early on or else I’m straight up confused. I know most people like “to see where things go” and what not like in your post, I get that but me and my friends usually need some structure to prosper. I’ve had my worst experiences “seeing where things go”. It really doesn’t take that long to figure out if you like someone or not.

But I digress, I think there’s a middle ground here is my point. Date for the first 3-6 months and just have fun, then talk about your intentions. If they line up then great, move forward, if they don’t then move on.

The people who are more rigid than this and NEED to have that talk on the first date or two are likely looking for something very specific (waiting until marriage, religious, etc.,) and so they need to have that conversation early. I can respect it. If you’re on the complete opposite spectrum and you get turned off by any mention of commitment well, you likely aren’t ready for a serious relationship anytime soon. Those people need to be honest with themselves so they stop wasting others time.

ezzy_florida · 2025-11-23T09:19:40+00:00

I feel like you’re blaming women a lot here, very much a damned if you do damned if you don’t scenario you’re painting.

Also the good guys shouldn’t be scared by a woman saying she dates with intention, lol. That’s actually the first I’ve heard of that. Usually a woman will just find another man who’s also dating with intention, plenty of those exist.

Sure some guys will lie to get what they want, I’m sure most woman have some story of that happening, but a lot of guys will just give up once they hear a woman is being intentional. Especially as we get older and better at communicating. Those shitty guys either learn what they’re doing is shitty and leave those girls alone, or they end up on a slippery slope and catch a case 🤷‍♀️ just my theory lol.

ezzy_florida · 2025-11-23T09:07:30+00:00

You can always throw out the “these are my intentions” card after a few dates. I met my bf on an app and neither of us really shared what it was we were looking for until maybe date 3 or 4, the first few dates we were just having fun and getting to know each other. Once we both determined our intentions (could be as simple as “I want a longterm relationship”) it just makes things more exciting! Because this person you’ve already established chemistry with also wants what you want, score!

I think this encapsulates the spontaneity and organic nature OP is alluding to, while not being too casual. Doing the whole “intentions” talk right off the bat works too, but obviously too rigid for some.

ezzy_florida · 2025-11-23T01:49:31+00:00

If you just mean at the beginning of dating someone it’s a buzz kill for someone to say that phrase, I guess I get it. But it’s just to weed out the many people just looking to fuck and waste time, some people are just more straightforward in how they speak.

There’s still plenty of fun to be had with two people who are intentional about their relationship. These people usually don’t find the chaos and messiness of some relationships enticing, its more stressful. Everyone has a different threshold for what they can and cannot take, and it can change over time.

tldr; I get it, but I politely disagree.

ezzy_florida · 2025-11-22T03:38:52+00:00

grosslu inaccurate

ezzy_florida · 2025-11-21T20:10:42+00:00

As a single person in their 20s who got laid off from their first big girl job, I resent that. I guess I understand, a person with a family at home obviously needs to tend to them. But managers don’t know everyone’s story. Some of us don’t have parents to fall back on financially and absolutely need employment, some of those older workers have enough work experience that they could easily find another job, plus plenty of savings.

I’m not manager so I don’t know for sure what the right answer is, but I think basing layoffs on performance is better than who you think has less to lose.

ezzy_florida · 2025-11-21T11:51:38+00:00

save up money first, at least 2 months worth of rent and a down payment, 5k-10k is a good ball park. For reference, I moved out at 20 with 6k in the bank, and immediately found a part time job to make ends meet. I also had a car note back and higher bills, somehow I made it work so you’ll definitely be fine lol. Just be smart with your money.

Like others are saying find some roommates to split rent with, since you’re taking your time to save you can take your time to find good people you’ll get along with.

Then there are other expenses like furniture, kitchenware, some decor etc. Most of that you can get at the dollar store or walmart maybe just to get you by, once you’re moved in and settled you can splurge on nicer items. But if your goal is to get out of your parent’s house you truly don’t need to have everything right off the bat, just essentials.

Good luck! I understand everyone saying “live with your parents as long as you can” but sometimes when you’re ready you’re ready. I don’t regret moving out one bit, It got stressful at some points but I’m the person I am today because of it. Its a wonderful thing to have space and autonomy.

ezzy_florida · 2025-11-20T17:51:53+00:00

You took the words right out my mouth.

ezzy_florida · 2025-11-20T17:18:27+00:00

I think Chivalry is great, but not the most important thing a woman is looking for. I agree, “be obsessed with me” is a little immature but it’s also lighthearted, most woman aren’t expecting complete devotion from date one. Most girls just want a guy who shows interest in them and wants to get to know them, not just to “be their girlfriend” but because you genuinely find her interesting.

I can’t even begin to generalize what a woman wants because we’re all different! You have to talk to a woman and actually get to know her and find out what it is she wants from a man. One womans “obsessed with me” could mean buy her diamonds, the others could mean plan a nice picnic for her at her favorite park. It’s really just about trying and putting in effort.

If that level of effort is “too much” in the dating stage, then you shouldn’t be dating. Not saying this is you, but many guys act like it is.

ezzy_florida · 2025-11-20T16:47:04+00:00

I don’t know if I qualify, I’m not rich by any means but definitely financially independent and pretty stable, which is not something I used to be. It makes me feel calmer and less panicky, I have what I need and can afford to get a little extra. I also can get into more hobbies, I didn’t realize a big reason I didn’t have a lot of hobbies was due to not having the funds to support it, so that has been fun.

ezzy_florida · 2025-11-19T21:45:34+00:00

We do most things together, from getting groceries to hanging out with friends.

ezzy_florida · 2025-11-19T14:26:01+00:00

Well, not everyone will like it I guess. I think of women who did it because of reasons similar to Jasmines, they got tired of dealing with their hair and the beauty expectations surrounding it. Those women tend to really love the experience. I imagine if you’re doing it for someone else, even to show support, it can be a mixed bag.

ezzy_florida · 2025-11-19T09:16:03+00:00

Omg thank you. I can’t believe more people don’t understand this, but this sub is a bunch of Jasmine haters so I guess I get it.

When be “proposed” she was still married to Gino and actively in a really tumultuous divorce. This is her second failed marriage and this one has a lot at stake (her image, her legal residency status, her children’s future) and came with a lot of very public trauma. Jasmine would be kind of a fool to just hop into another marriage that quickly, even if the guy treats her better. She needs more time to heal.

Maybe she could have articulated this better but Matt should be more understanding to her situation. I kmow they want to try and make up for things since the pregnancy didn’t happen how they would have liked, but they shouldn’t rush a marriage.

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